So a letter came in the post a couple of days from the hospital.

They offered me the 16th of November and as I read the date I felt my heart drop to the pit of my stomach.

I said that I wouldn't be able to do that date and would February be possible [emoji28] the lady said no February is too late, we're going to offer you one more appointment in January at the latest and if you decide not to take it you will be kicked off the program and will have to be re refferd by your doctor again.

That was me told lol.

Looks like I'm really going to have to make a decision soon. This is so hard. One day I wake up with such confidence like what's the big deal? Loads of people can do it so can I! The next day I'm full of anxiety and thoughts of complications.

In regards to complication worries:

Are you at more risk the older/bigger/unhealthier you are?

Or can leaks etc just happen to anyone?

I'm 26, not the biggest but obviously big enough, have no medical problems such as high blood pressure or diabetes. Only pcos which is to do with hormones.

If any of you read my last post you're probably thinking "not her again, stop being a chicken and just go for it" lol. I do apologize. There will probably be another post next week from me crying [emoji23]

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When you are ready, I am sure you will do fine. Complications from surgery are infrequent if you follow your DR's advice.

I can only speak for me; I am kicking myself for not doing the surgery sooner. I think of all the activities I have missed out on with my daughters because I was too fat. I also think of all the embarrassment they had because their father was the most overweight guy in the stadium. I am sure I hurt them as much as I was hurting myself. People say they don't notice but wait until you have the surgery and start to live a healthy life. You will have people that you never thought cared come up to you and tell you how great you look. That should go to show you that people do take notice they just don't say anything.

I allowed my weight to rob me of so much, you are still very young don't let it take any more from you.

Diabetes is no joke; it is a horrible way to go. My Dr told me they were going to start at my toes and start cutting but the good news is by the time they got to my knees I should be blind so I will not see the effects.

All my girls are away at school and are coming home for the Holidays; they have no idea that I had the surgery, I did it for myself first but also for them.

Good Luck, hope you change your mind.

FYI my blood sugar never gets above 140 after eating and stays around 85.

Edited November 6, 20178 yr by JeffN

34 minutes ago, JeffN said:

When you are ready, I am sure you will do fine. Complications from surgery are infrequent if you follow your DR's advice.

I can only speak for me; I am kicking myself for not doing the surgery sooner. I think of all the activities I have missed out on with my daughters because I was too fat. I also think of all the embarrassment they had because their father was the most overweight guy in the stadium. I am sure I hurt them as much as I was hurting myself. People say they don't notice but wait until you have the surgery and start to live a healthy life. You will have people that you never thought cared come up to you and tell you how great you look. That should go to show you that people do take notice they just don't say anything.

I allowed my weight to rob me of so much, you are still very young don't let it take any more from you.

Diabetes is no joke; it is a horrible way to go. My Dr told me they were going to start at my toes and start cutting but the good news is by the time they got to my knees I should be blind so I will not see the effects.

All my girls are away at school and are coming home for the Holidays; they have no idea that I had the surgery, I did it for myself first but also for them.

Good Luck, hope you change your mind.

FYI my blood sugar never gets above 140 after eating and stays around 85.

You're absolutely right! Diabetes is no joke at all. Your blood sugar is very well controlled and after a very short period of time. Mine is starting to come down now that I am, at least, eating much better and less. It's still higher than I want. I have neuropathy in my feet but since I am a newer diabetic, the doctors seem to think all of this will reverse as I lose weight. I don't want to die. I wish I had started this process earlier in my life too. :-(

Edited November 6, 20178 yr by BlackCatMatt

I understand your concern and this SHOULD be a hard decision. It totally alters your life, but in SUCH a great way! Think of all of the simple things that are hard to do. After surgery, they wont be. You will no longer get winded so easy, it wont be a hassle to tie your shoes, it wont suck to buy clothes etc... Also you mentioned you are not diabetic, don't have high blood pressure... there should be another word attached which is "YET". I 100% guarantee you will.
Lastly, if you are not an atheist I say let go and let God. We are all going to die and complications happen but it is super rare. Let your higher power do the worrying for you. Whatever your decision is you can get support here. Nobody will judge you here. [emoji4]



51 year old woman
VSG DATE: 10/28/17
5' 5"
HW: 259
CW: 239
GOAL: Healthy and hard! 140-ish???

I mean, there are people who have "pushed through" and lost the weight, but...for me , the complications of surgery are way lower and less of a risk factor than those of staying overweight. Add to that the fact that the chances of you getting the weight off on your own and keeping it off are extremely slim -- I believe the number is somewhere around 1/125 people actually succeed in doing this. That's less than a 1% chance of success.
If you want to give it a try, give it a try. Maybe you're the one in a hundred who can do it. But I'm not sure what you're so afraid of in surgery. And, again, it really sounds to me like you need to talk to a psychiatrist about it all before you make a decision either way.

Wow I didn't know that. That's so low [emoji29]
I think with me it's the maintaining more. I really do feel like I will regret this.

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When you are ready, I am sure you will do fine. Complications from surgery are infrequent if you follow your DR's advice.
I can only speak for me; I am kicking myself for not doing the surgery sooner. I think of all the activities I have missed out on with my daughters because I was too fat. I also think of all the embarrassment they had because their father was the most overweight guy in the stadium. I am sure I hurt them as much as I was hurting myself. People say they don't notice but wait until you have the surgery and start to live a healthy life. You will have people that you never thought cared come up to you and tell you how great you look. That should go to show you that people do take notice they just don't say anything.
I allowed my weight to rob me of so much, you are still very young don't let it take any more from you.
Diabetes is no joke; it is a horrible way to go. My Dr told me they were going to start at my toes and start cutting but the good news is by the time they got to my knees I should be blind so I will not see the effects.
All my girls are away at school and are coming home for the Holidays; they have no idea that I had the surgery, I did it for myself first but also for them.
Good Luck, hope you change your mind.
FYI my blood sugar never gets above 140 after eating and stays around 85.

My dad has diabetes and he takes soooo many medications for it, plus injections!
Thank you for your reply really appreciate it. Am slowly but surely getting convinced

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I understand your concern and this SHOULD be a hard decision. It totally alters your life, but in SUCH a great way! Think of all of the simple things that are hard to do. After surgery, they wont be. You will no longer get winded so easy, it wont be a hassle to tie your shoes, it wont suck to buy clothes etc... Also you mentioned you are not diabetic, don't have high blood pressure... there should be another word attached which is "YET". I 100% guarantee you will.
Lastly, if you are not an atheist I say let go and let God. We are all going to die and complications happen but it is super rare. Let your higher power do the worrying for you. Whatever your decision is you can get support here. Nobody will judge you here. [emoji4]



51 year old woman
VSG DATE: 10/28/17
5' 5"
HW: 259
CW: 239
GOAL: Healthy and hard! 140-ish???

Yeah it makes sense, surely I should get surgery to prevent it not just wait til I'm at that stage.

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