i see members on here that post threads/pictures that say 92 pounds gone FOREVER...50 pounds gone FOREVER and so on and so 4th...i can't seem to grasp the FOREVER part...i'm the 1st person on here to tell people that ask me questions to "just relax and take it day by day"....i can't seem to follow my own advice when it comes to maintaining my loss...i CAN'T relax....i'm scared to death to relax...i don't think any loss from any type of weight loss surgery is FOREVER...i've seen people on here and in my own personal life put their weight back on...(mostly bypass patients)...i'm not doing anything different then i did to lose the weight...but i can't get over this fear of it coming back...i find myself working out harder to make sure it doesnt come back...my husband friends and family don't understand what i am going through...and now think i have a "problem"....who doesnt...lol....i can't live in that misery again...i can't do it...but i can't seem to grasp the FOREVER in my head either...its on my mind all day....everyday....i feel like if i have the FOREVER mind-set i'm going to get lazy....if i feel like if i think i'm invisible to ever gain my weight back i'm kidding myself...i'm happy going to the gym...i happy with what and how i eat...i didn't have to chage much about how i eat....i love meat...i just needed the portion control...i have that with my band...but i want to feel like i'm going to be okay...i want some1 to assure me that i'm going to be okay...that if i keep doing what i'm doing it won't come back...i'm totally stressed out about this...

I have a friend who has never been over weight who runs religiously. I don't think she is obsessed, but she loves it and she does it 4 to 7 times a week. I always wonder about people who act "worried" about us. Are they actually afraid you won't gain back the weight so they can say "I told you so"? I lost weight a couple years ago on a liquid protein diet, and people in my small town started saying things like "Wow are you just going to disappear"? Or "Are you sure this is healthy"? I am sure it will happen this time too. Oh well!!

Time is a tremendous healer, I think you will realize you are actually in control now and you will gradually stop being so fearful. Best of good wishes, and Congrats on your loss.....