Telling People

Hi there! I have a similar situation. I haven't told anyone but my husband an a couple close friends. Not even family. I don't want to deal with "their" issues about "me" having weight loss surgery. I know at some point they are going to ask if I've lost weight and how as it becomes more noticeable. My plan is to tell them I am really watching the quality of my food and eating less. AS this is technically not a lie. But enough info to appease them. And if they say, "well I heard you had surgery" I won't deny it. But it just seems like everyone has their own opinions, and some not so positive. You don't need negative attention, it's a drain of your energy. Just my opinion.

I have also chosen to only tell a few immediate family members. This is such a personal decision, and since there is no right or wrong way to handle it, my advice would be to do whatever you feel most comfortable doing, and if that means keeping the band to yourself, then do it, and do NOT feel guilty! Reality is, we do most of the work anyway! The band is a wonderful tool, absolutely, but this lifestyle takes discipline, commitment and hard work in order for it to be successful. Focus on what you are doing (making healthy choices, limiting portion sizes and exercising) and proudly explain just that when someone asks your "secret".

I also have a similar situation with a relative who puts a negative spin on everything and can be very condescending (I would imagine most families have at least one person like that!), so I don't blame you one bit for choosing not to share this personal information with her! We can't change the mindset or behaviors of other people, but we do have the choice to protect ourselves from being subjected to their negativity. Good luck!

Very personal decision but I decided to be totally and completely honest. Now I did not sing it from the roof tops, but I told all my close friends and family I was having surgery. I was afraid of the negativity or maybe I should say the people who would think I took the easy way out. Wrong, this is harder than any diet I have been on. My advice is tell people when you are comfortable, you will need the support and when eating with others it will stop you from having to always explain why you do not eat certain foods.What ever you decide to do, just remain focused and honest with your self.