I am about 5 days post op and I was wondering..........when is it safe to have sex already??????

Thanks

I have no issues answering this question honestly but it used to be a topic of concern/dispute/etc in LBT but I feel this is a very valid question.

There used to be a thread that addressed this issue in its entirity, but it is gone ((poof)). It dealt with sensitive issue such as sex and the types/positions/gratifications. I think the consesus that we got was that it was a very idividual issue. Some felt comfortable right away, some did not. Some found that modifying positions and trying new things worked best just after post op. Many claim that you should directly ask your doctor about the situation and take his/her advice. Many posted that being on top was more comfortable for them where as others claimed that being on bottom was better as long as he supported his weight off your tummy. I personally feel that the "spooning" (him from behind and on your sides) position would work well but I have not even attempted it yet. I want to wait till about 3 weeks post op and he respects that.

As for self stimulation, I think you can go for it when your ready.

As for oral gratification, I think the same thing, go for it when your ready. But we did have a conversation here about the "thouroughness" in which you as the woman complete the oral gratification upon the male. Most said (those that admitted or posted) that indulging in extra "digestion" wouldn't probably be the greatest and most didn't want to really try it again until extremely post op.

I think you and your partner should be able to sit down and discuss the varying ways to lead up to intercourse. It is a natural and excellent communication skill that humans everywhere are completing.

I hope I have answered this in the most delicate, yet direct, way possible.

to princess;

i have a ? can you look at the stomach & see where the port is? (under your skin) i hope this isnt a stupid ?

only by seeing the incision, if i press on it i can feel the port and a bit of hardness. Husband won't even feel it for fear of hurting me. I think within time he will. I have laid on my back and sucked in my stomach to see if I can see a "bulge" but nope.

Amber, if what you're worried about is strenuous exertion, the answer is: whenever you feel ready. That's it!

Amber I am soooooooooooooo dead on this one. I'm getting banded the day before my nineth wedding anniversary. No hankey panky that night LOL

Well Answered Jenna!;0)

Thanks guys......just needed to know because it's already been 6 days and thats long enough for me. I just want to be on the safe side but I think trying a couple of positions might help. Thanks for all of the advice guys and gals.

You go Amber! It seems like you just went in to surgery and here it is time for sex already!! Oh, you DID just...go in...to...surgery, WHAT?! Just kidding. Have a blast, glad to see you are recovering well!!!

Another question to be added...has anyone had their port area hurt after sex?? I am 5 months post band...and think I may hurt my port this past weekend. It was sore like a pulled muscle for 2 days, better today though...I wonder if anyone else has experienced this??

Hey guys my darling hubby and I took advantage of the beautiful Hilton in Monterrey and we did the wild thing the next day after surgery!! Hee hee No kids around to barge in!!

It was great by the way LOL

banded 3-4-05

Same for dh and I & we had all the kids in the hotel. (under age three and in cribs)