LacieMC

Just ignore it. Im 5 months out and i love it when I get dressed in the mornings. Every person in my life told me i was bat $#!% crazy. I went into my surgery expecting a crappy place and i made that my reality. I have had zero complications and i have never felt better about me. Who cares if they support you or not! My parents wouldn't even say good bye...now they are my number one fan. Its their fear...dont allow it to become yours. My hubby was the same way. He withdrew...as if expecting i would not make it home. He was pissed i made this decision, he is not pissed anymore LOL!
At work, i tell people ive been exercising and limiting my portions. That gets respect. Anything else...and its like a free pass for normally intelligent people to let their stupid come out.
Hang in their and do me a favor...its rather cheesy...but go to YouTube and listen to miley cirus's song "the climb"...then again...and again.make it your "I'm pretty impressed with my self" song. You got this!

I was sleeved Jan 17th and just hit 80 pounds...20 more until goal...but i feel really good at a size 8/10. Not sure how much more i want to lose.

Thank you all so much for each of your opinions and advice. I didn't expect such a huge response. I jog alot and have put on a considerable amount of muscle that way, but I don't lift weights. I am allergic to gyms...sooo...I havn't joined one. I tried a gym with a friend who advised me to "Omg..Try Spinning...It's A-Mazing" and the next morning it felt like I broke my vagina. I couldn't sit down for dang near three days. I tried Curves but the women in my neighborhood are serious oversharers and I ended each 30 min session wanting to punch people in the face. This is why I jog.
I think I am going to work for 10 more pounds...meet in the middle like some of you suggested. That way I won't feel like I am quitting, and then I will follow the rest of your advice and accept my body. It's sooo hard though because I am so tired of my doctor's telling me I am overweight. Today I lost it in the car- I just started crying, and I usually don't cry. I saw my Lady Doctor for Lady stuff and I heard it again. I got used to hearing it from the NUT, so much that I expected it, but from my lady doctor? It felt like the old days again...even the dentist told me I needed to lose weight before surgery.After my apt today I just felt like I will never be healthy enough. I thought I was past the stupid "you need to lose some weight" lectures. Now that I am over my pity party I would like to say Thanks so much and I truely appreciate your honest feedback.
I will never stop this lifestyle. I signed up for my first 5K on Sept 2nd. I'm training right now and just bought my first pair of race shoes - Neon Pink!!! I will post a pic after the race. I will increase my calories as suggested and add one more day of jogging, but I will not work out 6 days a week. That is just "nazi" as one of you said. Again...you all are the best. Thanks again!

Thank you all so much for each of your opinions and advice. I didn't expect such a huge response. I jog alot and have put on a considerable amount of muscle that way, but I don't lift weights. I am allergic to gyms...sooo...I havn't joined one. I tried a gym with a friend who advised me to "Omg..Try Spinning...It's A-Mazing" and the next morning it felt like I broke my vagina. I couldn't sit down for dang near three days. I tried Curves but the women in my neighborhood are serious oversharers and I ended each 30 min session wanting to punch people in the face. This is why I jog.
I think I am going to work for 10 more pounds...meet in the middle like some of you suggested. That way I won't feel like I am quitting, and then I will follow the rest of your advice and accept my body. It's sooo hard though because I am so tired of my doctor's telling me I am overweight. Today I lost it in the car- I just started crying, and I usually don't cry. I saw my Lady Doctor for Lady stuff and I heard it again. I got used to hearing it from the NUT, so much that I expected it, but from my lady doctor? It felt like the old days again...even the dentist told me I needed to lose weight before surgery.After my apt today I just felt like I will never be healthy enough. I thought I was past the stupid "you need to lose some weight" lectures. Now that I am over my pity party I would like to say Thanks so much and I truely appreciate your honest feedback.
I will never stop this lifestyle. I signed up for my first 5K on Sept 2nd. I'm training right now and just bought my first pair of race shoes - Neon Pink!!! I will post a pic after the race. I will increase my calories as suggested and add one more day of jogging, but I will not work out 6 days a week. That is just "nazi" as one of you said. Again...you all are the best. Thanks again!

I was sleeved Jan 17th and just hit 80 pounds...20 more until goal...but i feel really good at a size 8/10. Not sure how much more i want to lose.

Instead of focusing on the number, focus on body fat percentage. That is my plan, more muscle...less fat.
According to the BMI chart I should be about 150 for normal (im 5'6 as well). Last year I worked out with a trainer and he measured my body fat with a machine. He said my ideal weight should be 170. The trainer said ideally he wanted me to put on a good 7-10 lbs of muscle

Lacie you look fabulous and what with the do it in 6 months who say you keep doing what your doing and in 1 year youll lost 10 more pounds if you feel good and are comfortable blow off the BMI chart remember those are goverment recommindations that should give you a clue congrats on your success

Hey Lacie,
Your post resonated with me. I currently am at 169.5 (woo hoo), the smallest EVER. But girl, shoot I wish I was a size 8. You rock!
My highest was 254 lbs, I was sleeved 5 months ago on 8/5. I went to see a psychiatrist recently as he has a bariatric support group. He asked me this question "if I had a magic wand and could wave it over you... what would it do?" Like what's your heart's wish or wishes?
Mine had nothing more to do with weight. The heart's desire can't be met from weight or losing it, it doesn't entirely equate happiness. The point? Yeah I want to get to 150 but if I live where I'm at, honestly? I'm ok with it. I am a size 12 now and that's the smallest I've ever been (ok personal goal still would be to get to my "dream" size of an 8, but do I think I'll live there? no... but.... IDK).
The point of my rambling post is this - are you happy? If so, then revel in it and enjoy it. If you want to lose 10 more lbs., do so. But don't hang onto the scale like before. Yes, be mindful, keep good habits (i.e. Water, Protein, logging your food, weighing once a week, exercising, finding new recipes, challenging yourself physically, etc) but just enjoy LIVING life. You look fabulous!
Best to you!
ps and btw, I've lost 85 lbs. and am "only" at a size 12. To some, I'm sure that's "still" too big, but whatever. It's not about them.

Go to YouTube and search for vsgtanya2011 and watch her week 36 video. You might see some of yourself in it (FYI she's 5'7")

That's pretty crazy to think that a size 8 is too big, really???
I think you look fantastic, and you have so much to be proud of!

I was worried about being honest until I read this post. I skipped straight to what I thought was the after pic (3rd pic) and I was like huh lol. Then I looke at the 1st pic and realized that more than likely the 1st pic was the after pic and you look FABULOUS! I think you will ultimately have to decide whether or not you want to keep going but you look AMAZING.

You look amazing! If you feel comfortable please don't let anyone else get in your head and try to tell you that you aren't where you should be. You know your body better than any doctor or specialist. Also, you have lost EIGHTY pounds! That is a fantastic accomplishment and an amazing success. Do not let anything make you feel like a failure. I'm proud of you and you should be too!

To be honest Lacie, I'm really kinda torn here. My first instinct is to say 170+- does sound a bit on the high side for a lady at 5'6". But after seeing your pic I really gotta say that you look good.
Either way, looking where you've come from, there is no way in he!! that you should consider yourself a failure. You've come so far, and even if you decided to simply maintain what you've already done, you are so much better off than you were. I know I'm not being much help here. I really do believe 150 @ 5'6" is very attainable, but if you are comfortable in your skin right now, that's what really matters.

I swear your old body and mine could be body doubles. I can't wait to be where you are. I am getting sleeved this weekend.
I obviously haven't been through the eating, etc. post sleeve but even though you look stunning I'd probably go for the extra pounds. My reason for thinking that (like you) I quit at every diet/lifestyle change I've ever attempted. Once you stop trying to loose weight you will probably put back on a little. If you are a little lower to begin with it allows for a little increase. Maybe just enough to get you closer to the edge of not being overweight.
I definately wouldn't loose much more because you look healthy and happy. (so does he)
Also, my PCP advised to watch the scale weekly and allow for normal fluxes of 5 lbs. If you gain 5 lbs work to lose it before it becomes 10. (If he had only told me that wisdom 70 lbs ago)
I should add...you definately didn't fail so if you decide to stick where you're at you should be ecstatic and you deserve it.!

Hi, you look amazing to me. the number 22 to 8 sound unbelievable to me. But base on your weight and height I would go to 160lb. so 10 more lbs.
Again this is only my opinion because I has the same height as you are ( but more weight) and I think that 160 is the biggest number I want to loose. If I can do it to 148 It would be IDEAL.

Lacie,
Before I had my surgery I followed a woman's 2 year video log on YouTube and one of the last posts I watched was when she said, "Don't set a goal number!" She was speaking from experience. She said to make a list of what would "make" this surgery be a success (off meds, happy, etc.). She said this way no scale and no number gets to dictate if you are a success or failure.
Last month, my WLS support group coordinator brought in a plastic surgeon and he spent a great deal of time talking about the stupid BMI calculator. He said, after about a year post surgery re-evaluate yourself to determine if you FEEL like you've met your goal.
I'm "19" pounds from my "goal" weight, but I'm just waiting to see what my body is going to do. I'm personally choosing to follow the advice of these sources. It sounds to me like you need permission to trust yourself - so (tongue in cheek) I'll grant it for you! You look fantastic! You'll know when you are at goal!!
Good luck to you!

I hate those bmi/weight charts! I find it interesting my surgeon did a bone density exam. I guess to help determine my "ideal" weight. I just can't believe we are all meant to fit between certain numbers. If you are comfortable, healthy, and I can't imagine trying to get to a certain weight because it is on a chart. I think this is where doc's miss the boat. Trying to lump us in group.
BTW: you look great!!!

"I feel thin and beautiful and love wearing new clothes.". Isn't this part of the reason why we have surgery (plus good health of course)? To get to the point where you love yourself again tells me you need to revise your goal and be so proud of your success. I think you look amazing. A size 12 is now considered average so an 8 means you are smaller than most of the general population. I understand feeling disappointed because you didn't reach a certain number, but I say you revise it, keep doing what you are doing and when ounces or pounds drop off here and there, consider it bonus weight. Congrats on all of your success!

You look awesome!! If you are comfortable, and feel good and happy and healthy that's all that matters. Don't beat yourself up over it, and u are not a failure. You havs had a awesome weight loss and look great. Doctors don't know everything

Ummmm for one, you look amazing! I'd kill to have your height/weight proportion. Yeah you're "overweight"...your BMI is like 2 points over being "normal"....I'd say if you're comfortable where you are, then don't stress yourself out about losing anymore weight. I mean, of course don't completely lose all self control...but don't be a nazi about it either.

You have done an amazing job already, you look amazing and most importantly healthy and happy!! I do think you should attempt to meet your personal goal just to show yourself that you can do it, and if you decide ten pounds from now that's enough and you don't want to lose 20 okay but at least you won't feel like you failed and didn't attempt to meet your goal. Congrats on being healthier and happier.

I was sleeved Jan 17th and just hit 80 pounds...20 more until goal...but i feel really good at a size 8/10. Not sure how much more i want to lose.

I will swing by Trader Joe's tomorrow! I have not had a hot dog with mustard in almost 7 months!!! Sounds amazing!

That was beautiful and well written- i think you captured how each one of us feels about our old lives. Thank you!

That was beautiful and well written- i think you captured how each one of us feels about our old lives. Thank you!