Oregondaisy

I don't have a problem at all seeing more than one guy at a time. I have a big problem with sleeping with more than one at a time. Dating is just that. Someone asks you out on a date, you decide if you want to go or not. It takes a long time to figure out if the person is someone who really is a match. Like CG Jane said, it took 3 or 4 months to decide she didn't want to spend time with guys whom she thought in the beginning might have potential. guys aren't as anxious to get me into bed anymore, cause in my age group, they all have ED. I have a date tomorrow and one Wed. I opened my profile at senior people meet and ok cupid. Now I just have some good stories to tell. I already have one. I talked to this guy on the phone and he looked cute in his picture. During our conversation, he mentioned he had no teeth, but he plans to get dentures some day.

I'm down in the dumps myself. I don't even have a good reason. I just woke up feeling really depressed. Sheryl, sorry to hear about your thigh. I hope you don't have to be on bedrest too long! Coops I hope you have a great time in Florida. The weather will probably be beautiful.

I had a catheter and I didn't shave, and they didn't shave me. That is not where they're doing surgery. All the incisions are above the belly button.

People say things they loved before surgery they can't stomach after surgery, so I would make sure you don't buy too much of anything until you're sure you really like it, after surgery. Slim fast now has low carb high Protein shakes that aren't too bad. The Premier from Costco is the most popular.

I'm going to watch Better Call Saul again. I watched it on regular tv and just ffed through all the commercials. I am hung up on the Sopranos right now. I have the DVDs. I loved Nurse Jackie and I wanted to watch her again in the Sopranos. It's amazing how she went straight from mafia wife to nurse with a complete different personality. 7 years on each show, back to back. She's a great actress. I am going to ck out Jane the Virgin. I've been wondering about it and now it got a good review on here. I have amazon prime but I've never turned it on. I need to do that.

I've lost 5 lbs since Christmas which is the 5 lbs I gained right after Christmas when I was given this huge basket of goodies. I gave most of it away, but I did have a huge binge that caused the 5 lb gain. I did really well fasting. Once I get going, I am not hungry and it's pretty easy to tell myself not to eat. I made a chicken vegetable Soup awhile ago with all sorts of bell peppers, yellow green and red, chicken breast and whatever veggies are low carb. I have a recipe I got from a friend and she lost 100 lbs before wls eating this soup several times a week for dinner. Went to the surgeon who did my band surgery cause i have terrible acid problems. He's going to do a scope down my stomach and will be able to tell me how much it's stretched. I'm still having a hard time motivating myself to exercise. I really want to build muscle again, but apparently not enough to force myself to get to the gym more than 2-3 times a week. I used to go at least 4-5 times a week before back surgery. Sheryl that picture is really cute. You ARE a very attractive woman. I wish I knew how to take a selfie. I'm not very coordinated.

I'm doing Mondays and Thursdays too. I am a little worried because of my back fusion. I'm not supposed to diet. I have to though. I put on a favorite sweatshirt and it looked horrible. I looked pregnant. I'm going to try to eat a lot of vegetables. My diet is totally lacking vegetables most of the time. Hope you're feeling better Sheryl. I wish I could take Welbutrin. I'm sure I would feel better if I could. I'm sure you're right about the late eating. I just saw something on tv about that being the cause of weight gain in America. I just need to eat my 3 small meals and not snack. Coops you need to find another doctor. I'm still on HRT and my doctor really feels like I need to stay on it since my bone scan shows the beginning of osteoporosis. There are bioidentical hormones that are not as risky as the Premerin of the past which was made from horse urine. disgusting. Mine are made at a compounding pharmacy just for me. I'd find a different doctor for sure. I'm sure you'll have a great time at Disney. It's the happiest place on earth, after all. (their advertisements) I wish I could come to florida and meet you!

It's ridiculous that doctors are still telling their patients no straws. My broth and all my liquids in the hospital came with a straw. Certainly my surgeon didn't ever say straws were any kind of issue. I've been using straws since day 1 with no troubles. I drink better with a straw and I need to keep my fluids up. Without a straw, I'd have a lot more trouble.

@@Oregondaisy is that like "where have all the flowers gone"? ok bud here i am, here i am!! still healthy and happy for the past 4 years!!! YOU should show yourself more always love to see you how is your back, and all that other stuff feeling?? (do you notice i am using LOTS less emoticons??) see you around the neighborhood kathy I'm around quite a bit. I like the lounge and powder room, the new venus and mars group. Right I am really battling the gain from the holidays. I'm glad the sleeve allows me to eat practically nothing because I'm not hungry. I'm doing the 5:2 diet again where you only eat 500 calories 2x per week. I did notice you're using many less emoticons!

Thanks so much Cowgirl Jane for bringing this thread to my attention! I loved Californication on Netflix. It's about an author and his gf/wife and their daughter. He's kind of a manwhore. I also loved Parenthood which is about a family of 4 adult children, their parents and their kids. I loved Nurse Jackie too. Meet the Patels is a very funny movie. It's even funnier if you have friends born in India or have parents born there. I have a friend who is married to an Indian and they go to India twice a year, and her inlaws come from India and stay 6 weeks once a year. I could really relate to the move from knowing these people.

I do see a psychologist. She never has any answers for me. Learn to be happy and love yourself, she says. Easier said than done. I wish I could take an antidepressant but every one I've tried causes horrendous side effects. I do feel better since forcing myself to go to the gym. I just need to learn to live with the fact that I may never have a satisfying relationship.

I've been meeting guys online for nearly 10 years. I did have some relationships with guys I met there. Two lasted 3 years, and one a year. The first two didn't last because they had money problems. The one that lasted a year is a great guy. We just have nothing in common. We are still friends. I did correspond with many, many losers too. I had the same experience with E Harmony sending me people who lived across the country. I keep my profile on POF and OK Cupid hidden and do some searching when I am in the mood. I live in the middle of nowhere, so unless I want to move, there is nobody for me, at least not right now. Maybe somebody new will sign up. Right now I am just enjoying my friends and trying not to worry that I'll be alone the rest of my life.

Boy, Sheryl, you have been through a lot. I hope your healing and recovery go well, and you're able to get rest once you get home too. You're very brave to go down there alone, and not know what the outcome is going to be. Hope you're feeling better soon. I'm having a hard time staying motivated. I wish I could sleep all day sometimes. I did 2 really good workouts this week, but today I am sore. It was very easy to talk myself out of going to the gym. Last night, my back really hurt so I guess I was doing too much. I can't seem to pick anything on Netflix. I loved Nurse jackie and finished i quickly. What are you watching , Sheryl? Meet the Patels was funny. I have some Indian friends.

OMG How could anyone be pro Trump? He's filed bankruptcy like 5 times. How would he manage the country? I'm not political at all but this seems like insanity to me. Coops we can cheer each other on. I'm trying really hard to do 5:2 as well. I was up at my highest weight since losing with the sleeve. My Son in law gave me this huge basket of junk food that his company was giving out at Christmas. I gave most of it away, but did go on about a 4 day binge first. I'm also back to the gym, but it's a lot harder now starting from scratch. I didn't go for a year, so it's going to take a long time to get to where I was. I hope it helps with my depression. I definitely feel better when I exercise. I'm definitely taking a break from dating. I hang out a lot with my guy friend John and he's funny and upbeat. I look at profiles online, but unless I'm willing to relocate, there is nothing here for me. Plus truthfully, I am tired of men my in my age group thinking they can have sex, and it's just work cause they have ED. They think they can do it, but they can't and it becomes an issue. I'd like some guy to just admit he can't do it anymore. Cathy, I hope your hubby finds a new job quickly. That would be stressful news. Sheryl I hope you're having beautiful weather down there in MX. I am so sick of winter. Have you heard from your friend who was going off the deep end? When are you coming home? Speaking of which, I wish we would hear from Florinda. She was really very depressed when she last posted.

So glad to hear from everyone! More from me later too...

I'm still here. It's good to see you. I thought you were definitely gone for good. I've had 3 back surgeries this past year so it's been challenging for me.I was not given the go ahead to exercise again until the beginning of Dec. Exercise is really important for my moods, so it's been depressing. I gained back 10 lbs but it feels more like 25. Losing muscle has made a huge difference in how I look and how my clothes fit. Also, my relationship broke up and dating is very discouraging. I'm trying to stay upbeat and going back to the gym this week has really improved my mood. I tried to start 5:2 this week, but was lousy at fasting. I want to do it again, since I had so much success with it before. It's really good to hear from you and I'm really glad to hear you're doing well in maintenance and in your life!

Power Crunch bars are great. They have 13 grams of Protein and 10 carbs. 10 carbs is a lot if you're really trying to go low carb. They are made with Stevia so there is no sugar alcohol which gives me terrible gas. I get mine at vitacost.com because it comes out way cheaper. I also buy them at walmart. Vitacost carries so many things, for anyone who has not heard of it.I get my Protein powder there, and many supplements. If you order over $49 the shipping is free. I can get you a coupon for $10 off your first order if you send me a pm. They carry so much stuff, it's unreal. Their prices are also very good.

I wish I could get a hold of some appetite suppressants. I would not use them every day. I would use them when I knew there would be temptations around. I hate it when I do so well all week long, then I have some social engagement where I know there will be a ton of food. It's always a table full of everything I love. I end up gaining 2 lbs, but it takes the entire next week to lose that. It's a vicious circle. I had some herbs Mau Hung, which worked great, but they have been taken off the market. It was wonderful having something around when I knew I would need a little extra help.

When I went through menopause, I didn't have a period for a year. Then, a year to the date of the last one, I had my actual last one. I think it's common to go months and then have one. I am not sure where you are in this menopause. I'm really glad you're back! Kim you're so brave to ride that bike alone. I love being on the back of one, but I wouldn't even consider riding one myself. I would freak! i'm trying to be good. No snacking. I had to go to a birthday dinner yesterday which screwed me up. I ended up having cheesy bread with everyone else, but had a shrimp salad for dinner. I want under 145 badly! I'm happy to back to the gym though. I just read in a fitness magazine I need to do 60 min of cardio not 30. grrr. I love the weight lifting , the cardio, not so much. Where in the heck is Florinda Hmmm

When I am being bad, I'll have a WW fudesicle,100 calorie pack of cocoa dusted almonds, a sf pudding, etc . You get it. Anything and everything. Right now I am trying really hard to take the regain off, so I'm remembering not being able to get my pants up when I think about eating in the evenings.

yeah, where did all the over 60 people go?

I am sure I gained weight for all of the reasons that you mentioned. It's so easy to just join right in and eat when everyone else is eating junk. There are days when I am tired of it all, like Rosey mentioned, and I just don't care. I want to eat what I want. Then there are those 100 calorie packs. I can start in the evening with one of the planned Snacks and go right on all evening long eating one thing after another.

People don't believe me when I say Miralax is not safe to use long term. This is a a long term problem for me. I don't eat a bunch of fruits and I can barely eat a few veggies with my meals. Metamucil is Fiber. Fiber is subtracted from carbs. It's really safe because it's just a bunch of husks. Even if I get all my Water in, i still can't go if I don't use Metamucil daily. I mix it in with Crystal Light and down it quickly . I am also anemic and that causes hair loss, which I have been dealing with for 9 years ever since I got banded.

I am up about 13 more than I want to be but I know even if I lose it, my clothes still won't fit. I still want to lose it though. Weight training is what is going to make the difference. My last year was all about my back. My back was killing me until August when it was finally fixed right. I can't say it was a banner year. My love life sucks too. Sheryl is right. There are no good men left by the time they are over 50. They are suitable for dating but not relationships. Of course, I do know people who have found someone later in life, but it's rare. I wish Florinda would check in too. I hate that we have lost so many people. I'm really glad Cathy, Coops, MG2 and Kim checked in. Sheryl you're always really good about keeping us updated.

Yeah, I am going to cool it with John. The whole thing is just too confusing. He is a friend, and he doesn't not fit any of my criteria for what kind of man I want to be in a relationship with, other than he's funny. I still want to spend time with him, but definitely a lot less. I wish that just about everyone I would like to meet when I read their profile, didn't live in Eugene. I think you're right Sheryl. You should go and have fun with whomever you choose. I keep saying I wish I could put all the men I like and abandoned for one reason or another in a blender and just take out the parts I like. The answer may just be what you said. You can have fun with more than one person. The problem is that they usually do want to have sex eventually. It's all very confusing. I am signing up for the gym a week from Monday and will put all my energy into getting fit and eating better and thinking less about men. Your house sounds amazing, by the way. I completely remodeled this house when I moved into it. I should have never bought it. I was looking for 3 years and was tired of looking, but I should have kept looking. I realized when visiting my son, it would be really difficult for me to find a house if I ever chose to move closer to him.