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blogs/blog-0403252001362281865.jpgSo im feeling more sensitive lately about my weight than ever before and im about 50 days out still for my surgery! I was doing really good and lost 3 pounds in a week and now im eating for all the wrong reasons again. I questioned my husband on him being faithfull and broke down crying cause i cant understand why he is with me when im not a skinny beautiful wife. I dont know if this is normal before surgery or not but i guess im putting a lot of pressure on myself to get healthy and i have a lot of accountability to live up to. Im scared about failing i guess but then the next minute im excited and looking at all my old clothes and getting ready to be able to wear them. Im a hot mess right now i guess and hope these feelings get easier to deal with. Ive heard a lot of people talk about how emotional this journey is and i never realized it until now, and i havent even had the surgery yet! UGH....Any advice??
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You are a beautiful woman. I am sure your husband loves you no matter what. You will be the person you want to be. Right now it is easy to eat for all the wrong reasons, but in months to come you will develop a new relationship with food. Emotions before and after this surgery certainly run high as to the uncertainty that lies ahead, however there is a light at the end of the tunnel and you will become the beautiful swan you set out to be. Keep your chin up it only gets better.

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Many years ago my husband was the very thin one and we are still together for 42 years. He has been up and down on the scale too. Right now he sort of trying to get thinner with me. We go to the gym together and we both enjoy it. I married for better or worse and my worse was my weight.

Get your husband involved in your journey and he will be great helping you.

Good luck with re-enjoying your clothes. I call it, clothes shopping in my closet.

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Thank you, my husband supports my journey and its true that my worse in the better or for worse is my weight. He never had weight problems and can eat basically what ever he wants but with me trying to get ready for this life changing journey, he is cooking healthier options for me (i dont cook well) We agreed last night that we would walk the dogs every night again like we used to and he is going to help me join the Y next to our house. I seem to get jealous easier and when we are around pretty skinny girls i just feel worse but he assured me last night he does not want that and he wants me...just me happier and healthy.

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Yes it is an emotional journey. I promise you will look back and be grateful you had some time to get used to the idea if WLS. It took me 10 months to get banded from my initial exciting consulatation with my surgeon. In that 10 months...I cried, I beat myself up that I got so fat, I convinved myself I had no self control, I was excited, felt guilty, etc. etc. etc. But even with all those emotions....I started to learn to eat slower....take small bites.....chew my food....drink more water. I cherish those 10 months before the band. Because when the surgery finally got here....I was more ready than I was ever going to be!

Be kind to yourself.....use this as a chance to slow your eating down...take smaller bites.....chew your food (regardless of what your eating or how much)!

Sending good thoughts your way today!

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My husband loved me at 112 lb and at 290 lb. I tended to be insecure, like you, but went to counseling to deal with some of the emotional issues that contributed to my obesity. It might be something to consider. Hang in there! :)

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