I am so down and frustrated with myself! I told myself that once I had the band I would control my drinking or give it up all together. I did good at first and now I am slipping. When I binge I probably put down 1000 calories in alcohol. Due to this my weightloss has halted and I have gained a pound. Any words of encouragment would be great!

You already know what you need to do. Get into an AA meeting. Ask your family to help you. Whatever situations make you want a drink, avoid them! If you can't avoid those situations, seek counseling. Since you posted this in the 12 step forum instead of in one of the other support forums, you already know that this goes deeper than just weight loss. Seek the help you need in real life, because it is a real problem. Don't give up, your son needs you to not give up.

You need to stop using to loose weight. If you can't stop for any reason then you have a problem. It is a problem you can over come. But it is a problem. Do 90 meetings in 90 days and you will understand.

I am so down and frustrated with myself! I told myself that once I had the band I would control my drinking or give it up all together. I did good at first and now I am slipping. When I binge I probably put down 1000 calories in alcohol. Due to this my weightloss has halted and I have gained a pound. Any words of encouragment would be great!

It's the obvious answer and one that your inner voice doesn't want to hear.. BUT... here it is...

STOP DRINKING!

I know... easier said than done... but you OWE it to yourself to do so through whatever means necessary. As other posters have said, there is AA.

If you're not a big fan of AA, I recommend seeking a therapist who specializes in Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) and ONLY CBT. This type of therapy focuses on your self-talk and the ways that distorted thinking affects our lives. It is EXTREMLY effective and insurance companies love it because significant results are often shown in 10 sessions or less.

Congratulations for recongizing that alcohol is an issue that is affecting your weight loss and wanting to do something about it. After all, admitting that you have a progem is 9/10ths of the journey towards overcoming it!

Remember to tell yourself daily that you WILL be successful and that NOTHING will stand in your way!

Anyone heard of any places in western australia like aa but help you with the cigarettes - normal cigarettes??

Thanks Westcoastfatguy. I appreciate your post, I have thought about therapy but was unsure what type of therapist I needed, they are all so different. I am not into AA, I have tried it 4 times over the last 3 years and it always fails me. I am not the type of person who can sit in a smoke filled room and listen to other people who seem to only want to hear themselves talk. I have my own problems I son;t need to hear other peoples'. Not trying to be selfish or incensitive but AA is just not for me, I don;t want to lean on other sick people I want to overcome my illness and take control of my thoughts. I AM strong enough to overcome this I just have not found the right tools yet, but I will take your suggestions. I have even tried CR through my church and it is better as far as positive fellowship and not as much the "Poor poor me" type stuff but still not effective for me.

THANKS!!

I'm sorry you are going through this. :frown: I'm actually surprised they banned you if they knew you were a heavy drinker.

I was just wondering if you are newly banded and if you have good restriction. The reason I ask is because I used to drink almost every night and once I got filled and finally had restriction (6 fills) I am not able to drink. The alcohol burns my stomach and I always throw up from it. I am probably too tight but since I am losing weight and had to give up drinking I am sticking it out!

I am newly banded. I have had one fill and have about .75 ccs in a 10 cc band. That is good to know, I am hoping the more fills and restriction I have will help with my choices.

That's really too bad that you don't feel like AA can help you. Have you tried other meetings? There are non smoking meetings. Some people don't like the meetings, but still get much benefit from having a sponsor.

Check this out. It may work for you.

www.moderation.org