hey i was wondering-- any one else feel like this is a dream and some one is going to wake you up and you'll be back at your old weight? i feel like i sould have been working harder at loosing weight than i am, i am loosing but i feel a little down on my self. any words of incouragement? help

i was banded on dec 4 2007

310/280/238/150

high/surg/curnt/goal:Banane43:

Oprah, on her talk show, speaks about psychological issues that make us fat in the first place - haunt us when we actually lose the weight. In fact, it is implied that gastric bypass can lead to alcoholism. Now that I am only a few pounds from my goal weight, I think more about why I was over-eating. One reason was the constant hunger - but there were other reasons too. I know this, because I would not over-eat when others were watching me.

I think the lack of the ability to over-eat tends to make us either address the real issues OR we find another vice.

Good luck figuring out what the REAL issue was.

I have the same fear as you do. It is especially bad when I go a few days without losing (and that happens often, I'm a slow loser). As soon as the scale stays on one number I hear the voices in my head..."See, it isn't working, just like you knew it wasn't...you'll never reach your goal weight...It was wrong to get your hopes up" I am really working on trying to shut those voices up and wonder if I ever really will!

I have actually been concerned about that very issue I know there are triggers and reason's behind my overeating and weight, but I can't see it when it's happening I just want a cheese steak. I just don't see the coralation or what causes me to feel that way but i'm sure its something. So I'm hoping to start counceling once I get my surgery so that i'm not only helping myself get physically healthier but mentally also.

First of all, you've lost a LOT since your surgery! You are doing FANTASTIC! I think we all at some point wonder if the bubble is going to burst. It does get easier (for me it did anyway). I am coming to accept my new body and really love it. That being said, I still have flashes where I feel like I am just "renting" someone else's body and the contract's gonna run out pretty soon and like Cinderella I will wake up....but I will be the pumpkin! (HAHAHA) But...I refuse to let myself be a VICTIM anymore. I am taking control. I am in the driver's seat and I will say what happens to me now. Optimism is the name of the game and I've never been more optimistic in my whole life!

I think the doubts come from all the times I have lost weight before and hit a hard plateau, then eventually gave up and regained it. This time, though, I have a great tool to push me through the barrier and keep me from backsliding.

I think the doubts come from all the times I have lost weight before and hit a hard plateau, then eventually gave up and regained it. This time, though, I have a great tool to push me through the barrier and keep me from backsliding.

I think you have did an awesome job, I was reading your post and looked at your weight tracker. WOW you have kicked it in the butt! I was banded 9/27/07 and seem to only average a pound a week, would you mind sharing what you have done to be so sucessful? I wouls really appreciate it.

I agree with what the others have said...your weight loss so far seems to be fantastic. I definitely sometimes feel as if this is a dream however the one thing that makes me remember that it is real is the changes that I have made in my life so far - at the gym 4 times a week, eating things I never would have looked at before ie. healthier choices and when going out with friends I actually suggest that we combine going for coffee with going for a walk! It is these changes which make me believe that for the first time in my life I am not going to 'try' to lose weight but that I am going to DO it.

I am still in bandster hell and had plateaued for a while and then, even worse, I put on weight when I was overseas for a wedding! I felt sorry for myself for a couple of days, watched the scales creep even higher and then decided that I needed to do something. I reread all of the information the doctor gave me about the band and what I should be doing and I worked my butt off even harder at the gym and thankfully I am once more losing weight.

Well done so far and remember that you aren't alone.

We've all struggled with our weight and suffered "failures" which have created a self-defeating mindset for us all. This process is not just watching your food intake, but fighting those demons that have been with us for years. Don't let them get to you. You will succeed with this....keep reminding yourself.

good morning everyone, what i know of myself, eating was a punishment for being fat if that doesn't sounds crazy i don't know what does. everyone has this inner ego and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. it just comes out in different venues. i am pretty normal (?) and when i get stressed i tend to eat and then eat more for not facing issues head on, so i am recognizing my eating issues, and taking control and not being LAZY. making meals when they need to be made instead of taking the easy approach and grazing. the band is a tool and will only work as well as i want it to work for me. but that is just me.