Okay Guy Normally i am a Happy person :thumbdown: but recently i have been so depressed and i can not come out of it i wake up and cry and all this crazy-ness i can not even focus in school i'm sooooo sad:unsure:

Sending you a big virtual hug ( ) from the uk. Depression is a horrible thing but the dark cloud will lift. Hope life will soon feel more positive for you.

Oh darling! Hang in there. I was so MISERABLE in my second week, I was losing my mind and SO down in the dumps. I don't know if it is anesthetic or if it is just such a huge emotional adjustment or what - but it was awful. Going back to work was my only saving grace. I guess I felt so many things:

I felt disgusted with myself that I'd had to resort to this

Its not fair that I had to do this

I felt so scared it wouldnt work

I felt anxious it wasn't working fast enough

I felt like I would mess it up and fail.

I felt alone

They say that fear of failure and anxiety often manifests itself as anger and depression in the first month or so. We have done something HUGE to our bodies and HUGE to our lives, and the fear of it not working when we have been so excited but mainly as this has been our LAST RESORT - is very very scary.

Please know we are all in the same boat and that we are here, and feeling just as scared and just as vulnerable. Try to keep motivated and your eye on the END goal - where you WILL get - to a healthy weight - because you CAN do this!!! Look in the success forum with the before and after photos - cut out hot pics from magazines and make a scrapbook - sweet hot skinnyness is coming - so hang on baby!xxx

I agree with all of what lingling said but also would like to add that it could be due to addiction. My preop psych evaluation revealed that I have an addictive behavior.

The surgery came along and I gave up lots of stuff at one time...soda, caffeine, cigarettes and compulsive eating (including my decision to give up sugar and starches). I was a ball of nerves, moody and emotional and could see myself wanting to transfer my addictions elsewhere...I am not a drinker but alcohol was looking so good at that time. Once I understood what was causing my anxiety it helped a lot. Just knowing why you are feeling the way you are just seems to make it easier to deal with. I also took a supplement called SAM-e and I highly recommend it for anxiety and mood swings. It is a natural supplement that you can get at any pharmacy, a little pricey but worth it. After a few months I was over all my addictions and my nerves calmed a lot...Just something to consider.

Oh Hannah, ((((HUGS)))) I'm so sorry that you're feeling so down. I've been where you are after other life changing events in my life (death of daughter, death of old love, husband's health issues, etc.). You've been given great advice here from others. The only thing I want to add is maybe counseling. I personally feel that therapy, counseling, venting to someone who is there to listen 100% to you, is the absolute greatest gift you can give yourself. I've talked to professionals (seeing one currently to help with life banded and changes it will bring), pastor and regular Doctor. Maybe your school as a nurse or counselor you can talk to. Or better yet are there weight loss support groups near you?

I think I experienced my deepest depression the week before surgery. I suddenly realized that I was mourning the life I was leaving behind! It's crazy to think that I would actually mourn my fat self, but I was also mourning taking big bites of yummy foods and sodas and sweets and BREADS! I almost backed out of the surgery. But I went ahead and I'm really glad I did. I can eat right now and push my plate away without the awful feeling that I want to pull it back and dig right into it.

Anyway, I just wanted to say, you know we are all right there with you on this. We are all going to experience our down times at different times during this process. I agree with myturn2b about seeing a doctor or someone you can talk to about it. I have heard it is not unusual for people to go through this after WLS.

Hang in there and let us know how you are doing!

P.S. I love how motivating lingling is! You rock girl!

{{{HUG}}} Remember, and this too shall pass. One day, step, moment at time, you will get through. We are also here if you need to vent, cry out loud, whatever!!!

Hang in there, Hannah! I agree with everything that the others said above, and will add one thing that I deal with sometimes....when I am about to embark on something really exciting, I go through a wonderful, positive "high", and then when it's over....it's anti-climactic. We were so excited leading up to surgery, and now...the hard work starts.

But you've done so well, and I'm very proud of someone your age, being able to go through with this. Find other things to motivate you - like skinny jeans and sexy clothes in your near future. And by all means, find a support group to attend. Your doctor or the facility you had your surgery in should have something...I hope. If this doesn't improve soon, don't be afraid to seek counseling. Your body (and mind) have been through a lot in the past month) and asking for help is nothing to be ashamed of.

Hang in there!!

People suffering from anxiety, panic, stress and depression should consult a specialist and only then should use the medicine, as there can be various reasons behind the disorder. Medicines used to cure such disorders are habit forming and should be used for small duration. As per my personal experience, I have used Xanax and it helped me in getting over my panic and anxiety disorder. Along with medicine, the concerned person should take a break from his/her regular schedule, go out and take good sleep. Rather than going on drugs, one should look for the reason behind there problem . Keeping yourself busy and changing the schedule also helps sometimes to get over stress and depression.