Vixkey

It took me about a month or so to finally get called for approval ...after i was approved I had to take a class and I need some blood work again and a chest x-ray b4 my big day its on Aug.28....don't worry tho it'll come b4 u know it.....

Breaking up is never easy to do' date=' it is going to hurt no matter how good or bad the relationship is. But sometimes you have to make the best decision for yourself and the other person involved, even if that means going through the pain for a little while.

Someone above posted that if you have to ask yourself whether that person is the one or not, they aren't, and I totally agree. I have been with my husband for over 13 years, married for 9 of those years. I love him more now than I did in the beginning. I can tell you that I never look at him disgusted or can't stand being around him. Things are not always perfect, no relationship is without its ups and downs. But after 5 years if you do not know still, it is not the right relationship for you.

You did the right thing. You might need to tell him to stop sending you messages. If not, change your number. Him constantly trying to get back together is not going to make things easy and is only going to make you feel guilty. A therapist once told my brother (he can not let go of relationships and keeps hounding ex-girlfriends) that constantly pressuring the other person about getting back together is a form of abuse, and I think it is true. He is insecure and knows that he can't control you anymore, and it is driving him crazy. Hang in there, it will get better. You are going to need to cut ties and heal though for it to happen. You are starting a new chapter in your life in a number of ways. Embrace the new person you are growing into and the new life that you are starting![/quote']

Thank you so much I agree with everything you say ....it we ill take time but I kno it is for the best

Best of luck you'll be in my prayers tonight...

oh yea buy the clearance/cheaper clothing not like the plus size always expensive

THANK YOU ALL!! I broke up with my BF today and Idk how i feel if im happy sad upset or maybe it just seems unreal still so idk i need to give it sometime so it can sink in and marinade but i do feel re-leaf but at the same time it almost feels like were not broken up and its still the same.....he keeps texting me nothing but love text's and i really just want a break i want to be away from him and find myself i been in a relationship for soooo long and i just dont want a partner im growing up and trying to find myself and become the woman im supposed to become and having someone on my side wont let me.....ugh why is this so hard!!!!

I AM SO SORRY i know it doesn't help but idk what i would do without my mom shes the one mainly helping me on all of this! i instantly started to tear up when i read your forum! i can't imagine how hard this must be for you this site is so awesome im sure you will get so much support on here including myself! just keep moving forward have faith and live life to the fullest!!

Okay so I have been with my bf for just a little over 5yrs and it hasn't been the best relationship ever but no relationship is perfect! I even lived with him a few months in 2010 it was an ugly relationship and I HATED it he was so demanding and controlling! It wasn't a pretty life! i couldn't take it so i left him. Moved back in with my parents and well we r still together i don't tolerate the same things as before i have grown up and matured so much. He has changed so much hes getting his life together and i know hes really trying i dont want to marry him he wants a baby so bad and i don't!! not yet n not how our relationship is or our life's! but he doesn't care if we are not financially stable i think hes just really trying to find a way to tie me down forever!! and that is not going to happen in my books!!!...... I do love him and i care so much for him but sometimes i think that hes just not the one for me .... some days I am such a b***h to him he irritates me just by looking at him he annoys me and it hurts me i feel like i'm so evil!...i don't love him like i use to he killed that love that i had for him its so hard to leave him tho. Someday's i love being with him he makes me laugh and im comfortable with him but he knows how i really feel and hes really trying to make it work. I just feel like hes a weight on my shoulders and hes just bringing me down and i cant move on with my life because i care to much about him ( by moving on i don't mean relationship wise i don't want to be with another man or get to know any man in a romantic way at this point in my life or the near future!) i feel like i want to do something with my life and better myself n he just brings me down with him i cant move on! i am getting my surgery AUG 28th! super excited..But my bf says its dangerous and that hes scared that something will happen during surgery n I know hes trying to scare me i was sopposed to get the lapband b4 i moved in with him in 2010 and i didnt do it cuz of him and now hes trying to do the same thing. He swears im going to leave him and is so negative hes so insicure he is a 450lb guy he big too so hes been a big part of why i let myself go so bad! im 349lbs im 51lbs away from 400!!!! i have always been a big girl n loved myself n my body but this is waayyy to much! everyday get harder for me! I just don't know what to do I can't let go and when i try he wont leave me alone its so hard to let go of someone after being together so many years! I just feel like if i leave him what if i regret it!??!!WHAT if he is the one?!? IDK how to really determine these things!

OMG!! I want to wear Cute CLOTHES and wear HEELS!!! Fit in the rides in amusement parks!!! get out the shower and dry my body without loosing my breath n stop SWEATING!!!! Get a great job get back into school and not have to worry if ill fit in the desks! HECK FIT IN CHAIRS!!! i can keep going i just really believe that there will be endless opportunities out the personal, and professionally life I want to start my own cake business!!! or wishful thinking be a "model!" lol OH be a makeup artist for big movie productions or magazines w.e! omg soo many things that i want to do im 24 and have my life ahead of me with so many possibilities!!

I think its really just your choice! My whole family knows and they are all soooo supportive and keep me motivated and really have my back! and my closest friends as well the only person that doesn't like the idea is my BF because he swears I'm going to leave him UGH! that's a waaayy different story... but ne ways i don't think its something to just tell a complete stranger or a co-worker, acquaintance's out of nowhere....unless they ask but other then that my personal opinion is I wont tell but also i wont hide it that is who i am and its a part of me who it will make me and who i was no need to hide the true me....

CONGRATS!!!!!! that is awesome!!

THANK YOU SO MUCH GirlS!! Im more calm now im just so excited n so many feelings that im sure you all went through when you found out ur surgery date it becomes more real!! thank you so much for all the great advice

I'm not married but I been W my bf for over 5yrs I think that its all about how u feel since u gained n he changed the way he was with you probably because u changed on how u feel about yourself you kno he feeds of Ur energy ...also maybe he will be diffrent after surgery but u will gain more confidance and also maybe deep down he's scared you would leave him so hell give you more attention my bf is tereffied he swears.I'm going to leave him he's a heavier guy as well but I have no intensions on leaving him as long as he treats me good ......

Vixy' date=' you are going to love it![/quote']

I cnt wait....

I think the biggest bad is worrying about how bad it is. Your biggest asset is a positive attitude. Yeah' date=' you may have to deal with a little discomfort, a little gas, a little nausea, but if you keep your mind on why you're doing it and what you're looking forward to, the rest is consequential. Got my sleeve on the 3rd. No major issues. More discomfort from the hernia repair than the sleeve. I'm already a size smaller in shirt and pants. I teared up when I was able to put on an old favorite shirt again! Losing weight EVERY DAY, and I'll never be this heavy again! Said goodbye to the 380s. In a few days, I'll say goodbye to the 370s. Seems to get better every day.

Continue to read these posts. The people on VST are very candid in explaining what they're going through, and it's been the BEST EDUCATION I've received. Great support here! Welcome to the commmunity![/quote']

Omg thank you so much I know I want to tear up just thinking about wearing my old clothes .....I always been a hard stomach kind of girl not quizey but this is a way different thing but I'm sure I can handle it as long as I do everything I am told.....and wearing my old clothes again is my motivation my mind is at ease a lil more can't thank u enough....

GOOD LUCK I HOPE EVERYTHING GOES WELL FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!

Im a pre-op I am 24 and my big day my Surgery date is Aug.28th and i am trying to prepare myself for this huge change in my life i realize that this is a serious decision that will take dedication and change my whole way of living and i would like to know from all you Post-Op out there the good the bad the ugly and the terrifying so i can prepare myself mentally and physically and so i can avoid as much bad as i can also for the more advanced Post-Ops (yrs) How is it in general??...... how will i be affected years down my life....

TOTALLY!!! i will add you i didnt know about this app by the way! THANKS!!

No worries Vixkey' date=' I think we all have tons of questions. Just when I feel I have everything answered, I go to sleep and my mind thinks of more to ask. I can't say that I have slept the best in a few weeks, and I can only imagine it gets worse the closer to surgery.[/quote']

Lol I know I can't stop thinking about it I'm trying to get as much info as I can....ands yes I agree it will get worse the closer it comes eeekk!!! Lol

Vix' date='

I recommend that you take a safety pin to the hospital so that you can pin the drain to your gown. I didn't and wished I would have! It is better when it doesn't dangle. Also, bring a lanyard so when you take a shower you can hook the drain to the lanyard and put it around your neck so it isn't bouncing off of your legs.[/quote']

Thank you so much idk what I would do without u lol

If it were draining fat' date=' I would have asked to keep it in longer! lol[/quote']

Lol for reals!!! The drain ....its like when u have a cut u accumulate puss and Water, blood so what the drain is it clears all of that out from your insicions n your body to prevent infections ....

Everything went well for me. I am healing well. I haven't lost as fast as I would have liked' date=' but I am going to keep on keepin' on. [/quote']

That's good ....yes work work towards Ur goal I can't wait for my surgery ......

www.tryabouttime.com They have samples under promotions and if you want more then two just call them. They are sweetened with stevia so i notice a difference. I don't like the taste of artificial sweeteners at all. SO far i like these the best.

Thanks I'm def checking it out....

Vix' date='

My Surgeon was Dr. Khran as well! I had surgery on 6/12. They scheduled me to have my drain removed on 6/28. I called about a week early and asked to have it out. I went in for an appt and they determined that they could take it out. I think it was scheduled so far out because they had weight loss conference thing in San Diego the prior week. I just happened to call when Davina had returned from the conference.[/quote']

Oh wow okay I guess ill just have to live with it for a bit hopefully I won't have it too long lol but that is awesome u have the same dr as me....how was everything how r u doing now?

checking in to CHIKE ont he board!!!! THE BEST!

taste like a real shake! just came out with a iced coffee it is delish as well.

my favs = bananas' date=' orange-cream & iced coffee however strawberry, chocolate & vanilla are great too!

i've tried many and none can touch Chike! it has to be ordered though.

i have read a lot of good reviews of premier so i have some to try after surgery. If you're a coffee lover, CLICK makes a mocha and vanilla latte but taste too much like coffee for me. I'm not a huge coffee drinker.

best of luck![/quote']

Thank you so much!!!!!

I have been lucky enough to have my Whole Family on my side with this if it wernt for them i probably would have backed out cuz i am a lil scared but im sure it's normal they push me everyday and are very sportive! ......But you need to do what you know is best for you your fam is just scared that something will go wrong and dont understand What is most important is yourself and you need to take care of your first dont let anyone bring you down cuz no one really knows how we struggle everyday with our obisity and its easy for them to judge....... if this is what you really want you go girl and get ur VSG!