We went out to dinner a few weeks ago, to a really nice restaurant. Its one that we only go to once a year, or when we have overseas visitors. My favorite meal there is the rib eye - the best piece of meat I've ever tasted. I'm lucky in that, I can still eat steak quite easily, as long as I take tiny bites and chew chew chew.

So I ordered the rib eye, even though I knew I wouldn't be able to eat it all. All of the things on the menu were quite large (portion wise), so I would have been in the same boat, regardless.

After about five tiny bites and sharing a good chunk of it with my daughter, I was all filled up. The waitress insisted something must have been wrong with the meal, judging by what was left on the plate. She just wouldn't drop it, even after I assured her that it was a beautiful meal and I was just full.

In the end, it was quite embarrassing and I left feeling guilty for being so wasteful. My hubby said not to worry about it and that as long as I enjoyed the meal, that's all that should count.

Was just wondering if anyone else had run into this issue and if so, how do you get around it?

Actually, I had the same thing happen when I went to a Chili's restaurant and got fajitas. I was all done and the waitress kept saying "you are sure nothing's wrong?" I have no issues sharing, so finally, when I was in the restroom I guess she came back one more time to ask my boyfriend if there was really something wrong and he explained a little about my surgery, so it was all good after that.

Sometimes if you talk to the waiter or the manager, you can see about getting half portions. I've considered doing that not for the price, but for the idea that I'm not waisting so much food. I have lots of trouble with reheated things, so quite often, taking home leftovers is pointless if it's not something my boyfriend will eat.

Happened to me too once. I said nothing was wrong twice, the third time I told them I am watching what i eat trying to lose weight. That usually shuts them up lol.

I usually tell the waiter/waitress... "Ive had weightloss surgey and I cant eat it all" - but only tell if they start questioning.

Parvathi,

Sometimes when I order I make a comment about not being that hungry or I order an appetizer. I am at the point where I dont care what they think......

Babs in TX

DH and I have gotten to the point where we share an entree. We are never questioned.

what you dont eat... take it home. Its not waisting food.. and you have a 2nd meal out of it.

hey girl,

don't sweat it, so you went out and couldn't finish your plate. most likely, you can't finish your plate when your at home. Just think of think of those leftovers as a meal you didn't have to cook..hehe

iamcanadian25

While we are on the topic of waiters/waitresses. I wanted to ask if anyone ever gets any funny looks when they ask what you will have to drink and you say nothing? They always do a double take and say "would you like water," and when I say no, they are even more surprised. I know I could just take the water and be done with it but I have a real problem with the not drinking during meals thing so I like to avoid it all together. More often than not I find myself having to explain to the waiter that I can't drink with my meals do to weight loss surgery yadda yadda yadda. It can be a pain sometimes but oh well I guess it would seem odd on the other side of the fence.

Hi Amber,

I always order a Water, but I make sure I finish the glass before my meal arrives, then refuse refills.

It does annoy me though that people tend to pester you til you have to just say, "Look, I've had surgery - now leave me alone" LOL.

I was looking for something to drink in addition to my Water at the convenience store on my way home from my fill the other day. An OVERLY helpful cashier kept suggesting things and I let him know, "No carbonation" I tried to pass it off as I don't prefer it but he went on and on about different drinks and I finally just said "I can't drink carbonation, I had weight loss surgery and I don't want carbonation" blah blah. And do you know what that little twit said?

"Have you tried Curves?"

My jaw almost dropped but I continued being nice and said I liked curves and, blah blah, bu-bye!!!!!

Twit.

I plan to share food with one of my two kids, so hopefully it will be dropped! LOL I can get bitchy if people keep pestering me. I think I scared a poor waitress at cracker barrel recently....she kept apoligizing everytime we asked her for something....it was really bothering me. LOL she was doing a find job but the sorry thing. So I fianlly said " you know you are doing great, but you really got to work on apologizing all the time." I thought she was going to cry. I will have to keep from speaking my mind on annoying presistance after surgery.

Melissa

Sometimes you have to see it from the other person's perspective. I've worked as a waitress before and very overweight people LOVE to eat (duh!) so to see a plate that has been barely touched you figure there's something wrong. When the person replies that nothings wrong, you get paranoid about whether something really is wrong and then you get FURTHER paranoid that the customers dissatisfaction will be reflected in the tip. So don't be offended. Next time just ask for a carryout plate ...you shouldn't be forced into telling ppl about your surgery if you don't want to.

And do you know what that little twit said?

"Have you tried Curves?"

had to laugh! Just like when that cariologist told my 600 pound husband "have you just tried cutting out sweets?"

I had a water experience myself. We were at Chili's and the waiter was asking what we wanted to drink. My son and husband said Sprite and I of course said "nothing, thanks". He asked if I was sure and he said "well, i can just bring you water". I told him that wasn't necessary but a few mintes later he came back with the 2 sprites and the water. We all said thank you and I moved the water to the side. A couple minutes later he came back to take our meal order and he once again asked about me not drinking my water. My 5 year old son chimes in and says "Mom can't have water with food. She has a rubber band in her stomach." My husband and I both cracked up even though we tried not to. The poor waiter was at a loss for words and he never again asked about my drink. As they say, from the mouths of babes.

LOL littlebigfarms - cute!!