Hi Everyone,

My name is Gloria. I have only had sex with two men. My first husband to whom I was married to for 26 yrs and my new husband to whom I have been married to for 1 1/2 yrs. I was brought up in a very strict Mexican tradition where the woman does not ask for she wants in the bedroom.

Well..now that I am of age of course and since I have lost weight, I feel like a part of me wants to be set free in the bedroom. I enjoy having sex with my new husband, and I want to learn to be the initiator. He has asked me "Why is he always the one to start things off".

Honestly, I was never taught and I feel embarrassed. I want to surprise him and I need ideas. The one thing I can say that I have hated see go with my weight loss are my breast. I feel that by me being more aggressive in the bedroom will not only help me with my self-esteem but will bring us even closer.

So...any suggestions or ideas are welcomed from both MEN and women.

Thanks.

Or Just grab their hands and put them where you want them !! LMAO

Men are easy ! The wind can blow on my husband and he is "ready"

:thumbup:<< Im sorry that smiley cracks me up !!

But really like the above poster said once you start voicing what you want and like it does get easier.

Mindy

I say buy some sexy lingerie and heels and take a few teasing pic's - nothing crazy that would have you worried about them landing in the wrong place, just enough to make him hot-and send them to his cell while he is at work. Start off with something sweet and then sexier as you send each additional one. By the time he gets home you wont have to ask for it :thumbup:

ROFLMAO we are having WAAAYYY Tooooo much fun with this thread !!

Mindy

Here are some idea's for us all. With Visual Aides

My favorite

Mindy

omg..i go hanging on a pole upside down and i'll hurt myself! hahahaha!

and people might be wondering about that wad of dollar bills in my purse...

lololol..:thumbup:

Bobbie

ROFLMAO OOOPS Sorry I forgot this link just in case someone wants to REALLY Spice things up .

Lil' Mynx Removable Dance Poles, Stripper Poles, Pole Dancing, Striptease Aerobics, Sheila Kelley's S Factor, Kim Kardashian, Paris Hilton

IN all seriousness I heard that you can take stripper pole dance lessons and they are suppose to be a REALLY good work out .

Humm might have to check that out . LMAO

Mindy

i guess this is quite fitting for my 1st post. LOL. because i am a perv. haha. BUT, i want to tell you that you are completely right. now is your time. your parents came from a time where passion wasn't as social as it is now, and you really need to live in that life that has been a no-no. :thumbup: it will be awkward at 1st, but its something that we need as humans and all things are successful with communication. so make sure that he knows where you are coming from. let him know that you can't wait to do all of these things to him, and that its all so new to you. in sexual situations, as a new beginning or refresher, you should take turns in guiding each other into the places, acts, and etc. with words. :thumbup: be verbal. and each will learn the magic points. and it's a change from the usual.

PASSION IS LIFE!!! :thumbup: in fact...the tango is a very passionate dance and i have this song on loop LOL... [ame=http://youtube.com/watch?v=pHO5KWIMZUo]YouTube - El Tango De Roxanne - Moulin Rouge[/ame] and i am redoing my room in MOULIN ROUGE. so.. :thumbup: it will be a love nest.

maybe you can do the same. kinda like feng shuey...or however it's spelled lol. make your room into a love nest, it will signify change and harbor passion and fantasy. :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: eeeeeeeee lol.

AND..if anyone said any of this already, i am so sorry. :thumbup: i was just too excited to post, so i hit "reply" lol. <3 PS..hi. :thumbup:

*cough* pole fitness is one of my goals. LOLOLOL. hahaha. i have this daydream of being married to my boyfriend and jumping on the pole to some awesome music before he comes home from work and watches me. LOL *time to HIDE*:thumbup::redface::thumbup::redface::thumbup::redface:

Go to Adam and Eve.com and check out some fun toys or a local adult toy store. Get a feather and run it near his neck and start to playfully nibble on his ear.........Schwing!!! He will hopefully get the hint. Or when u have a day off together, slip into the shower with him and get real sudsie. Offer to give him a masage, break out some candles, oil and I think Coltonwade was giving you a hint on what body part of yours to use.:thumbup: Like previously stated, men are usually saluting you in the morning.....not to much effort there. Hey make Breakfast just wearing a shirt no panties.

And because this is a lapband site, now let's not forget sugar free or light whipped cream and choc syrup kids. LOL

Hey for a the non acrobatic pole dancers........I saw a web site for these mesh like bungee swings you can hang to the bedroom ceiling. All you gotta do is bounce and enjoy the ride. That sounds really fun. You are never too old to yell "Weeeeeee". goodnight all.......gotta go google adult swings.

Yes you can take pole dancing lessons, that was one of the things I set up for my sisters Bachelorette party for just the bridesmaids! It was a blast and definately a good work out! I of course showed my hubby some of the new things I learned, now he wants a pole in our bedroom! LOL!

One of our favorite things to do when we go out of town is to find a new sex shop and buy some new toys to try out. Sometimes for me, sometimes for him, sometimes for both.

My favorite thing to do when I am trying to shock the man I am with has always been to tie their hands to the headboard or bed frame, preventing them from touching me, and then to tease them using...um, various means (oral, feathers, etc.) until they can't stand it anymore. Always makes them quite aggressive (which I like) when I untie them and leads to LOADS of fun.

I have always wanted one of those swings, but have been afraid the ceiling wouldn't hold me! That won't be the case much longer though. Sounds like I better start saving my money!

Hi Gloria. There is a really neat book called "The Joy of Sex". It's been out since the early '70's and has been updated a few times, I believe.

It's full of all sorts of good stuff with artistic pictures, the whole thing presented in an erotic rather than a porno way.

We often gave copies as wedding presents.

As soon as I am around 150lbs I am getting one of those swings. Just like Kathy, I'm afraid that I would cause serious structural damage to my house if I got one now...haha!

I like the idea of getting "The Joy of Sex". There is also a book called "Kama Sutra" that has lots of great ideas. Find a book that is artistic and sexy (rather than cheap and sleazy). Then look it over with your husband. You can look at the pics and get some ideas of things that you might like to try together. Tell him what positions look like they would be fun for you and suggest that you try it. Looking at all the sexy pics will get you and him in the mood, and my guess is you will be having sex right then and there!:woot: