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I ask my son if he wants to ask any questions and then answer them to the best of my ability without causing him distress. He seems ok right now as we wait for a surgery date. After will be interesting...I am hoping I am one of the lucky ppl who doesn't suffer too much afterward...and can keep my hormones in check so he won't have to deal with mood swings.

I love (sarcasm) when ppl say you look like a famous person... I always got Nicole Kidman probably because of my curly hair.. and my response was always "Ya I look like I ATE Nicole Kidman...or If she was fat!" I figured it might make them uncomfortable if I finished their thought.

That pretty face thing has been the bain of my exisitence since I was a little girl. And If one more doctor tells me I'm fat...as if I don't know... especially since all they have on the walls to look at are obesity charts....or says my weight is the reason for whatever I came in for no matter what it is....Well.. there is no telling what I might say...

People suck... Professionals who should know better suck even more!

I work with mixed age groups and I have told everyone and kept them up on my journey so far. Most ppl have been supportive but there are those who are judgemental and make comments. Lots of ppl watch what I eat. Some ask questions, some pay compliments on my loss so far, some don't say anything at all. I don't care what the negative ppl think about it. They haven't lived the life of a morbidly obese person, they haven't done the research...they are ignorant to my situation so what would I waste my time caring what they think for? Good luck and don't worry too much.. it might not get as bad as you are imagining.

I've never been to one, but heard it's a great place. There is one about 30 mins away... now have me wanting to go. What are the prices like?

Apple-saucy... yes he has Aspergers and ADHD inattentive type (and I am on the spectrum too). I am always worried about how things will affect him. I'm probably too over-protective... He already has issues of worrying that I will die... out of nowhere he starts crying. I have him seeing a therapist a couple times a month to help him work on talking about his feelings and dealing with social situations and his dad's lack of interest (been divorced since he was 1).

The only things that have changed so far are the way I eat and that I am talking about the pending surgery (so we both get used to the idea) and my hopes for when I get thin.

I have it too... the urogynochologist told me to lose 100#s. So I guess losing weight helps.

I haven't had surgery yet and think negative things about ppl larger than me... I am always looking at ppl...some I want to be like, some I wonder how they got that way... some I wonder if they own a mirror or if they r trying to get on the ppl of Wal-mart website. I notice the smallest physical flaws. Just like I do in myself. I am hard on me and I am hard on them... but only in my head. Unless they have a zipper down or something... then I'll tell them. Maybe it isn't the best part of my personality, but it can't be helped. I've always looked at ppl.

My son is 11. He is a very sensitve boy...he doesn't want me to lose weight cause I won't be as comfortable to lay on. There have been times when it has upset him to see me happy and having fun... (I have always said that my misery is my scarlet letter...) I am hoping he will be able to adapt without me sending him to therapy. As much as I figure I will struggle recognizing myself, I wonder if it will happen to him too.

How did your kids react thru the whole process?

Well this gives me hope for a date I want... my last nut visit is in 2 days... I want surgery mid july so I should be ok enough for my annual camping vacation in August... and I have a wedding to go to in Sept and want to be thin enough to wear a regualr sized dress and suprise everyone (I rarely ever see my family). I was also thinking about the INDEPENENCE part of having surgery in July. Best of luck keeping patience until your date.

The "fat suit" part and wanting the outside to finally fit the inside that we've worked so hard to fix is so true for me too. I am looking forward to the day people will finally see me the way I see myself. Thanks for sharing that.

My surgeon says 80 some percent of ppl have hiatial hernias and don't even know it.. He repairs them when he does the sleeve surgery... Seems pretty common so why her doctor thinks it would be a problem is beyond me.

I had the option of a 3 month, diet, exercise, doc...extreme program or a 6 month diet, doc program.. I opted for the 6 month only because I didn't have enough money for the program fee for the 3 month option. Of course, the 6 month option is only 5 months of dieting because they count your first visit as one of the six. So it hasn't been as bad as expected.

The Aetna lady told me usually 15 days..she told me to call her when my docs office sends the paperwork so she can keep an eye out for it. She had RNY herself and has been very helpful answering questions and keeping track of my progress so far. Next Friday is my last dietician visit so I am getting anxious about approval too. Good luck!

Not sleeved yet, but near Cleveland

What's the link? I have one month to go and have been paying $30 a visit to the nut and a $15 copay to the doc. I could find sooo many uses for the nut $... like Protein shakes!

Have you checked out the surgeon I suggested any further? I hope you find someone you feel comfortable with so you can get the ball rolling on your new life.

I second the hand-me-downs... I have already started collecting smaller sizes... free is best followed by thrift stores on half off days. And sometimes you can even get some good deals on clearance racks if you want to treat yourself to something that is brand new. I know how to sew, so I might just modify what I can. Lots of options!

Nope.. not alone. Being thin is one of my biggest fears. I have no experience what-so-ever. There are a lot of what ifs going on in my brain about it. I may have been normal size at age 4...not that I can remember that. It was 35 years ago. I am looking forwad to being able to wear cloths I actually like. So, trying to look at the positives when the fear strikes is helpful.

a week would be great.. my aetna rep told me there is a 15 day turn-around doubt that counts weekend days. She told me to contact her when the docs office sends the paperwork so she can keep an eye out for it.. not sure how that will help but I hope it does. Just another month and a half of supervised diet yeah!

Well then I'm screwed and need to find a job as a mute cause I already have these problems and am not sleeved yet.

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I bought a used copy from ebay and read the whole thing over a weekend. I wouldn't spend the money. There is way better information for us here. I got it when I first began researching all surgeries and have honestly gotten way more from internet research and since making my decision to get the sleeve, this has been the very best place (I've also looked at gastricsleeve.com). I loaned it to a friend and don't care if i ever see it again..

I'd be happy if I lose 100#s at a year out. That will put me just about at onederland.

You are good at what you are good at...that's the draw. I was a baker/cake decorator most of my working life...I always wondered how many calories were absorbed thru my skin.. I know for me, being surrounded by baked goods all the time made me not want much to do with them. I wasn't the "finger licker" type. I tried to get in the mind set that the goodies were bad and how can ppl buy so much of it. Kinda helped. Not that i didn't have my weaknesses... first batch of pumpkin pies for the season is the main one. Good luck.

You aren't alone. I am 3 months in to my 6 month diet.. I also have questioned myself about not Really having tried. Well... I do know that I have tried...I have succeeded and failed sometimes because I could only sustain whatever rediculous thing I was trying for like 3 months. I would either want to eat normal food or something devestating would happen and the emotional eating took over... Now I'm to the point where I Need a tool to help me be successful and still be normal. I don't want to drink shakes 2 meals a day and take 50 suppliments..or buy cardboard meals that cost a fortune..for the rest of my life..or get perscription diet meds that get recalled after destroying important organs... So if I haven't tried hard enough.. I can live with it, because failure is no longer an option.