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I revel in being called skinny - to my face, behind my back, I don't care!!! My glass is 3/4 full - it's just lets me know I've been successful!!!

Someone told a group of us at a support group ages ago, "People are use to seeing you one way, chances are you've been large for years. When that changes you DO look skinny, some may think you look unhealthy or are losing too much. That's normal"

I agree there are probably some are envious, but I haven't done anything they can't do.

What is the best is when someone who only knows the new me complements me on something to do with my size. I had a sales lady say to me "You are so little, I am sure it will fit"

This is so fun, I am thankful every time I go to a mall, knowing I can walk in any store and find something cute to wear!!

My suggestion is, thank God you were able to have this surgery and change the course of your life....and thank God people notice!!!! =)

I think this is a very healthy way to think!

Some people, generally women, are just catty jerks who cannot be happy for anyone who has anything better than them.

I had a friend, she was the closest friend I had who bailed after surgery and me losing a little weight. She had begun making catty comments and clearly couldn't stand that I was not going to be the fat friend forever. I can only imagine the comments I would get from her now.

Now I get comments from people all the time about how much I've lost and how fast it happened. I get comments constantly about getting too skinny and needing to eat more. Please. I couldn't eat more if my life depended on it right now. People I see weekly watch me when I eat, they look to see what is on my plate too. Drives me batty. Oh and of course the people that argue that I don't need plastics. At one point I was so fed up I flopped my flabby disgusting gut out to prove it ha! The sad part was that was with another WLS friend who makes comments about me too. *sigh*

People are just dumb.

Yep I feel you on this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I also think of the scene in bridesmaids where the girl was telling her best friend that she was getting married. Upon hearing the new the news her best friend looked like she was going to cry. It is good to rejoice with others in their happiness, but I can understand watching everyone get married and me still being single. Single is better than fat, so while the underlying theme of someone's negative behavior towards you is jealousy that person who is jealous is probably hurting so much inside. We are getting thin and for me it still hurts to see people who I really want to get thin too stay big because they don't have the means to do what I did. I paid for it out of pocket - well a loan I was so fortunate. It doesn't make it right that people act like biatches, but I could still be fat and unhappy, so kill them with kindness!

I like that kill them with kindness..it's just easier said than done!

OMG you look absolutely AMAZING! That dress is so beautiful! I am so happy for you! Aren't these moments an amazing feeling! :biggrin:

Lydia... you are one sexy grandma!

How about making a card with your Surgeons contact info on one side and the quote "I just added 2 1/2 years to my life" on the other side, just pass it to them if they have something nasty to say.

That is awesome.......what a great idea!!!!!!!! Thank you for the compliment :biggrin:

Oh boy...ya well welcome to our club! These are issues you will deal with from those that knew the obese you. It really does get challenging doesn't it? HHHMMM what to do..well if I were you I would not make an issue of something UNTIL it's an issue. If this situation came up again ...then say something.

I love this forum because we all have or will have some many issues like this...and only those that have gone through it get it. Good luck girl :biggrin:

I have learned in this journey that, if I have to work so hard to make a friendship work - then it's really not a real friendship at all. I just let them go. I have WAY too much on my plate right now than to add in some coddling of frustrated people! Since then, I've been sooo much happier. See? :biggrin: :biggrin5: :biggrin: :biggrin5: :biggrin: :biggrin5:

I know....it just really sucks though. What I love about this forum is that you guys get it, while nobody else does.

I am almost halfway to goal so I dont get the too skinny comments yet but I am sure they are coming... I did have a situation the other day though that I would like to share....

I told a coworker of mine about my surgery when she told me she was doing WW back in August (surgery aug 8). I didnt see her for a few weeks. She is one inch shorter than me and we wore about the same size in October ( I had dropped from 18 to 16 and she was a 16-18 too. We both have very similar builds and body types. She asked me at the beginning of November if I wanted some of her clothes she couldnt wear. I thought she meant she had some smaller clothes she wanted to give me... I said sure! I will take whatever you have since I will be inbetween sizes for a while yet... She gave me the jeans. 4 size 16 and 2 size 14. I saw her the next week (she still looks about the same as ever) and I said thanks so much for the jeans.. the 16's a bit big but I am wearing the 14's comfortably! She said to me..." I put these jeans on this morning (while pulling the waist out on her jeans to show they were big and I dont know the size) and I said..OH, its about time these wen to Tammi". OMG> she is pretending to give me her FAT clothes... WHATEVER. I was kinda pissed and didnt know how to take that. I just shrugged and went on. She is so jealous she felt like saying that to me in front of people trying to make it seem like she was winning some imaginary race with me. All this time I thought she was just trying to be nice. She even said at the beginning that she knew i would be moving through sizes fast and thought I could use them before she could. WOW.

I hope I wrote this so you can understand the situation. I am not competing with anyone and I wish I hadnt said anything to her at all. I dont want or need someone elses FAT clothes. Its quite the opposite at almost 50 pounds lost!

Yep...and be prepared for more to come from her too..........I am not friends with several people now that I am "SKINNY"...like really.......FU! It is very very very hard....i thought these people were my friends....when in reality I was only a friend to them when I was obese. SICK it's just SICK....get it together people.....I am the same person!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ok I feel a little better now.... :biggrin:

You rock Warrior! I know what this is like too...last year 3 moths post op I was a 14 and hubby bought me an expensive jacket for Xmas. This year I am a size 5/6....WTH???? Good news is that they can alter it down without any issues!

Keep on going for your last 25....are you ready for a size medium or small...

Let me tell you ......all of us need to remember what obese was like forever...and to treat people the way WE want to be treated, regardless what we look like on the outside. Words can be swords and can cut people hard!!!!!!!!!!!!

You look absolutely AMAZING! Congrats on such a great moment in your life!

Oh ya I also get messages from people on facebook!!!!!!!!!!!!!! gggggggrrrrrr

I did this for several months also at the 3 month point...lasted about 5 months. I lost almost 160 in about a year. I just had a very hard time eating calories. I also ate almost all Protein diet with supplements.

FYI I never got sick or had any issues with my sleeve, other than my skin sagging all over and on my face. That now is gone.

Oh drink lots of Water, it helps with the skin elasticity!!!!!!!!!!

Hey girl 55 is the new 25! WOOT WOOT!

Oh I do remember that day myself.........It was AMAZING! Congratulations! You go girl!

Oh boy...it just keep getting more and more irritating.......Yes woman are mostly the ones I deal with.......I need to learn to get over this...I know...it's just easier said than done.

I am so happy with myself, what I have accomplished and my weight loss.

The outside of me has changed dramatically ...but not the inside! I am still Lydia..I wish others could figure that out!

I wonder if people are used to seeing you bigger, so it is shocking. I wonder if it will subside over the next year or more... once your new normal is established.

I know a few naturally skinny people, and they really are skinny, but are healthy. I think that sudden weight loss can initially appear unhealthy to others (although we know how much health improves by losing so much weight!).

Personally, I am ready to have this problem instead of feeling so big next to everyone else :smile1:

Lydia - we are practically neighbors! Did you have your surgery locally?

You are right down the street from me...I am just up Hwy. 9!!!!!!!!! By Cathcart!

I did not do local...I went to Mexico...Dr Aceves. Best surgeon I have ever had......

its like you cant win either way!!! You look beautiful so just ignore all the haters. You have worked hard to get where you are. Remember the sleeve is just a tool and you did the rest! I know im not alone in this, i would rather people say i was too skinny than too fat. My best friend is super skinny and she hears that stuff everyday, its usually from the girls whos guys are checking her out!

Exactly what I think on the girls/ guy thing too........it's really sad though because they don't know me...I have been married for 26 years since I was 16 years old......come on now...and I am a grandma too!!!!!!!!!!!!

You look amazing! Wait till next year....you will freak! :Banane55:

I remember my 3 month was around New Year's. We had pics taken that night and I was half the size I was before sleeve...and now I am more than half the size I was at New Years! The mind morphing for me started at 3 months for me at least.

Exactly! I was never called FAT....what gives people the right to call me skinny! It's just so warped! Anorexia is the big one too...... I DON"T EAT AND PUKE MY food PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hello??????

Can you tell how frustrated I am! gggrrrrr

I bet that was amazing! I have had a couple of those moments myself...it's an amazing feeling!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is not a success story but I am posting it here because when you reach goal or lower, these are issues that I am dealing with.

So here are the issue I am having now. I get constantly told how skinny I am or that someone does not like me because "your skinny". I get looks, I get stares, and I get under breath comments. I also am constantly being told..."You need to eat more!" or "When are you gonna stop loosing weight, you don't want to look sick?" or "Are you sick, did something happen to you?"

WOW.......this is really getting to me. I know others in my position have or are currently dealing with some of these issues.

I try to be patient and calm when someone offends me, because I do understand, however...it's getting REAL OLD!

I guess when I decided to make the decision to get the sleeve I made this choice for my health, not to yo yo diet anymore which I knew was bad for my health. I made this choice to be able to live a longer life for myself and my family.

I did not once make this choice to deal with any of these issue now. I understand that to some degree, it comes with the territory. What I did not realize is that society and people can be so jealous , mean hearted, and envious.

I keep thinking about a saying......"Watch out for what you wish for"........

So to all of you that are about to start your journey, are in it, or done......these are things to think about. Not that I would not have been sleeved had I known this...more that I wish I had a realization of reality of life skinny......the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence.....trust me, I'm in the neighbors yard and it's not green over here either.

Lydia

9/25/10 and I have lost 160 lbs!

Oh also....I have never had pain from drinking any kind of alcohol. Fuzzy drinks will give me gas and make we wanna burp and feel full, but I usually drink a bloody Mary or Vodka OJ.

So here is the deal with me and Alcohol. I am a drinker...period. Not an abuser but as you it is very cultural for me also. I can pretty much drink as I did before except at way lower amounts/drinks/shots...I am now a size 6. Before surgery I could drink several drinks..or a whole bottle for that matter....NOT NOW! I only drink on the weekends..usually only one night fri or sat. Sometimes I can drink 2 drinks in a couple hours sometimes 3 or 4......pretty much not more than that or I end up dancing on tables! I have also never gotten dumping from the alcohol either...so that is a plus.

Now that being said since I have had surg have I over drank...yes I have, oops my bad, but I am human .....so watch at the beginning.....over doing comes very fast now. Also I did not start drinking again till I was 3 months post op..which was New Years Eve. FYI i am not a judge to anyone......... so many people seem to think that's ok.....FYI...it's not!