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I don't understand

Like many others i am sure.... I get a lot of PMs from people at different stages of their journey asking how they can be as successful as I have been, what were my challenges, what do I eat etc....... And I answer each and every question. A handful of people, write back thanking me or expressing their concerns, frustrations etc....But I really am not sure why most of the others actually do not... I offer my opinions, answer their questions and give them the what worked for me speech... And then I never hear from them again. Not even a thanks for taking the time to answer me...

 

I am not expecting life long pen pals and i I am greatful when Someone actually acknowledges my repy... But for someone to take the time to write, m to take the time to answer I am baffled as to why they don't acknowledge my answer.

 

Just another thing to make you go hmmmmm

 

 

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dylanmiles23

LAP-BAND Patients

I have learned a lot from you and others on this site. Thank you all. I try to help others with my journey even though it is shorter than yours. Each of us have learned through our own progress and failures. Tonight I was full and wanted something but had nothing because I don't want to fail.

Thank you again for your views and pics of your surgeries.

kca1fan

LAP-BAND Patients

Well Floridays if I ever PM you (and I am sure I will sooner or later) and don't respond back to your answer I am sorry. I am on here daily and generally the first thing I do is look for you and a few others posts. I don't even know you all and you have helped me so much. I feel I should be sending you a thank you daily just for your posts. your answers, comments and blogs are usually spot on and full of common sense. I have surgery two weeks from today. yay I look forward to using you and others as my inspiration, motivation and knowledge as I take this journey. Thank you thank you thank you.

☠carolinagirl☠

LAP-BAND Patients

i feel you flo and i am so glad to know you and call you a friend.

i get pm's also and answer and then after i offer whatever i can

to encourage or suggest, its crickets. i guess sometimes i hit a nerve with my straight talking no BS answers, but i wasted enough time with doing that.

so, not much we can do.

so on behalf of everyone, thank you for being you

and encouraging everyone on this forum. whether or not

some thank you or not, i sure do. so please accept that from me on behalf of those who do not say it.

**IP~LB**

LAP-BAND Patients

lol, Funny you said this. I got two e-mails from banders who had their surgery the same day as mine and they see my weight loss and they PM me asking me how I am losing so much more weight then them, etc....I answered both in detail and not one replied back. I was like hmmmmm too!!!

I agree with Maddy, people don't always like what we say. For example, last night in chat I thought someone was rude by saying to me "I don't really want to hear it from a newbie" well this newbie (me) is doing really well and if my positivity is upsetting you because I am a newbie, then don't post in chat room and ask people's opinions if you don't want to hear it. I didn't respond to them in chat, I just took the high road and ignored the comment. I wanted to comment, but I could see this person is really struggling and I didn't want to add to her negativity.

Susan you and many others are a huge inspiration to us and I for one appreciate your feedback, PM replies and your posts ;) SO KEEP THEM COMING, lol.

On a side note, I am definitely going to look you up while I am visiting my friends and family in Tampa and take you to a CrossFit class!!

Have a great day!! ;)

FLORIDAYS

LAP-BAND Patients

You guys are all so cool.... I think Maddy and all of you have valid points.... some people just dont want to know this takes hard work and effort.

dee257

LAP-BAND Patients

Im with Maddys....they dont like your answers....

BUT thats ok they dont have to right..?

Thank you for all your words of wisdom...

and all the time you give helping me and others !!!

PattyGirl66

LAP-BAND Patients

Floriday, there isnt a time i look at your pictures, your results, or your progress that does not go un-noticed from me! I may not personally write you, but I read every single one of your comments/advice on here.

So, from me to you all- I read and listen and I thank you all from the bottom of my heart for being great supporters!

(hugs)

CaGottaBand

LAP-BAND Patients

Either they don't like your answers or they just have no manners!

CHEZNOEL

Pre Op

I appreciate every post I read from you!

Peachest

LAP-BAND Patients

I hve been reading all your post and every ones else's, so I am glad to hear answers that I have experienced, so don't worry about what people say just keep ding what matters to you, and good luck to you all.

Peachest

LAP-BAND Patients

I do thank you very much, for all your help, and that means every one.

destynee1

LAP-BAND Patients

You are amazing and that is so rude! Maddy has it right, they don't like what they hear AND they have bad manners. I remember being one of those in your inbox.. filled me with lots of hope and inspiration and you were always so very uplifting and positive. I thanked you then.. and thank you for all you do now. Continue being you.. we love her!

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