ARe any of you satisfied with your weight loss, when your DH isn't? I've lost 97 pounds... I am a size 14. Now that isn't in the obese range at all anymore. I'm happy with the way I am... but, my husband wants me to lose 30 more pounds. I'd like to lose it too, but... not as quickly as he wants me to. I've been dieting all my life, and I'd like to enjoy a few things now. I'm not talking about being able to eat a whole cake...but, I ate a few pieces of hershey's minitures on Easter, and my husband was all over it. I just want to tell him to shut up about it. How do you feel? When is enough enough?????

I would seriously listen to what he is saying, and rather than getting upset about it, consider how positive this could affect things for the both of you.

My personal experience - I love sex. I want my husband to want me more and enjoy it. Men are visual creatures. The last thing I would want is for my husband to stray elsewhere due to not being turned on by me. There's a big difference between love and sex/lust. Can't have just one or the other for a long-term relationship.

You say you are happy now...just imagine how fabulous things could get between the two of you if you lose more weight!

However if it is him wanting you to be anorexic or unrealistically thin, or harping on you for everything therefore affecting your self esteem, then I think that's a different story.