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There is another post with same subject, sorry don't remember which one it is research research research! I found out so much after the fact (and I lived on this site) . Make sure all your questions are answered. start taking Calcium , so the hair loss isn't as bad. ( I was taking a daily vitamin) but it is recommended to take calcium tablets. (this is for some, not all suffer hair loss) and it will grow back. Good luck~

Thats great, just don't forget to give yourself more time to get to bathroom, first few times for me , I almost didn't make it to bathroom , my hands fumbling at my pants buttons like it was a fire I was trying to put out!, now as soon as I get an urge, I head to the bathroom, Keep going!

my cousin's boss is like that, every guy she sees "wants her". I woulld say say it comes from the self doubt they have had all their lives and yes trying to catch up. i told hubby same thing, if I start acting like that, set me straight.

Speaking for myself, when I got the lapband I thought I knew what was going to happen, how I was going to feel, but right now being banded, 16 weeks, my minds is still unsure, its a clash, our fantasy meeting reality and there's areas that are not meshing. My hubby and I bless him, communicate very well, right now we don't seem to be in sync moodwise, but its ok. Marriage is not based soley on sex, its based on the love you have for the person you chose to call your partner for life. We make each other laugh, n smile, we can sit in silence and not feel we have to fill in the silence. and we're ok with that too. If I never had sex again, we would be fine, because my husband is my friend as well,anyways I agree , counseling, single and as a couple seems to be needed. Good luck!

our bodies are feeling defenseless food used to be our weapon and now we are open, and our minds will make us feel so different. I'm that way still after 15 weeks post band. Its a weekly thing, one week is good, one week is bad and all we can do is muddle through it. Don't sabatoge the work we have done, its so easy to fall back into those easy eating habits we don't even realize it. You are NOT ALONE.

Those charts aren't for everyone, foremost, I got the band to get healthier, I'm 5'1 and 235 when I would get a cortisone shot for allergies (makes you gain weight, that's my excuse) so I looked like a brown oompa lumpa. My health was horrible. I had no choice but listen to my body , I would tell myself tomorrow I'll exercise, tomorrow, I'll go for a walk but I never did. , Now I'm down to 170 and probably less, (we put scale away). Looking at the chart I should weigh 130+ but that is too small. I'm more concerned about being healthy and I've started that road. It was never about looking good, looking sexy. I have co-workers that tell me I should be wearing tighter clothes. Why I didn't before. I'm wearing smaller clothes. Healthy healthy, , wishing you good luck!

I have to slow down and stop eating at my desk!

welcome, you made the best choice, this is the best site you will ever find,to have any and I mean ANY question you may have answered before during and after. Everyone had the nerves the uncertainties, same reasons for having lapband done, thats why there is SO MUCH support here. I wish you well!

very true, what's one fat free pudding why not two? I can't eat a cinnabun but I can have a cinnashake. (mall food place that sells huge cinnamin buns fresh made) hamburger, I only ate the bottom piece of bread, I did cut it in half but ate the other half at home. yes eating out of bordom. It's easy enough to tell hubby that when he's opening cupboards looking for that late night snack , but I have to remember as well. It's so easy to slip right back into the easier habits of eating. I have to learn to put the fork down inside of shovel food in like someone is gonna take it from me, I eat the right amount, just not the right speed. I talked to another bandster I know and we were talking, and she said after awhile "it's not even about looking good right now" and its true, for me and her, we are so busy trying to stay on the bandster wagon, we don't realize we are the ones driving sometimes. good luck to all of us. I gots to get back in the drivers' seat!

I was taking estroven before surgery and it seemed to help like a dummy I threw them away because I didn't have them any more until starting thursday night, horrible, my body jerks awake and I have to :dose" myself with a piece of xanax , tylenol and a cold cloth.. It keeps going in the morning until I've had a cool shower and started my medicines again .

well done, I hope I'm as successful as you!

thank you for putting in to words again, how people need to open their eyes to weight loss and obesity, I hate the word morbid, makes me feel like I should be in a black gown the bottom dragging.. with white face paint on, looking like death. or so fat that there's a string tied to my foot because Im so round and fat I'm floating like a balloon. We didn't chose to be heavy. It happened. While I never got stuck in anything, being only 5 feet tall, the extra weight I carried did make me look round. The extra weight was not heathy. You can excercise did you drop, eat lightly but without the proper guidance that we need we are going in circles. I've been lucky to have the same m.d since I was 24. He knows my hypochondriacic ways, and knows what I need to hear. I will be alright, I will be healthy again, and sometimes just hearing it makes a world of difference. I don't need to have my hand held, I just need to have you point me in the right direction. The one thing I do remember, is going in for a cat-scan and the nurse handed me 2 gowns , saying oh you might need this. I didn't but I still put it on.. I can tell too when someone is making a comment about (or was) you feel their looks, the sense of shame and quick tears we try to hide , laugh it off, we don't hurt any less than anyone else. There's no need to defend ourselves to these people, I tell myself Karma baby karma) and go on my way. good luck to all

if dr not available talk to nurse! You need to keep your protein steady and up otherwise, you will be weak and it will be harder to get your journey started.

I was told by doctor that body is used to sleeping 7-8 hours , so if you go to sleep early its going to wake up early. She said stay up as late as you can, and you should be getting up a little later and no tv/radio. It works for me when I remember to turn tv off.

that's aweful for medical staff to say stuff like that, they don't realize many times how their words affect patients, you have to be your own health advocate, and you can complain, they could of said it in a different way. contact hospital compliance officer. this is the person that makes sure everything is being done to standards.

I agree it's all about the dedication you put into working with the lapband. Once you have it the weight isn''t going to just fall off, it's learning and sticking to new eating habits, exercise, better food choices. There will be good days and bad.. its a lifelong journey, one you need to be prepared to make. I have had my band in since january and still don't have a fill and still losing weight., everyone is different, don't every compare yourself to anyone else. Good Luck

I know I had looked at that with my insurance before, unless it's medically neede (the removal) it would be out of pocket for me if I wanted to have it removed. There's days I do and then theres days I'm happy with my weight loss. Hubby said we'll see in a year how things are, who know's in ayear I won't even think about it anymore. good luck!

I understand and have been where you are at, and it was hurtful at first, but then after dwelling on it, and looking at the problem, I figured out sometimes people treat us a certain way because that's how we treat ourselves. Don't worry about them, if you are feeling good about yourself stay feeling good, let it show!

Wow, I got banded in January 2012 too, I have had opportunities to get fills but in agreement with hubby who has been my rock we have opted not to get any fills yet. Losing the weight I have lost has been all me (with help from the lapband of course!) I get chest pains when I eat too fast or too big of bites. Not understanding, though, it said you had lapband removed, but you are going to have fill removed? so you still have it? I'd be interested in knowing what you find out, thank you!

don't let no one make you feel guilty, or that you made the wrong choice, we are the only ones that know what we feel, our health.

I've been eating greek yogurt with fruit, the peach yogurt with a cup of peach bits, and cottage cheese with mandarin orange bits (think I've overdone the oranges) great snack!

b:chocolate whey Protein shake with 1/2 nanner l: potato enchilada sk: a delicious juicy orange!! didnt eat lot of the skin but man it was good. my boddy must of been craving it. d: bite of chicken, 2 jalepeno poppers, cashew broccoli salad, cottage cheese sk: low fat vanilla pudding and Im really trying to drink Water... or at least more

It's not good to weigh everyday, our bodies are changing everyday, with exercise, foods, water intake. I know i was overdoing the scale in am/evening so the following day I wouldn't eat!! Finally we decided to just put scale away, so I wasn't worried about weight and eating and I still lost 3 lbs.

remind him you were helping him pick up his stuff before surgery and no problem then..

they are called bleeders,( thats what my dr calls them) my nose gets like that because my nose canals get so dry. it can be scary. I have a jar of pet jelly in my desk and at home to get nostrils moist. havent had surgery yet.