NJGirl32

I bought 2 shakes-one is Musle Milk Light (choc) and the other is the GNC brand (choc). Both are under 200 calories and have high Protein content. I'll let you know how it goes.

I am headed to the Vitamin store to check out there stuff.

Of course you're right - I know that! But he needed to be in the house for me to tell him-he didn't come home until after midnight-his friend's father had surgery so I guess he was over there-anyway midnight was not the time to say anything.

Tonight both my daughters will not be home soI'll go down to his office and show him the article and discuss everything. No excuses-it will happen! Tomorrow I'll have a post that say"I Finally Told Hubby" - look for it because it will be there-guaranteed!

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VUCARRE - I agree with the post above-it's your body. If you needed a pace-maker, a knee replacement or a hip replacement they would all improve the quality of your life and are "foreign objects." I can truly understand someone being concerned aboutthe surgery- I say as long as I wake up alive I will be happy! But if he let his 15 yr. have serious surgery like that -then I am not sure if that's his main concern. We all deserve a shot at feeling good about ourselves and taking conrol of our lives. I wish you the best in whatever you decide.

I have Horizon BCBS - I am scheduled for May 25th- I hope they approve it!! My last doctor appointment is Thursday for the scope-everything else is done and my pre-op is Thursday as well.

No, it's not happening tonight. He is still not talking to me-I honestly have no idea why but I am guessing it was something that was said in the car ride back from my mother's house. Who knows? I wentto the mall with my daughter tonight and he went out so I didn't even get a chance to say a word.

A part of me is wondering if he suspects something? He's a computer guy so he could easily check sites I have been on-I simply don't know. All I know is that he was mad in the car.

I found a newpaer advertizement (large oe) that tells aboutthe procedure and has a before and after pic. The funny part is the ad is for my actual doctor! I was going to hand itto him and say I was thinking about getting this procedure would you be willing to support my efforts?

If he was home tonight I would do it-but I am headed to bed. Tomorrow night both of my daughters will be out and we'll be home alone-a perfect chance. If he comes home soon I could do it tonight but he probably wentto his friend's house.

I amalso considering telling my girls (ages 19 and 24).

Last night I couldn't sleep at all-I kept waking up and tossing and turning. I am so stressed about it all. I'll tell him tonight, I can't wait any longer that much I have decided for sure. On Thursday I need to take off work for the endoscope and my pre-op stuff. Tonight's the night, I know you all are right 100%. I can't thinking what the hell is my fear about this? Why do I feel like I need to do things on my own? I was exactly like this when I got a divorce from my first husband- I barely told anyone anthing at all. I sort of suffered in silence. I am really trying to analyze my need to keep things to myself and this overriding need to be independent of others.

He's not talking to me so I don't know how it will go-but it must happened tonight. Thanks for all your support without it I probably would have gone through everything on my own.

I forgot that we were bringing someone home with us so it didn't happen! Plus somehow now he's not talking to me- not sure why but on the ride home he was really POed about something and hasn't said a word since we've been home. Now that he's mad, I'm mad because I can't think of anything I said in the car that justified the silent treatment-especially on Mother's day-WTH?

So-it didn't happen this weekend I know know that if I am going to tell him at all it needs to happen by Wednesday-not a day later. I came so very close-I mean really, really, REALLY close in the car going to my mom's but then he called his mom on the phone and I lost my courage.

I suck- I know Maybe I am hopeless.

You're 48 years old and have well over 30 years surgical experience? Exactly how many years before your 18th birthday did you start??????? I got my ADN in 1980. I went back to school 10 years later and got my BSN. I don't know who you think your snowing but its getting pretty deep!!

She was a child prodigy like Doogie Howser! She probably even did some stand in surgery too!

I also see she had complications during her surgery and had to stay in the hospital an extra 3 days for her band.

"I am not a doctor, but I play one on Lapbandtalk.com"

OMG! LOL

I am sorry but someone just needed to give her a reality check.

No I haven't-not yet! We are driving over an hour to see my mom so I might tell him in the car.

Forget it - the mall was SO packed with people buying last minute Mother's Day gifts that I never made it to that store-but I'll go next week for sure. I did stop at a stor and bought 2 cute belts that were a little snug. I need to lose about 15-20 pounds for them to fit me perefctly. I am hoping that by the end of June that will be the case! I also bought a couple of tops that will do get me through the summer.

I have so many winter clothes that I now want to pack away. Part of me just wants to donate all the big clothes and move forward with a skinnier me. Another part wants to wait and see (just being honest here). Has anything thrown out their clothes before they even lost the weight?

I am in NJ so I can't recommend anyone but I can give you some advice. Someone I know was paying $250 for a fill after her 5 free ones expired (she was a pay). My doctor said he would do the fills for $50 a piece. If your insurance isn't covering the cost definitely shop around!

Good luck to you!

Losing weight can't cure depression, but it sure will take the edge off of misery! I realythink continual thrapy is a good idea so you become aware of your triggers and learn more about the root of your overeating.

I don't know about falling into depression after losing weight - I would think that would make me happier and more confident. With that being said, a good friend of mine had the Gastric Bypass and lost a lt of weight - she fell into a deep, deep depression and had issues with cutting herself. I think it was a combination of the hormonal changes of the bypass and losing her mother.

:DLMAO! You girls are funny!

Who on earth told you that? Under normal conditions triglycerides (fat) occupy 5% of the liver. However, obesity (along with alcoholism, steroid use, diabetes and a few other conditions) causes that concentration to go up resulting in fatty infiltration of the liver. As much as we believe that the first place we lose weight is in our boobs its simply not true. The first place we lose fat is in the liver. Losing a few pounds pre-op is very important. It makes the surgery much easier for the doctor resulting in fewer complications for you.

fluffytofabulous is evidently an expert and highly opinionated. I would take anything she says with a big grain of salt. From reading some of her replies to people she seems a bit extreme IMHO

Someone sent me this websie and it has some interesting info. It's totally geared for Weight Watchers, but it has a lot of useful info on what food choices are lower in calories and list all the restaurants with point values. I also like one Advet. that had zero calorie Maragrita mix.

anyone else have a good website for planning?

http://www.dwlz.com/restaurants.html#C

I slept on my side from day 1- but couldn't sleep on my tummy for a few weeks. I didn't have any stitches, they closed me up with glue.

GLUE? I never heard of being closed up with glue-do you mean bandages? I thought for sure I would need stitches.

Okay- I am about to walk my dog and then head out to the mall. There's a GNC store there and I am going to check out the Protein stuff (shakes). Any suggestions on what items to looks out for (for Hair loss, Vitamins, shakes, etc.?) Can a Protein Bar replace a shake?

Thanks!

BTW - you both have amazing weight lost since your surgery dates- I can only hope I have the same results!!!

Thanks for both of your responses!

Soup is a slider food? That makes sense but I was guessing since it's in the liquid diet it would be a good choice-totally forgot about the slider thing!

I know PA had all their calories on the menu but I haven't seen it in NJ yet. I am sure their are websites that have restuarnt items nutritional data on them-I'll have to do some research.

Someone I know who has had the bad said chicken get stuck with her - I also thought salads could be and issue. I sure hope not because I love, LOVE sald-especially with grilled chicken or shrimp ; )

So I went to Carrabba's last night (I start my pre-op diet on the 18th) and I am thinking I could still have the lentil Soup (which is delicious), ut no more dipping bread and no more ling. and clam sauce. From my understanding bread items tend to get stuck. How would I handle this after the band? Maybe soup and a fish dish? I am just trying to be aware and think ahead.

I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage.

I think it's wonderful that you have your husband as a co-bander.

You sound like you are right back on track! You can absolutely lose those 20 pounds!! I also think it's great that you work in an office that does the procedure-that's helps keep you focus and honest. I always thought that weight watcher leaders had an edge because they were more on 'stage' with their weight lost.

Now that spring is here I am sure you can do more outdoorsy things and that will keep your mind occupied and your spirit renewed!

I can't believe that some people are so insensitive! Just think how much of a support you will be to someone who comes in and has gained -you now can say "Hey, that happened to me too-but I repriorized and refocused and you can do they same!" Good luck to you!

Hi Everyone,

I was banded Mary 3rd and I'm 3 days post up. I feel like I'm fully recovered I'm walking around no pain or anything. Since Last sunday up until now i have a lost 5lbs already, I have to stay on liquid diet until next thursday..Then Switch mushies.. But so far. I can't complain at all.. I'm doing well

That's great!! It's so nice to hear a positive outcome! I guess a lot of people tend to post their fears and setbacks-trying to seek some support. It's so refreshing to hear from someone who is having a great recovery! Do you have any hunger?

Wow! That was pretty nasty and mean.

He won't be mad once I explain that I was so scared and nervous about telling him-he's a great guy. My orginal surgery date wasn't until the end of June so I thought I had time-but they had an opening and moved me up a month. It's not like I have been running around for the last 6 months withthis on my mind - My 1st doctor's appointment was in mid-April (I never had to attend the seminar) and from there it just snowballed very quickly.

'I'm seriously considering lapband surgery. Would you support my efforts?'

I really like that opening-I might just use it!

All my doctor appointments were up where I work (about an hour from my house). I have a flexible work schedule so it made appointments easy. I had an appointment on my day off and I simply said I was going to the doctors for a check up.

He going on a motorcycle run tomorrow and Sunday is Mather's day - I am thinking my best opportunity to bring this up might be tonight when we go out to dinner.

If people aren't correctly educated before and after surgery and expect the band to do all the work, they fail. Also some people do work the band correctly but still fail. For the most part though I'd say those failures don't just happen- most of the time it's user error

ETA: OR the band has a mechanical failure, a leak, a slip... but I mean for those who don't have any mechanical problem and just don't lose "much" weight.

Rachel - have you lost all your weight since surgery? 30 lbs in 1 month is awesome!