I totally understand about being nervous right before surgery. I was prepped and about to be wheeled away and almost said no. I am so glad I had it. I feel better, look better and my clothes are smaller!

I think it is sad your mother is not behind you. Is she scared or is she over weight and doesn't like others around her to be thinner? Many people can not handle thinner people in "their circle". I once had a friend like that. I had lost about 60 pounds and when I finally gained it back she told me I wasn;t a nice person thinner and she liked me fat.

I wish you a lot of luck with your new life thinner and healthier. We are all here to support you.

I absolutely think that it is normal to have all those feelings prior. I'm scheduled on the 29th of this month...You'll definitely need to give yourself time to heal before working out. My surgeon told me no working out for at least 4 weeks. I can take walks, but no going to the gym and doing any lifting, etc. I think you need to take some deep breathes and understand that it's all going to take some time. I wouldn't worry about not being able to work out right away- you need to let your body heal afterwards and then once your surgeon says you are good to do so then definitely do so. There's no rush. You'll be perfectly fine.

I think because we've all struggled with weight and then we go through a long process to get approval- it's normal- we've been dealing with this for so long. It's overwhelming. We want to see results- we're committed. I think we need to give ourselves sometime to let it all fall into place. I truly think it all will. Taking the step to get the surgery is a huge step. Don't let other things bother/worry you. I know it's much easier said than done, but I do believe that keeping positive will help. Getting overwhelemed is not going to help you. I like that you said to set small goals, I think that's a big step. Getting the surgery is a step to take. See how you feel afterwards, how you heal, etc. You're making progress by having the surgery- think of it that way.

Stay positive. Everything will fall into place!!!

Your feelings are quite normal. Many of us worry about failing yet again after failing so many diets before. The good thing about this, it's not really a diet. It's a lifestyle change and if used properly can become your new bff.

It sounds like you are your own worst enemy and probably afraid of being judged. One thing I struggled with is people that knew I had it, didn't understand the difference between this and GB so they expected the weight to be "falling off" me. You are expected to lose about 1-2 lbs per week. Initially, I exceeded that and now seem to be right at that amount.

If you are willing to make lifestyle changes and believe in yourself, you can and WILL do this! You are spot on with setting smaller goals along the way. It helps to feel you are accomplishing something when you have those instead of focusing on the whole picture.

Best wishes to you on your upcoming surgery!