Oregondaisy

Sarah, I am so sorry. I can relate to all of this. My bf had stomach cancer and it was just like you said. Everything just went downhill from the day of diagnosis. My heart goes out to you. I was there for my dad when he died, and my heart is heavy for you. I hope you'll continue to post, if typing it out felt good to you. We are here for you!

I've found one thing that really helps is not eating at night. If I force myself to have nothing but Water after dinner, I do way better.

As soon as you're shopping for cute clothes that other girls your age are wearing, you're going to be thrilled. I'm 7 years away from surgery now, and I don't have any health problems what so ever. I've never regretting my decision. I was thrilled at the prospect of no longer having to shop in the plus sized section.

@@CLK here i am!!! here i am!!!! here i am!!! jumping up and down in the air!! arm raised rubbing my "little" tummy and chewing gum all at the same time!! i am now a whopping 4.3 years PO ("they" can't get rid of me - they keep trying though!!) 3.3 years GOAL!! i have fluctuated as high as 9.7 lbs now i am at 6.3 lbs OVER goal not tooooo bad, but definitely not good!! must get back to GOAL and a little under summer coming 7 day cruise to alaska beginning of august 3 day land (walking, hiking) could never have done that pre-op! wouldn't have wanted to the root of sooooo many problems stemmed from my being overweight ie numerous falls, contributing to many of my orthopedic issues broke my femur X2 in 2006 had to take early retirement and disability in 2006 (ONLY 53 years old!) being at a good normal weight now - is amazing sooooo many things i'm now able to do, experiment, learn still can't go skiing (never could before sleeve either!! ) wayyyy back when (pre & post op) i never knew how hard maintenance will/can be i realized when i reached goal life does START/continue with maintenance periodically can be hard/harder than losing the weight DOS almost 58 years OLD today 62 years YOUNG "i'm still standing!!!" (Billy Joel!!") nice to see you cheri come back more often to say hi, ok?? keep up your good work as many of us say - life is good!!! kathy Kathy, you make me LOL! I know how hard you're working on using less emoticons! Great job, too! You're one of the few so close to goal, this far out. I wish I weighed 138!

I am loving this thread. It's a battle. Every single day. And soon I will be 7 years out.

Acid is a big problem for us sleevers. A lot of people are revising to RNY because of it. I would never do that, although I am having bad acid problems. I take Zantac in the morning and Nexium before dinner. My son in law was just telling me that he has to switch medicines all the time because they stop working. So he alternates between Nexium and Prilosec. I don't know what the UK equivalents would be for these medications but I do know acid is nothing to fool around with. It can cause esophageal cancer. I am still not home and waiting for the baby to come. I may have to drive 4 hours to go home because I need one of my medications refilled and I can't get it refilled here. I tried. I have no idea how much weight I've gained since I've been here. There is no scale here and it's driving me insane.

Well I wonder how things turned out for these two..... wish she would update!

I lost 107 lbs. During the losing phase, I kept my carbs as low as possible, under 30 sometimes way less. I was on Clear liquids for 3 weeks and full liquids for 4 weeks so I lost a lot on the post op diet. In maintenance I kept them under 60.

I'm with you. I hate counting calories. I count carbs. I'll be 7 years out soon. I've gained back 10 lbs since my 3 back surgeries but recently got the go ahead to work out and diet.

I had my spine x rayed and my fusion is taking. I was really afraid to do 5:2 because it was against doctor's orders. I want to try it again too. I can't start until I get home though. I'm in Portland waiting for my grand daughter to come. I wish she would hurry up. My life is on hold right now.

I'm so sorry you're not feeling great Coops. I know how you feel. I am really disappointed that I can't see to lose the weight I've gained. I feel really fat even though it's only 10 lbs. I've said this before, it feels like 25. I know it has to do with all the muscle I've lost. It seems ridiculous that I have to eat next to nothing in order to lose. It's heart breaking actually. I can't eat like a bird the rest of my life. My love life is weird. I am actually dating 3 guys, but I don't really care if I continue to see any of them. I think it's me. When I am depressed, even things I normally enjoy, I have no interest in.It's a classic depression symptom. Funny how I thought that if I just lost 100 lbs , I would be happy.

It's so frustrating. We think when we have surgery, our problems are over. I'll be 7 years out soon and it frustrated the heck out of me that I'm still fighting every day. I had a binge eating weekend and now it's going to take weeks to take it back off. That is if I can stay on track every day.

Kim, I don't remember you ever telling us that the bike was causing anxiety. I thought you were enjoying it! Sheryl, I don't know why you said you must be crazy. The gambling would bother me too. I guess if he can afford it, and knows his limitations, it's ok. I know a number of people who gamble because we have a casino in our town. They take a certain amount to spend and leave when it's gone. The ones you worry about are the ones that plan to spend a certain amount and spend it, then go to the ATM machine. I think as long as you enjoy his company and you're doing something you enjoy, like learning to golf, why not keep enjoying his company? He's not asking you to go gambling with him so have fun until you don't enjoy him anymore. My daughter turned 35 Friday and we celebrated her birthday all weekend long, so I am afraid to get on the scale. My daughter in law is expecting my grand daughter any day now.

I do have 2 grand kids here. I have my 7 almost 8 yr old grandson and a 2 year old grand daughter. I have one in Portland and one on the way. they are both girls. I do go up and see the 2 in Portland pretty frequently. I've really considered moving to Portland but I really don't want to live there. I'm really close to my grandson and I pick him up from school and keep him until after dinner at least once a week. The traffic freaks in Portland freaks me out and I am completely stressed out any time I want to drive anywhere. You can't go anywhere after about 2 pm without getting stuck in terrible traffic jams. Plus you have to pretty much wait til 10am to leave to go anywhere. Everything is also more expensive. The thought of going through another move, packing up and selling this house, and trying to find another one I could afford, is scary. It would probably send me over the edge. The depressing part is the availability of available men. Men around here are into hunting, fishing, mud racing, etc, none of which I have any interest in. When I was taking ballroom dance classes and went to dances constantly, it was all married people at the dances. Plus my weight has me terribly depressed. I've sort of come to terms that I can't get any lower. I was at 144 this morning. It doesn't seem possible that 9 or 10 lbs would make my tops and jeans all too small. I've bought some new clothes that fit, but I would love to wear all the pants and tops I can't wear. If I eat one wrong things, socializing, I'm almost up to 150. Going to the gym helps with my depression but every day this week, it's been one thing or another that I have to do and I can't go. If I don't go first thing in the morning, I know I won't go later. I actually think there was nothing that would keep me today but my daughter needed me to watch my 2 year old grand daughter. It was fun having her here. I usually see her at her house. I'm trying to remain optimistic but I keep meeting guys that want to be with me, and I will go out on a date simply because I am so bored, but then they want to see me again and I have to tell them I like them only as a friend. I hope you're having fun on your trip, Cathy! Sheryl you sound great! I'm so glad you didn't waste another moment trying to pass that stone. This guy sounds great. I hope you'll message me soon. I want to hear all about how you met.

I'm sorry we missed your birthday Cathy. I hope you had a good one! Sheryl, nice to hear you finally found someone you like. I hope it does go somewhere. Which site did you find him or did you meet out and about? I've been depressed and binge watching tv. I just get so sick of my life.

Vitamin water makes a lemonaide. It's the only one of their flavors that I like. I can't drink it though because it's too much acid for me. I should. I just got the report on my ultra sound. I have 2 kidney stones in my right kidney and one in my left. They aren't moving though and hope they never do. If they do, heaven help me.

Oh pm me if you want to. I was widowed suddenly at the age of 35. That was a long time ago . That definitely led to my obesity. I started throwing up in my sleep with the band. I had to have the band completely unfilled and keep it that way. Restriction was always changing. I was worried the band was damaging my stomach. I knew people who were not able to revise to sleeve because the band damaged their stomach. Is that what you were asking me?

I was banded in 06 so actually, it's hard for me to remember life almost 10 years ago. when I was banded, there were all sorts of foods I missed that weren't band friendly. Since being sleeved, the only thing I miss is a 2nd piece of pizza. I can eat one piece pretty easily, and I always look longingly at another piece. I was just scoped today almost 7 years after my sleeve surgery. My surgeon said my sleeve has not stretched AT ALL!

Metumucil is the best because it's adding fiber to your diet rather using a laxative. You HAVE to drink a lot of Water. If you're constipated now, you may need a fleets enema to get cleared out and Metiumucil will keep things moving.

I like Optimum Nutrition's pb and chocolate there are pages and pages of people talking about which Protein powders they've tried. It's in the food forum.

I didn't care about the rest of my body that's covered up. That's why I got a face lift. That's what everyone sees. I love that people can't believe I'm 63.

A few weeks ago these cute polite boys and one girl came to my door and wanted to demonstrate the Kirby. My friend and I were here and they finally talked me into letting one of them come in and do the demonstration. I had no idea they were going to get my carpet wet which they did while I was out of the room. I called his boss and said my area rug is ruined, and he asked me to send pictures. I did that and they clearly showed my carpet is all wrinkled and wavy. Now he will not return my phone calls. The office is in WA state and I am in Oregon. I looked online for Kirby Corporation to see if there was anyone I could complain to besides the Better Business Bureau. Does anyone have any suggestions?

I know there are a bunch of us doing online dating. I started talking to this guy who lives in Portland which is 4 hours away from where I live. We talked every day for 2 weeks, sometimes morning and evening. This is really against the rule I have for myself, which is not to waste a lot of my time on the phone with guys I've found online. This guy was different though. He was funny, and smart. I decided I wanted to meet him and my son lives in Portland, so I decided to visit my son and DIL. Right up until the day before I was ready to go, we were in contact and he was all for us meeting. All of a sudden, he doesn't text back and the phone goes straight to VM. Being the smart cookie that I am, I arranged to meet some other guys while I'm here. I found guys whom I normally would not contact since I live so far away. I made sure they like to dance. Out of 4 guys who were writing every day, and all for us meeting, only one has not disappeared on me. Two of them I forced to write back to me when they suddenly stopped answering emails. It pi$$ed me off that they would just take the easy way out. I wrote to them and said if you've changed your mind, you could at least write back and say so. I was disappointed I would not be making a new friend, but life was full of disappointments. I could understand it if we were in our 20's . But men in their 50's and 60's not having the manners to form an email that said it was not going to work out to get together after all, kinda makes me sick.

I'm sorry to hear about the end of your marriage. Try to just take one day at a time. There are quite a few threads about all of us in the dating world. You'll have plenty of reading material. If you can't go to therapy try a group like OA for support. It's like free therapy, if you live in a place where there are good meetings. Also try meetup groups. There are meetup groups for all sorts of things, again if you live in a larger city than I do. Hiking, book clubs, etc. Eventually you'll feel like getting out an socializing. Good luck. Keep in touch with us because we will all wonder how you're doing.

I haven't tried yet. Do people in Seattle's newspaper write letters to the editor about things like this? The company is actually out of WA.