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Yep- been seeing one BEFORE the surgery (btw- HOW DO I CHANGE MY PROFILE??????? (I tried with ZERO success).... this was done eons ago before all this...

RNY 2/9/17 HW 450 SW 381 GW 208 CW 205
My challenge is finding a PSYCH who deals with food Issues that takes MEDICARE. I am hitting MAJOR walls...(ugh)...

Yes. My binge eating has now 'morphed' into anorexia (worse, I am a male and been told 'men don't have/get eating disorders).

Every day is a struggle- if I lose 8 more lbs I am told I will have a reversal (RNY 2/9/17). I am nauseous 24/7. Eating is a chore. I struggle daily with getting my Protein (rarely), calories and hydration. An endo said I have 'irritation' in my pouch, 2 anti-nausea meds did nothing.

A (wonderful) lady suggested changing my anti-dep meds (the current can cause 'weight loss' (NOT what I need). Hope to have found a new psych... (I work with a LCSW, I have PTSD and another disorder). Do not like being around food, at all (was a chef, LOVED food- now? blech).

Anyone else?

I had RNY 2/9/17 (horrible surgeon/experience) Dr Michael D Williams in Atlanta, Ga- truly incompetent staff, zero follow up, lied to me many times.

Anyhow...I had the laundry list of issues (stricture, bleeding ulcer, anemia, lost 90 lbs in 3 months (not 6 as told), 175 in 7 months. I am now down 250 lbs and find myself anorexic.

I have either puked up, gotten stuck on or burned out on...everything.... I have spent hours and hours in the grocery store trying to find anything that sounds...'okay'. I am afraid of food. I don't like going to restaurants or potlucks (ugh, even thinking about it I feel anxious).

I live in a major metropolitan city, but being a MALE on Medicare...it seems there is no support (I am told "there is simply no call for males with eating disorders). I have gone from being a compulsive overeater/binger to an anorexic. I have to MAKE myself eat/drink. My 'sobriety' is me getting in (MINIMUM) 113g Protein, 64 oz Water, 2250 calories. I have to make myself 'mindless eat' to get in calories. (it is no longer 'food' to me...it is 'nutritional opportunities'. not 'good' or 'bad'. it is substenance for my body. period.

I am told if I lose 6 more lbs we will talk 'reversal'. In order to be considered for 'skin surgery' I need to GAIN 10-15 lbs (as it will take OFF 10-20 lbs). I am 6'5" 205. HW 450, SW 381, GW 208 CW 205. I am 6'5" btw.

Anyone else? Life kind of sucks...still very weak, I don't work out as I am concerned I am not getting enough calories/protein. My hair is thinning, again. sigh.

I was born premature (in the incubator a month) the maid put sugar on my scrabbled eggs to 'fatten me up' (I remember my mother called me 'butterball' (charming). I was also molested sexually as a child so I turned to food to 'hide'. I was always a bit of a loner/outsider. I remember when my belly went from 'flat' to sticking out past my chest in high school. (I also remember being put on antidepressants in high school). Then I got TALL/big (I am 6'5"). I did a 30 day treatment center for my weight, I did Protein tablets 2 meals a day in the 80s. I remember going to weight watcters and being the only male, or under 30 (it was like a hen party...ugh). I am now 400 lbs and trying to look at starting the path (consultation is Dec 1).
Every time I got down to the 'magic' 300 I would freak out and gain the weight back (I thought, when I hit under 300 I will be "happy" and people will flock to me and I will be "hot"..never happened.)
my belly is my armor. it has done such a great job I am now a loner, jaded, and afraid to make friends for fear of being hurt.

Congrats! (I have Aetna too, so that is even better to hear!)
keep up POSTed!

Hi there. You sound frustrated at your lack of support from your parents concerning the lapband. As numerous others have stated, you can come to this forum for support. You said that your parents have "saved" you many times in the past, but this choice requires you to "save yourself". The lapband is not only a "tool", but it is a medically recognized procedure that can assist people to lose weight and maintain that weight loss. Yes, it is drastic...but having failed on many diets/exercise plans, it is often the choice of last resort. Your parents have been very supportive in the past and will likely be supportive, when they see that it works for you (just give them some time to get used to the idea).
I am very much like the previous poster, Dibley Dawn, as to my eating habits. I have only been banded for one month, but the change in my attitude towards food is nothing short of miraculous. I don't think about food all of the time. I eat what I want to eat (Protein first, followed by veg, and if I'm still hungry a bit a carbs) but I can't eat very much (1-1.5 cups per meal). I haven't had a fill and I may not need one. I have lost 31 pounds to date and look forward to losing the remaining 89 pounds. Even more, I look forward to keeping that weight off. I do not regret making this decision, but I am very lucky that my doctor and husband were very supportive of me (I haven't told anyone else because I haven't wanted to experience what you have been going through...it just wouldn't have been helpful to me).
Good luck with your pre-consults and surgery and keep asking questions. It's good to be informed and ultimately this is your decision.

Congrats! (I have Aetna too, so that is even better to hear!)
keep up POSTed!