hey everyone? how r u doing? i need some advice. since the end of march, 2008, i been going down hill with my success from my lap band surgery. i weighed 165lbs in march and ever since then i been like gaining 1-2 lbs hear and there. i cheat almot every single Day!!! i am being all stupid by cheating but i went through and still going through a bad time cuz in the end of march, my sister in law (My bro's wife) passed away and we still don't know what happened to her yet. she had gotten gastric bypass surgery in nov. 2007 and we had the same doctor and i just saw her a day before she passed away. and we were dieting together and ever since she passed away i haven't really paid too much attention to my diet. i need to get back on track with it. i didn't do all this hard work for nothing. I worked so hard and i lost 62lbs all togther since oct. 2007 and i am just going to wind up gaining all the weight back god forbid. can anyone help me get back on track with my diet? can anyone give me so suggestions and advice? please i would really appreciate it a lot! also i have another question. when i am done eating i usually hiccup a lot. does that mean that i am full? and once in a while i eat and drink at the same time. is really bad? cuz i think that it washes down the food. please help me out. thank you

Sorry to hear about your loss, you have to try to think positive.. I know that my seem hard but if there is one thing with stress it can actually make you gain weight because you give off this chemical.. can't remember what it is called but it works against you. Try not to cheat .. do something else, go for a walk, ride a bike, call a friend.

You do not want to gain back what you lost as this would just put you in a deeper spiral.

We are here for you!!

Take care and all the best!

Karen, its okay to mourn the loss of your sister in law. Do you have enough restriction?

My condolences to you Karen, your brother and your families on the loss of your sister in law. It sounds like she and you were a great partnership for eachother. Start off with small goals and steps for yourself....eg. for my next meal I will make a healthier food choice and I will chew my food slowly. If you make an unhealthy or easy choice (eg. icecream, milkshake) go easy on yourself and rather than thinking "oh well I have screwed up today so I may as well eat what I want for the rest of the day and start again tomorrow" recommit to choosing a healthier option for the next thing you eat.

Let your family know that you are making this change, ask them for support.

Yes you have gained some weight but you know that you have also lost weight before your sister in law's death. You will be able to get back on track however it is also important to give yourself time to grieve... you may be findng it a little difficult to focus too strictly on your food choices at the moment.

When feeling the urge to cheat, ask yourself.... will eating this get me closer to my goal weight. Is this something I would have eaten if my sister in law was next to me?

Get back on track one baby step at a time and remember to ask for support when you need it, especially at this sad time.

My condolences to you Karen, your brother and your families on the loss of your sister in law. It sounds like she and you were a great partnership for eachother. Start off with small goals and steps for yourself....eg. for my next meal I will make a healthier food choice and I will chew my food slowly. If you make an unhealthy or easy choice (eg. icecream, milkshake) go easy on yourself and rather than thinking "oh well I have screwed up today so I may as well eat what I want for the rest of the day and start again tomorrow" recommit to choosing a healthier option for the next thing you eat.

Let your family know that you are making this change, ask them for support.

Yes you have gained some weight but you know that you have also lost weight before your sister in law's death. You will be able to get back on track however it is also important to give yourself time to grieve... you may be findng it a little difficult to focus too strictly on your food choices at the moment.

When feeling the urge to cheat, ask yourself.... will eating this get me closer to my goal weight. Is this something I would have eaten if my sister in law was next to me?

Get back on track one baby step at a time and remember to ask for support when you need it, especially at this sad time.

hey every one, thanks for all ur support and advice and thanks mss for everything u told me. i do that all the time. when i cheat 1 day with like ice cream or something and i'm still eating healthy by dinner i'm like ah what the heck i'll cheat for the rest of the day and go back to my diet tomorrow, and i just wind up cheatin day after day which is really bad. i usually cheat with ice cream, or chocolate, or peanut butter lol and they are all no good for me. but i read what u wrote and it does make sense and i should be thinking and asking myself is this food gonna get me at my goal weight? i'm gonna think of that every time i feel the urge to cheat. so thank you.