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Breakdown!

By MissVVJJ

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Alright I had a breakdown!! :(

 

I am from San Diego and its been pretty hot so living in San Diego and my family was having a pool day at my aunts house. As I was getting ready, I was getting frustrated that I couldn't wear shorts or even sleeveless (haven't in years) My legs and arms looked horrible and I was so upset to the point that I was considering just staying home. My mom was getting upset at my reaction and that's when I broke down. I told her that its hard not being able to get in the pool because you are too ashamed even around your family to wear shorts and a tank top. I told her I was tired of it and that she should understand how I feel since she has been in my shoes before. I was crying this whole time but decided to suck it up and just wore pants and a long shirt to the pool :mellow: . My dad was listening to everything and he just came and hugged me and of course broke down again and he told me that soon everything will get better and that this is one of the reason's I am doing this surgery. My mom apologized for getting upset at me but that she didn't know what to tell me to fell better.

 

I am soooo looking forward to being able to wear shorts and wear summer dresses without having to wear a coverup for my arms. I have spent too much time not living life or going out and enjoying simple pleasures of life because of my weight. This has been an emotional roller coaster but since I made the decision to have this surgery, I've changed my mindset. I am excited to see what the future brings and I am happy to have you all to share this experience with because only we understand each other.

 

XOXO :wub:

Viviana

MissVVJJ

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    MoreganK

    Gastric Sleeve Patients

    Oh honey, I totally get this post. It will get better!! Stick through all the hard stuff, and on the other side is a healthy life! I'm almost half way to my goal, and all I can think about is feeling comfortable in smaller clothes! Thats the first thing that has made me happiest, getting dressed in the morning is soooo much easier. I don't worry as much about whats showing or how it fits... it just fits. Hang in there!!

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    ShapeShifter

    LAP-BAND Patients

    So much comfort and joy in your future. Excited for you!

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    Shape_Shifter

    LAP-BAND Patients

    YOu are certainly not alone! Good luck with your surgery. I am 12 days post-op and I'm already returning a dress I bought and never had a chance to wear. It's too big. :) Next summer will be much better. :)

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    Randi

    Gastric Sleeve Patients

    Wow - I hear you. I hated going out ANYWHERE because I would see my reflection in doors, windows, mirrors and just want to die. We were at the chiropractor once and my hubby asked the doctor if i was having back problems because I was so big - I just started crying. He meant my big boobs, but of course I thought he was calling me an elephant. You will be so much happier when the weight starts falling off and getting to wear new SMALLER clothes. I put on a swimsuit I hadn't worn in TEN years and my hubby loved it - kept asking me to twirl.

    There is hope and it sounds like your family is supportive. That's key. Hang in there!!!

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    Ruthsdaughter3

    LAP-BAND Patients

    LIke you, I haven't worn sleeveless or shorts in forever -- probably 30 years. I always like the idea of summer but when it rolls around and I actually have to face being in a swim suit, I feel horrible. Now that I have the sleeve, I am looking forward to next summer when I can wear a cute suit and shorts and for the first time in ages, feel good in hot weather. I think it will happen for me and I think it will happen for you. Hang in there and try to remember that soon it will just be a memory that you can easily forget.

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    Izuri

    Gastric Sleeve Patients

    It will get better! I just recently started feeling comfortable enough with my body (this was pre-op) to get some capris. I have kinda adopted the mindset that I can only do so much and I'm not gonna suffocate myself in pants and a long shirt when it's 90 degrees out. I sometimes still have embarrassment when wearing them but I remind myself that if they don't like it they can look somewhere else.

    Soon enough you will be flaunting a pretty bathing suit =)

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