NJGirl32

That's so exciting!! I can imagine that you would feel happy and nervous, but this will be the start of a new you!!!!! Anytime your thoughts stray to something negative just keep staying "I deserve to look and feel better." Make sure you let us know how it goes!! Good Luck-you''ve got this!!

Oh I am SO happy to hear that!!!! What changed his mind? It helps so much (mentally) to have your spouse's support! I never heard of the Swedish Band-what is it? Good Luck to you and please continue to keep us posted!! _____________________ I had trouble with the ticker thing too - but you need to copy and paste the entire box. If the first box doesn't work then try copying and pasting the second option.

Hi Mandy- I am also scheduled for May 25th-very excited!! I don't need to start my pre-op diet until the 18th (only 1 week) I don't think I could do 2 weeks worth!! I am already planning my last supper!! Good luck to you!!

You must be so excited!! Good luck with the surgery- I am sure everything will work out beautifully!! Let us all know how it goes-my surgery is in 15 days so I'll be extra curious!

Todays Oprah had guests and audience members who lost over 100 pounds. She never really got into how they lost it just mentioned how they lost it - I am sure that a lot of them had the band!! She mentioned that boo"Women,Food, and God" I downloaded it last year on my Kindle, but never got around to reading it-I might need to take my kindle to the hospital and get caught up on my reading!

I just told my husband and truthfully it feels really good to have told someone. I don't plam on being the poster child for Lapband-no way. Have you told anyone at all? Do you live with your parents? Won't they see you drinking shakes and eating much smaller portions? Good luck with your journey!! We are here to offer suport

15 pounds in great in 6 weeks-especially with no fills! Next time you go food shopping pick up 15 ounds of meat-try holding it for a while-that's what you lost!! Or put 15 one pound boxes of butter in your cart-all that is now off your body!! You're doing great-keep it up! Now that it's so nice out try walking a liittle each day-get an ipod to listen to while you walk. Good Luck to you!!!

Thanks so much-I really needed to read an inspiring story like yours! I hope on my 1 year Bandaversary I can say the same! Did you ever get a fill? I see you posted "No Fill"

:)I did tell him!!! Read my post: I FINALLY TOLD HUBBY in pre-band forum

I am scheduled to have my surgery on May 25th-that's 20 days away I haven't told anyone yet-except my BF via email and I didn't get any feedback/support at all from her. Thanks to all the wonderful and caring people on this forum I have decided that I really must tell my husband and there's no way I can go through this without telling him for so many reasons. In my mind I know that it has to be this weekend that I tell him. I'll need him to take me to the hospiatal the day of the surgery and he'll have to plan for it work-wise. I really think he will be totally shocked. I never mentioned wanting the lapband or even being unhappy about my weight. Hopefully, by Sunday or Monday I'll have something to post about how the conversation went. I hope he'll be supportive-I am thinking he will be. I know this shouldn't be a big deal, but for me it is a really big deal. I feel like I am admitting that I am a failure in some way- that I can't lose weight on my own. I know that's not true-in fact this is a very brave thing to do. I gained 5 pound since my orginal appointment back in April - that only makes more more determined to make a change! I don't think I would be in the same state of mind without this forum. Thank you!

Great job!!! Are you still on mushies? It will be worth the wait!

No, I never did find out what he was mad about and I rather not even ask because I am sure it was something minor. I figue I'll save money eating out and drinking too! But other the other hand I'll be buying more clothes so I guess it works out even. Plus I have all kinds of things running round my head-like joining a gym, horsebackriding lessons, taking some fun classes, etc.

Thanks everyone! He was very supportive!! I am so happy . You are right now I can focus on other things. My pre-op diet starts May 18th and surgery is the 25th! I told him I'll be saving him money too because I'll be eating less when we eat out

Okay-the girls are out of the house. I brought him home a chocolate shake and took it down to his office (in our house) and said "sweets for my sweet" He half-grinned and said thanks. We made small talk-so that broke the ice as far as being mad. I cracked open a Corona and got the ad for the Lapband (the one that has my doctor on it). Now I am about to go down and ask if we can talk-then I am going to hand him the newspaper and say I was thinking about getting this what do you think...and then take it from there. My heart is pounding so fast and I am SO nervous to do this. Okay-here I go....

I totally agree-sounds like an advertisement if I ever heard one!

Yes, I am mature- all 48 yrs. of me. I also hold a master's degree, plus 50 credits on top of that, plus 3 certifications in my field, I graduated Summa Cum Luade and I am very respected in my field - I just really suck at be vulnerable and being dependent on others- or maybe there's a real problem with me. I really have reflected a lot on why I have a need to not let others in. All I came up with is that I grew up in a blue collar irish family, youngest of 4 (only girl) and we did not talk about things at all. It wasn't a huggy-kissy family but a hard working one. Lots of skeltons in the closet but we never said a word. or asked for help. If it weren't for this forum I probably would have had the surgery without saying a word. I really thought I'd have more time to think it over and plan-but no. My first doctor appointment for was April 7th and my surgery is May 25th -that wasn't much time at all! Thank you for all the support and encouragement-that has really nudged me forward. It will happened tonight-no more excuses!!!!

I bought 2 shakes-one is Musle Milk Light (choc) and the other is the GNC brand (choc). Both are under 200 calories and have high Protein content. I'll let you know how it goes. I am headed to the Vitamin store to check out there stuff.

Okay- I am about to walk my dog and then head out to the mall. There's a GNC store there and I am going to check out the protein stuff (shakes). Any suggestions on what items to looks out for (for hair loss, vitamins, shakes, etc.?) Can a protein bar replace a shake? Thanks!

Of course you're right - I know that! But he needed to be in the house for me to tell him-he didn't come home until after midnight-his friend's father had surgery so I guess he was over there-anyway midnight was not the time to say anything. Tonight both my daughters will not be home soI'll go down to his office and show him the article and discuss everything. No excuses-it will happen! Tomorrow I'll have a post that say"I Finally Told Hubby" - look for it because it will be there-guaranteed! ------------------------------------------------------------- VUCARRE - I agree with the post above-it's your body. If you needed a pace-maker, a knee replacement or a hip replacement they would all improve the quality of your life and are "foreign objects." I can truly understand someone being concerned aboutthe surgery- I say as long as I wake up alive I will be happy! But if he let his 15 yr. have serious surgery like that -then I am not sure if that's his main concern. We all deserve a shot at feeling good about ourselves and taking conrol of our lives. I wish you the best in whatever you decide.

I have Horizon BCBS - I am scheduled for May 25th- I hope they approve it!! My last doctor appointment is Thursday for the scope-everything else is done and my pre-op is Thursday as well.

No, it's not happening tonight. He is still not talking to me-I honestly have no idea why but I am guessing it was something that was said in the car ride back from my mother's house. Who knows? I wentto the mall with my daughter tonight and he went out so I didn't even get a chance to say a word. A part of me is wondering if he suspects something? He's a computer guy so he could easily check sites I have been on-I simply don't know. All I know is that he was mad in the car. I found a newpaer advertizement (large oe) that tells aboutthe procedure and has a before and after pic. The funny part is the ad is for my actual doctor! I was going to hand itto him and say I was thinking about getting this procedure would you be willing to support my efforts? If he was home tonight I would do it-but I am headed to bed. Tomorrow night both of my daughters will be out and we'll be home alone-a perfect chance. If he comes home soon I could do it tonight but he probably wentto his friend's house. I amalso considering telling my girls (ages 19 and 24).

So I went to Carrabba's last night (I start my pre-op diet on the 18th) and I am thinking I could still have the lentil soup (which is delicious), ut no more dipping bread and no more ling. and clam sauce. From my understanding bread items tend to get stuck. How would I handle this after the band? Maybe soup and a fish dish? I am just trying to be aware and think ahead.

Last night I couldn't sleep at all-I kept waking up and tossing and turning. I am so stressed about it all. I'll tell him tonight, I can't wait any longer that much I have decided for sure. On Thursday I need to take off work for the endoscope and my pre-op stuff. Tonight's the night, I know you all are right 100%. I can't thinking what the hell is my fear about this? Why do I feel like I need to do things on my own? I was exactly like this when I got a divorce from my first husband- I barely told anyone anthing at all. I sort of suffered in silence. I am really trying to analyze my need to keep things to myself and this overriding need to be independent of others. He's not talking to me so I don't know how it will go-but it must happened tonight. Thanks for all your support without it I probably would have gone through everything on my own.

I forgot that we were bringing someone home with us so it didn't happen! Plus somehow now he's not talking to me- not sure why but on the ride home he was really POed about something and hasn't said a word since we've been home. Now that he's mad, I'm mad because I can't think of anything I said in the car that justified the silent treatment-especially on Mother's day-WTH? So-it didn't happen this weekend I know know that if I am going to tell him at all it needs to happen by Wednesday-not a day later. I came so very close-I mean really, really, REALLY close in the car going to my mom's but then he called his mom on the phone and I lost my courage. I suck- I know Maybe I am hopeless.