my hubby and i have been married for a year and dated for 2 year....when we 1st started dating he told me how much his sister meant to him and if she didnt like me he would probably stop talking to me...i didnt think much of this cuz i really wasnt looking for a serious relationship...his sister liked me and we get a long and everything....but every couple of weeks this b*tch will say or do something so evil that i wanna kill her....and if i ever try to vent to hubby it always my fault and im acting like a b*tch......for example she owes us $1900.00 which she had to pay back Jan 1st..so we can pay rent...she calls us on the 1st and says she doesnt get paid until the 5th and will give us the money then...our rent is due on the 5th...so its 5th and she says she still doesnt have her pay check yet and she will get it on the 7th early in the am...so around 10am today i went by her office asked for the check i got a really rude and wtf relpy..."Well I dont have my paycheck you guys just need to sit tight until i can get the money...and please dont bring personally business into my office" out of respect for my hubby and my mother and father in-law i kept my mouth shut! so now its 2:30 and of course my hubby hasnt called the land lord to tell him wats going on...the landlord called saying it needs to get paid today!! i call hubby tell him to call his sister and ask for the money today before 5...cause we have to depoist into the landlords bank! he tell me to call her...i tell him if she says something stupid im going to snap and tell her off.....this is wat my hubby said ......"will you just stop acting like a total bitch...shes trying her best to get the money to us..its not like shes going to run away and we are never going to see her....god anita you can be such a bitch" so i tell him to go shove it....he tells me " shut the fuck up bitch" and hangs up on me!!!! i think im going to go home pack my bags and go to my mothers house who lives 5 hours away! anyone else think im being a total bitch??

sorry i know this is long but i had to get it off my chest theres no one else to turn to!

It's such a difficult decision to make. I've been there. I'm only 32 but being a bad judge of character, I've been married 3 times.

Life is short, so make the most of it. But, it is a bloody long time if you are miserable.

Do what you feel is the right thing and have no regrets - that is my motto for life.

Thinking of you,

Jen

I'm with the rest of the crowd.

No one will ever talk to me like that without me laying his ass flat on the ground.

I'm with the rest of the crowd.

No one will ever talk to me like that without me laying his ass flat on the ground.

I'm with the rest of the crowd.

No one will ever talk to me like that without me laying his ass flat on the ground.

Stand your ground. If he doesn't beg your forgiveness on bended knee with the moola in hand, kick his ass right out the door straight on over to his bitch sister's house.

It sucks, but I doubt things will change. He pretty much told you his sister came first when you first started dating, and now he's confirmed it.

The lease is in your name and not both names? So he has no incentive to pay the rent--it won't mess up his credit. Sounds to me that he has problems accepting responsibility. He tells you to talk to his sister, she gets mad, then he calls you a dog in heat because you made her mad! This guy is good at wiggling out. The only way I'd let this guy back is after some counseling.

I agree with everyone else. It sounds like your hubby has a bit more growing up to do. You are not being mean for asking to get money on the date it was promised. Your SIL should be kissing your two sets of feet because the two of you were kind enough to let her have the money in the first place! I'm a bit taken aback by her reaction.

Be careful while standing your ground though...in my experience, angry men sometimes do really stupid things. I don't want you to get hurt. Have someone home with you when he gets his stuff (preferably someone like your dad or very large brothers/male friends if you have any). Make sure you have bank accounts/credit cards in your own name as well or your hubby might leave you with nothing! You may want to speak with a lawyer to double-check if there are any other steps you should take to protect yourself financially.

You just learned the hard way why relatives should try to avoid loaning money to each other if possible (or if you do loan a relative money, make sure you are able to live comfortably without it because you may never see it again). You also have to be very careful about co-signing loans for the same reason. People have had their credit ruined because the other co-signer was irresponsible.

I wish you the best of luck and I hope you are able to move forward without too much drama!!!

well i talked to the landlord and if the money isnt in his account tonite he is going to kick us out tomorrow morning...then called my parents told them i was coming my parents are going to lend me the money to pay the rent and they said i could pay them back whenever they are not in a rush...called my husband told him to get his shit outta my house by the end of the week...or else im calling the cop....the lease is under my name..he asked where the hell is he supposed to live until we resolve our issues i suggested his loving sister house!!

Good for you! That's an even better solution than going to your parents', especially since the place is only in your name. Definitely be there when he gets his stuff, and definitely have someone there with you when he is there.

And definitely dump him! He is mean to you and has far too much growing up for you to have deal with. You can do much better for yourself than this one.

And definitely dump him! He is mean to you and has far too much growing up for you to have deal with. You can do much better for yourself than

thanks ladies i went my parents house last night..went home this morning to get some more stuff and he already has a few boxes of his shit packed!!!!im gonna be freee and single!!!

If he's going to act so irresponsibly, then it is past time for him to go.

If he really cared about you and your MARRIAGE, he would have been at your doorstep, begging for another chance, with the MONEY FROM HIS SISTER IN HAND.

He hasn't done that, he's packing already. Tells you right there how much he loves and cares about you and your committment to one another.

This man was not ready for marriage, nor will he possibly ever be if he's going to let a sister dictate who he is with.

I wish you luck and happiness and good health!

Brava to you for standing up for YOURSELF! It's gonna be a rough start to 2008, but I'm going to bet this will be an amazing year for you!

Just so ya know, landlord can't legally kick you out without 30 day notice, even if it is for non-payment.

So if they try to kick you out the next morning, call the cops.

And sorry you're going through all this :eek:

If he's going to act so irresponsibly, then it is past time for him to go.

If he really cared about you and your MARRIAGE, he would have been at your doorstep, begging for another chance, with the MONEY FROM HIS SISTER IN HAND.

He hasn't done that, he's packing already. Tells you right there how much he loves and cares about you and your committment to one another.

This man was not ready for marriage, nor will he possibly ever be if he's going to let a sister dictate who he is with.

I wish you luck and happiness and good health!

Brava to you for standing up for YOURSELF! It's gonna be a rough start to 2008, but I'm going to bet this will be an amazing year for you!

i have to agree completely with faith. my dh can say some really stupid things sometimes, and i think a lot of men can, but if i dare to tell him to leave, he would collapse in the floor begging for forgiveness. that does tell you right there where he stands.

now, me being with a man who can say some stupid things sometimes (i say stupid things to him a lot also). you have to pick your battles, much like a 2 year old, but if your husband is openly choosing his sister over you, then there are deeper problems there and you should not have to subject yourself to it. perhaps he did not realize the committment involved in MARRIAGE.