MinaT

I agree those being disgusted with the original OP or the fact I have talked to my husband regarding his portion size need to take a step back too.
I love my husband, but I spent the past several years eating 1/2 of what he eats and getting to 300 pounds. He loves me and wanted to help me lose weight, but by following the 1/2 rule of what he ate almost killed me. He may not be morbidly obese but his cholesterol and blood pressure is outrageously high. I don't judge what OTHERS eat, I am working on using the tools given to me by my doctor, by this process to help the two people I love and would do anything for not get to where I am.
I am not disgusted by people, I am disgusted at the amount of food they are eating, because I used to that much, I am disgusted by what I used to eat, I am disgusted that I used to eat all that food, and I never really tasted it, I shoveled it in, I am disgusted that I never gave a thought to portion size.
I am not going to keep my mouth shut when it comes to my husband and son. I don't call them names, I do stress Portion Control and truth is, they know how much I have suffered through the years, they know how much pain I have gone through and I'm lucky I have the type of relationship with my family that allows this type of free speech and they know I'm not picking on them, that I'm helping them and they are both grateful for it.
As far as what anyone else eats, that's their deal, but with the two people that I am responsible for feeding and caring for, it is my business.

I agree those being disgusted with the original OP or the fact I have talked to my husband regarding his portion size need to take a step back too.
I love my husband, but I spent the past several years eating 1/2 of what he eats and getting to 300 pounds. He loves me and wanted to help me lose weight, but by following the 1/2 rule of what he ate almost killed me. He may not be morbidly obese but his cholesterol and blood pressure is outrageously high. I don't judge what OTHERS eat, I am working on using the tools given to me by my doctor, by this process to help the two people I love and would do anything for not get to where I am.
I am not disgusted by people, I am disgusted at the amount of food they are eating, because I used to that much, I am disgusted by what I used to eat, I am disgusted that I used to eat all that food, and I never really tasted it, I shoveled it in, I am disgusted that I never gave a thought to portion size.
I am not going to keep my mouth shut when it comes to my husband and son. I don't call them names, I do stress Portion Control and truth is, they know how much I have suffered through the years, they know how much pain I have gone through and I'm lucky I have the type of relationship with my family that allows this type of free speech and they know I'm not picking on them, that I'm helping them and they are both grateful for it.
As far as what anyone else eats, that's their deal, but with the two people that I am responsible for feeding and caring for, it is my business.

7 weeks and 39 lbs down I can now:
-cross my legs
-get out of the lawn chair on my own
-tie my shoes
-go to the hairdresser (couldn't stand to look at myself in the mirror before)
-wear my daughters jeans

Believe me, I'm not proud of these feelings. I know it's wrong. Being honest about how I feel. Surprising how many different feelings and emotions this journey brings up. It was my understanding this was a safe place to share those. You who have judged me for my original post are no better.

Is it my imagination or are alot of people coming down way too hard on the OP?
Personally, I feel nothing but compassion when I see a 300 pounder at a restaurant eating a big meal. I want to slip him my surgeon's number so badly, but I don't. But at work, it's another story. My coworkers are people I know and get along with. And the guys I eat lunch with talk about nothing else but losing weight and getting back in shape. Yet, they typically eat 1000 or more calories at lunch. Keep in mind, we have a very physically demanding job and we work in the heat so a big meal is not the best thing to eat around here.
I know the calories because while they eat and talk about how healthy they are for only bringing a half piece of chocolate cake for dessert, I'm adding up their 4 pieces of fried chicken and 3 cups of rice on MFP just to see what they are eating. I don't share it with them, but I want to know because this is how I used to eat as well. The difference is, I didn't pretend I was eating healthy.
The other day my boss brought a container of oatmeal raisin Cookies to work and called it a "healthy snack". I checked the nutritional information....1 of those healthy Cookies was the same calories and carbs as 4 oreos. Wow, real healthy. These guys are kidding themselves. It's like the Tale of the Walking Wounded around here. Most of them cannot tie their shoes without passing out, and they get a serious injury checking they're email and end up on light duty for 6 weeks. Then spend all day talking about what studs they were in high school. The heck with high school, I'm 43 and I'm gonna run a 10K before I'm 44.
So I guess what I'm saying is, it's not the gluttony that irritates me....it's the denial.

So true about being done eating in just a few mins and just sitting and watching ...and waiting for others to finish. I am not proud that I feel a little yucky about how much people eat. Here is the deal- I would never say anything to anyone else about the amount of food they are eating. I know that I would still eat like that if I could. That is why I had the sleeve done. I feel like I can post my thoughts on here because there are others who understand how I feel about it. I doubt any ones thoughts are kind all of the time.

I am only almost 2 weeks out & when I was on liquids pre-op & every since I have just noticed the AMOUNT of food people eat. And I find that disgusting. Even my husband, who is very tall at 6 ft 4, and around 300 lbs eats entirely too much. I think he is mourning food since he knows once I can eat/cook "real" food our entire household is changing the way we eat. Not just me! He eats too much bread & sweets. Not much longer & that is changing. He hopes to lose weight along with me.
Robyn

It's weird how people who maybe had fingers pointing towards them in the past, now do the pointing. It might be nice to TRY to be fair and understand what these people that overeat are going through. We've all "been there, done that" and at times we've had out of control eating and/or relentless unsatiable hunger. It's one thing to see them overeating and reflect back on yourself, not see yourself in a positive light in the past and glad you had a tool to help you not be like that any longer. But we've been there, we know how overaters feel and of all people..... we should understand and see things a little how they see them.
I'll see someone like that and want to tell them (without offending them or them thinking I'm calling them fat) that there are possible tools for them out there as well and tell them how happy I am with mine. But I've rarely done that due to not knowing how they would take it. I would like to help them somehow instead of putting them down or judging them.

The hunger pains are not just the acid, but healing pains. You cut your finger and it throbs right? You stub your toe, it throbs, imagine what they did to your stomach, cutting from the top down, staples, they bougie, etc.
Mine felt like I was having extreme hunger pains, but I knew I really wasn't hungry because I would get full drinking my one ounce cups of Water after like 3 ounces.
Remember that your stomach, inside and outside is swollen and it takes about 6-8 weeks for all the swelling to go down. Mine was swollen for 8 weeks and I also had a hernia repair, so with that said, all you can do for yourself now is realize the pains you feel are not hunger, it's acid, gas, healing and when you tell yourself that, and you actually believe it, I hope the power of positive thinking, saying okay my stomach is healing, I'm not "starving" will help you get through this phase.
Many of us have been where you are, and there are so many that wishes they were were where you are now. Best of luck, I hope your healing is quick and congrats for being on this side of the sleeve.

I admit that I am shocked at how much other people eat at times and I realize I would have eaten as much. I watch my husband sometimes go for 2nds and the 2nd portion is as big as his first portion and I can see he forces it in, and I finally told him, you need to take 1/2 the portion if you are going for seconds because you are, in all honesty, eating 4 portions because our normal portion size was usually double to triple to begin with. He started paying attention to it himself now and both him and my son have lost weight.
I am also learning to cook less food and that's helped.

I admit that I am shocked at how much other people eat at times and I realize I would have eaten as much. I watch my husband sometimes go for 2nds and the 2nd portion is as big as his first portion and I can see he forces it in, and I finally told him, you need to take 1/2 the portion if you are going for seconds because you are, in all honesty, eating 4 portions because our normal portion size was usually double to triple to begin with. He started paying attention to it himself now and both him and my son have lost weight.
I am also learning to cook less food and that's helped.

I had a grilled chicken leg and lots of Water at the last fair I went to. I was stuffed and everyone around me was eating all that above food, but I was able to dance and dance and dance while they all were looking pekish

I notice how much others eat and am often amazed but I also know that without my sleeve I would be right there with them!

The hubby and I went to the fair yesterday and what was everywhere at the fair (besides carnies)…yummy irresistible fair food!! They had deep fried everything (Dodger dogs, oreos, cheesecake, snickers, pop tarts, ribs, avocados, PB & J sandwiches, girl scout Cookies, twinkies, bacon, krispy kreme burgers, Cereal, smores, Kool-Aid, and even a deep fried Klondike bar! They had other delicious fair food like bacon wrapped turkey legs, a 2 lb rib and a 2 lb burger, sausage and peppers, fried chicken, chili cheese curly fries, gooey pizza, even chocolate covered bacon!

The hubby (who will not get his sleeve until next year) opted for the huge nest of chili cheese curly fries with jalapenos and ranch. What did I get? Grilled shrimp and rice served in a half pineapple with pineapple chunks…and I didn’t touch the rice or the side of butter that came with it!!! WHAT?!! And for dinner I had shrimp ceviche!! Who is this person that I have become?!! In the past I would’ve had to sample soo much of this food, but now I spend 10 hours at the fair and am still under 700 calories for the day!! I ate my light food and had tons of energy while my poor hubby was walking around full as a tick and miserable from those fries. I even lost a pound this morning from all the walking! I was truly amazed!

I went into the fair putting no rules on myself (other than what I am not allowed to eat yet for safety reasons with the sleeve). I thought… its one day at the fair I will let myself indulge…but none of it sounded worth it anymore! Although, I do have to confess I wasn’t a perfect angel… I did take a small bite of the chocolate covered bacon just to see what the heck that tasted like. It was actually pretty good but I had a little bite and that’s all I wanted (and I included that bite into my calories on my fitness pal lol).

I was sitting at the horse races and my husband had gone to get his food. When he walked back and had the gigantic nest of chili cheese curly fries I was like that is crazy looking. But then he took off to get napkins and left it sitting next to me in the grandstand and I felt bad because I was embarrassed to have it sitting next to me. I scooted it to where it would be on his other side when he came back. IS that bad? I felt silly for feeling like that. The good thing is that after I ate my little portion of shrimp ceviche my hubby decided not to eat dinner there because it wasn’t worth it! I was secretly very happy for him! We both can't wait until he is sleeved too, but I'm so happy for him when he makes good choices for himself even without the fantastic tool I have!

thanks for the support and advice all! I started today, I am tracking my food, goal is 1000 calories a day, less than 70 grams of carbs and no junk food. Soda is not an issue. I switched my green tea to Decaf, I am giving up my night time coffee (I usually drink 20 oz in am and 20 oz in the eve) going to wait a week and then start weaning myself off the morning coffee..sheesh I have drank that for over 30 years..i am sure just switching the tea and giving up the night time fix is going to mean headaches for a few days...i am so glad I already stopped smoking a few
years ago.
I can do this, I must do this, I will do this!

If you are hungry when your sleeve is full, either you are a physical anomaly or it's head hunger......the latter being far more likely. Many people want to deny head hunger but it's difficult, if not impossible, to tell the difference. The only way to tell the difference is using your reasoning skills....the sleeve is full so real hunger cannot exist. Again, I know there may be a very few physical anomalies out there whose synapses don't fire correctly, but for the great majority of people it's head hunger.
The good news is, after you start eating full foods again the head hunger dies down in most sleeve patients if you're eating right (protein first, low sugar, low starches).

I am 1 week out. When I had Breakfast today I decided on yogurt. There is NO way I can finish an entire container. So I save 1/2 of it for lunch or for tomorrow. I definately feel full and not at all hungry when I am done.
Yesterday I did not feel hungry at all and had to remind myself to get my Protein in!
Such a great feeling!!!!!

First off, most of us do not experience hunger like we did before. When hey reduce the size of your stomach the remove most of the portion that produces the hormone that causes hunger(ghrelin).
We eat more on a schedule than on a "hunger" trigger. Also in the earlier phases it is also very important to portion your meals because your stomach will be nimb for the most part & it is easy to over eat.
The feeling of fullness is definately different instead of a swollen plated feeling you will feel a pressure against your esophagus. Again, Portion Control should keep this from happening. Our goal is to nourish our bodies, not to fill our tummies.
Hope that helps, if not, restate your question and I'll try again
P.S. ghrelin only disappears for a period of time, it will return in much smaller amounts.

You have no choice but to let go of the emotional eating now. You went through six months of mandatory classes, did he give you a guideline to follow during that time?
If I was you I would work on charting your food, sign up for myfitnesspal.com if you haven't, start having a Protein Shake (gnc sells them, Target, walmart) make sure they 100% whey Protein, eat your Protein first, get rid of the carbs now.
If you wait until you are to the pre-op shake (if you have to do this) you will have a hard time because you are probably on carb overload right now. It's time now to wean from the carbs, wean from the caffeine, wean from the carbonation.
Waiting until surgery to work on your issues, is not beneficial because you will have a new host of challenges and the emotional eating is something you need to work on now.
Starting a walking regemine now to release your stress.
On my fitness pal try getting your calories down to 800-900 - get 80 grams of protein and lower your carbs between 30-70 and you should be able to lose 10 BEFORE surgery. Drink your 64 ounces of Water and try to get 1/2 hour exercise a day.
I followed this plan during the 6 months pre-approval phase and lost 10 pounds each month and then lost 10 pounds during the 2 week shake pre-op.
During the psych eval they should have gone over the issues you have with emotional eating. If you think you are still having issues maybe you can get into someone and speak with them about those issues.
Having the surgery brings a host of new things and if you can start working on these things prior to surgery it will definitely help. Imagine the stress if you gain weight and the doctor then denies you.
I promise you, if you work on this stuff now and for those that are just reading, if you are just starting out, use the six months wisely because in the end it's definitely worth it!
Best of luck to you. If you need any support or help with myfitnesspal.com or meal ideas, please don't hesitate to ask.

I think as time goes on, if you are losing and building muscle, many people will get hungry sooner after eating, let's say 2 or 3 hours after eating, that's normal and that's due to an increased metabolism, which is completely and utterly normal.
When you get sleeved for the first week or two, there are those that complain about "hunger pains". I had them myself, but those were not hunger pains. Those are acid, and healing pains. Cut your finger, stub your toe, it throbs, well your stomach was cut from the bottom to the top and it's swollen inside and out and of course it throbs too, which is identical to old - real hunger pains. If you realize it's healing pains and the gurgling and the moving is just healing pains or acid or gas, you get through it quite easily.
I still think a lot of the hunger people are having is head hunger. I am eating my Protein first, as I am told and then I have some salad or vegetables sitting there and I get full and I don't get a chance to eat them, and mentally sometimes I feel a bit cheated about an hour later and as the night progresses I think about those delicious vegetables and feeling a little ripped off at times.
If I feel hungry about 2 or 3 hours after eating, I have a 1/2 cup of milk and that usually does me, or I will have one teaspoon of Peanut Butter on a Breton Original Cracker (lower carbs) and I'm done and I feel like I got a delicious snack.
I am learning to take at least one bite of my vegetable now, just in case, the Protein does me in.
Half the battle to me is perception and how you look at it and how vested you are in this process, that's the way it seems to me. It takes will power, dedication and it takes a positive attitude, without it, it makes will power and dedication so much harder.
Good luck to you.

One quick note. Someone on here was saying that Protein Shots are not good because they are made of collagen Protein instead of whey and that your body does not digest them the same way. So have to agree that you probably need some dense meat instead. Just a thought.

Many Dr's require different pre op diets. I was allowed to have Protein shakes 4-5 x a day. It is good to have a variety! I got tired of the sweet stuff so I got the powders?utm_source=BariatricPal&utm_medium=Affiliate&utm_campaign=CommentLink" target="_ad" data-id="1" >unjury chicken Soup and it was great when mixed with broth. I would also do broth for a change.
I drank a lot of Water, Sobe Water, tea, apple juice, cranberry juice
Good luck! It is much easier than I thought it would be and goes by very quickly!

Thank you so much for your reply. You're right, I have to remember that it was a major trauma that my body has gone through but sometimes it's so easy to forget when the trauma done is inside your body where you can't see it. I am going to let my body heal, and try to keep reminding myself that this is part of the journey. Sometimes, I still can't believe I actually went through with the procedure and I'm sleeved!