Baby Steps

Well, I've been researching this surgery for a few months now and have finally accepted it has become a necessity. With my kids being so young, I want to do something now so when they get older, they won't be teased about having a fat mom. The prospect of having this surgery has brought me unbelievable hope. My doctor agrees with my decision and will provide her approval for insurance to cover the surgery, and I have a tremendous supporter in my mom. I just wish my husband agreed with this. While he is supportive of whatever my ultimate decision is, he feels that I don't need to do this and he loves me exactly the way I am right now. Well and good, but I don't love me the way I am right now.....

Let the journey begin....

Good for you! Glad to see someone standing up for herself... However, you have to realize HOW LUCKY YOU ARE TO HAVE SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU AT ANY WEIGHT! I too, have a husband who loves and supports me at any weight... We are TRUELY BLESSED! Hang in there and good luck!

Good for you! You'll certainly get a lot of support HERE and hopefully your husband will come around. I'm sure he will. My husband loves me 'as is' too (God bless him - I don't know how I got so lucky) and only recently figured out just how important this lapband journey was to me. He really had no idea how often I thought about my weight and how many decisions were affected by my size... until I told him. Then one night, I was talking to him and leaning on our island (with my weight on my arms and elbows), and he said. "you do that a lot - are you okay?" and I said "ya, it's just hard to hold myself up sometimes". And then I saw the lightbulb go off. It's hard to be heavy... it's exhausting. He didn't know. Ever since then, he's been really supportive of the procedure....but he's scared too (being that its surgery and all). Maybe your husband is as well.

Anyway - best of luck to you!