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Thank you!
im her biggest support,she does live at home and I’m doing the preop liquid diet with her..I can’t imagine how hard this will be for her,but know that I will do whatever it takes to help her succeed.Congratulations to you as well!!!

Thank you!
im her biggest support,she does live at home and I’m doing the preop liquid diet with her..I can’t imagine how hard this will be for her,but know that I will do whatever it takes to help her succeed.Congratulations to you as well!!!

Thank you!
Yes these are the things i need to know. I don’t want to cause any extra pressure or stress for her absolutely and want to assist as much as I can.
we have a few friends that have had the surgery,and already have been very supportive. She will have them to talk with after as well and these forums are wonderful! I don’t want to smother,or judge I really want to learn just how to support her fully..

I had support from a lot of people. Mainly my mom and granny. They are my biggest supporters. The best way to help her is:
1) Reassuring her she is making the right decision (Many of us get scared and wonder if we are making a mistake. Do we really want to give up food? Are we really ready to change?)
2) This is an emotional rollercoaster and it is not going to be easy for her at all. (She is going to be moody, depressed, upset, frustrated. In turn, this will get on your nerves but be patient with her, it will get better once her energy is up and she starts seeing the changes)
3) If she lives with you, keep the junk food hidden and stock up on healthy food. If she does not, help her learn how to read the nutritional labels carefully. (Lol I ended up teaching my mom how to do this). Calories, Carbs, Fats, and Proteins per serving size.
4) When she slips up, do not hold it against her, just encourage her that the next day is a new day and to start over. (Remember, someone is being asked to change years of bad habits and like a smoker, it is not easy and we have drawbacks. As long as she dusts herself off and get back to it, she will be fine)
5) Get out there and exercise with her. Walk with her, head to the gym with her. When she sees that her change is helping you change, she will be more inclined to continue as she is as much your anchor as you are hers. (My brother and mother work out with me from time to time. They have slowed down as I am now comfortable to go by myself).
I am sure that I am missing more things but these were the top 5 that my family did for me and it really helped me stick to the program. I am grateful for this surgery and my life changing. The key to success is support, determination, and consistency.
I hope she has a great surgery. I love this tool and I would not change having it for anything.