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Joiebean - I went through something similar with my 1st husband. The lost interest in each other, the feeling of being unfulfilled, etc. We had 2 young daughters, and I did everything for them and my husband, and my family, and my co-workers, and, and, and. Never anything for myself. What I would suggest is that first and foremost you keep those appointments with the Dr. and the therapist. See what they have to say. If there's no physical reason for what's going on, seek therapy/counselling. Do this first and foremost for yourself. At some point, your therapist may want you and your hubby to seek marital counselling. My 1st hubby refused. He said there was nothing wrong with him. Needless to say, in the end, our marriage failed -- not that yours is -- just what happened to us. Both of us eneded up not trying anymore. Having a child will either help improve your relationship with your hubby IF you already have a good relationship OR put additional negative stress on your relationship with your hubby IF you have an already stressful relationship. I truly hope that this is something that will pass and that you can find the source and take the reins of your own happiness. Hugs.

Happy Birthday desert19! I turned 50 just 18 days prior to my surgery. Having someone notice the weight loss is really exciting!! Congratulations.

Congrats on your NSV's! I'm so glad that your doing so well!!

That's just totally awesome! Congrats!!!!

Congratulations! Absolutely beautiful!!!!

Our church has a Food Bank that is open once a month. As the Director of the Food Bank, it's my responsibility to ensure there is enough food to provide several day's worth of meals for those who come in. Normally, we are able to receive food from a non-profit organization that provides about 50% of our food for free, however, this month, they were booked solid and were not able to assist. So i spent all day yesterday out shopping for food, and putting it in the Food Bank. Thankfully, I had a friend who went with me to help. What i wasn't really paying attention to was how very little I ate, and also how many pounds of food that I handled. Putting food in the cart, placing it on the check-out belt, then sacking it, then taking it to the truck, then taking it out of the truck, and then carrying into the Food Bank, then placing it on the shelves. It is such a tremendous blessing to be able to be involved in this ministry, that I just wasn't really paying a lot of attention to what I was doing physically, as well as the amount of food I was consuming. For my food yesterday, my intake was a cup of coffee, a slim-fast shake, a few bites of refried beans, a few bites of chicken fajita meat, and that was it!! I don't know why I didn't think more abut eating. I just wasn't hungry, and I was having such a great time being able to purchase food for those in need, that I just didn't THINK! So when I got up this morning, I felt really bad. No energy, sore and achy. I decided to step on the scale, and I had lost 1.2lbs since yesterday! I don't think it's a good idea to lose that much in one day - and I would strongly recommend that no one else do it. I can tell you that it sure as heck doesn't feel good. Even though today is my 4 week "Surgiversary", I have learned that I'm not as far along the healing journey as I thought I was. I am not invincible (although some days I feel it), and that I need to pay closer attention to what I'm doing, and what I'm eating. Lesson Learned!

UK Cath - so glad to hear from you. I'm so happy that you're doing well, and that things are going good! Keep us posted on your progress.

I had the band in 2007, and my revision was done 3/22 -- all in one surgery. I understand where you're coming from! I experienced getting stuck on an almost daily basis, and could never find the "sweet spot" on the band. My surgeon said that there was a "massive" amount of scar tissue, but he (along with another surgeon) were able to get it all. I am feeling great and haven't had a problem with getting stuck since! Best thing I've ever done!!

Just an update: I had my revision on 3/22 and I have to say it was the best thing I've done in a long, long time! It was done in one surgery and lasted only 2.5 hours -- and he was able to do it lapriscopically! I am so happy with my sleeve! No more getting stuck, no more sliming! I am on the "soft/mushy" phase, but so far it's been well worth it!

The pain in your back is probably gas. It sometimes takes several weeks to go away. The pain in your diaphragm is probably because your eating/drinking too fast. Also, I felt great for the first 2 weeks, and then suddenly started having sharp pains on the left side of my belly. Found out is was the nerve endings starting to "wake" back up. It went away after about 3 days.

So you ate mashed potatoes, and thankfully, nothing has happened. That's really good, but from here on out, stick with your post op. It would be a real shame to have complications after having worked so hard, and been through so much to get to this point. Talk with your doctor to get more suggestions on what you can have, and make sure you finish healing. I've seen others on the board talk about major complications when they skipped ahead on their eating plans, and I would hate to see you going through the same pain and suffering that they have. Good luck!

I had my band done 01/07, and lost around 50+ lbs, but by September 2007 I began to have issues. I struggled with each and every meal, not a day went by that I didn't get "stuck" and had to run to the restroom to throw it all back up. Junk food became my only way to eat. For almost 4 years I saw numerous band doctors trying to get help. No one could help me get adjusted properly, and finally just about everyone around me (family included) began to tell me it was all in my head. I constantly heard, "If you could just . . . . ", and "Why don't you ....." All this from folks who had no clue what I dealt with on a daily basis. I had my revision on 3/22/12, by Dr. Kaler, here in Hot Springs, AR. He told me that he felt that he could do the revision in 1 surgery, but that he couldn't guarantee it. He stated that once he got in, if he felt it wasn't possible, then he would have to "open me up". I told him that was fine, I just wanted the band out. Thankfully, he WAS able to do it in one surgery, laproscopically, and I have been thankful every day! Although the doctor told me that I had an enormous amount of scar tissue around the band, he was still able to remove 85% of my stomach, with no issues. I am still on my "soft mushy" phase for another 2 weeks, but I am eating healthier than I have for the last 5 years, and not had a single issues of getting stuck, having the slimes, or throwing up! When I got my band, I will admit that I had a few concerns, and wasn't sure if it was the right thing to do at the time, but I got caught up in all the hype - I lived in Dallas at the time and 12 of my co-workers had the same surgery done. Today, out of the 12, only 1 has lost all their weight and kept it off. At least 3 of them have had the revision, and the other 8 are still suffering. My decision for the revision was my own, with no input from anyone other than my DH, who was supportive and just wanted me to be happy. Best of luck in your search, and I hope that you find all the information you need to make the best decision for you. The other thing that I am thankful for, is that I no longer have a foreign object inside of me.

Glad to hear that your okay!

Saturday, my DH and I hooked up our trailer, loaded our zero-turn mower, and headed to the church. I mowed while he did the weed-eating, and picked up trash around the property. Afterwards, I couldn't stop talking! I had the most energy that I've had in a month, and I think because of being outside, and the physical activity, it got some endorphins bouncing around inside. He was laughing because he said he hadn't seen me this "pumped up" in a while, and he was glad to see it. - He always knows what to say, and that's why he's a happily married man -- go ahead and ask him Today, Sunday, church was wonderful, and after we got home, we both laid back and chilled. That is until the storm was blowing in. So it was a quick run out to the barn to put up all the animals, when suddenly the 70mph winds hit. Thankfully we had just gotten everyone inside, so we hung out with the chickens, goats, and ducks, until the unbelievable downpour slowed enough. I guess this means that I'm going to have to mow our yard this week. Thankfully, I am up to the task! My energy level is better than ever, and I'm really looking forward to what this next week brings.

Getting ready for church this morning, and one of the pantsuits I normally wear (size 24), was WAY too big. I couldn't believe it! I found an outfit that was 2 sizes smaller (size 20) . . . . and it fight perfectly! I just about fainted!!! Only 3 weeks post-op!

I am 2 weeks post-op today (yayyy), and I tried some Greek yogurt for the first time today - OIKOS Organic Greek yogurt (vanilla). I have to say that it's about the worst tasting yogurt I've ever had! I know that it's a healthier option for me (15g of protein in one serving), so I'm wondering which one is your favorite? Or if you have any suggestions on how I can improve the flavor.

Oh My! I hadn't heard a thing about the B12 . . . I've just been taking chewable Calcium, chewable multi and a iron tablet at night . . . Thank goodness I still have some sub-lingual B12 . . . excuse me while I go take one.

Another thing, have you found the "May 2012 Sleevers" forum group yet? You can get a LOT of support from there and follow along with other "Sleevers" that have surgery the same time you do. Just go to Monthly Gastric Sleeve Support, look for "2012" and then scroll down to find your month. That's where I've found the greatest cheerleaders and support for me.

I remember the days when my girls were young and each weekend was filled with Softball and band practice. Sometimes I miss those days, and sometimes I'm just thankful I survived them

Sounds like fun!

I am so glad you're feeling better! Keep it up and each day will get better and better!

Congrats on your success! Such an inspiration!!!