I'm 3.5 years out from gastric sleeve surgery and got below my goal but in the last two years have put on about 15 lbs. I need to lose 10 to get back to goal. My problem is that I started drinking. I'm so ashamed and feel so guilty. I did so good and was doing everything right. Now im afraid that I won't be able to lose the weight.

I know I need to stop drinking but it's been hard because a lot of the people I hang out with drinks including my husband. Excuses I know. When I don't drink I get asked every time why I'm not drinking.

I see that this is not uncommon but I'm actually putting myself out there and admitting I have a problem. Any words of encouragement?

So you can fake drinking...I was married to an alcoholic and I faked it when we were with friends. I was my own bartender, the life of the party chatting up people, getting their drinks. I made fake drinks with a slice of lemon and whatnot in my glass but it had pretty much zero alcohol, and if someone else made one, I would carry it around awhile and then dump it out in the bathroom. I had to drive home. Or say you have an ulcer and can't drink alcohol.

Honestly do you want to not drink? Or are you lamenting aimlessly and want permission?

37 minutes ago, Sosewsue61 said:

So you can fake drinking...I was married to an alcoholic and I faked it when we were with friends. I was my own bartender, the life of the party chatting up people, getting their drinks. I made fake drinks with a slice of lemon and whatnot in my glass but it had pretty much zero alcohol, and if someone else made one, I would carry it around awhile and then dump it out in the bathroom. I had to drive home. Or say you have an ulcer and can't drink alcohol.

Honestly do you want to not drink? Or are you lamenting aimlessly and want permission?

Yes I want to quit drinking. That's why I came here and posted.

I don't know your relationships and how much you want to share with friends about your wls, but your husband needs to be your champion, your defender to be the best you there is and you need to be kind to yourself in the process as well. Have a frank talk with him (when not drinking or distracted). Some people are not going to undrrstand because they fear the changes - you will 'judge them for drinking', 'harbor resentments', they will think you are not fun unless you drink, these are all possible roadblocks to your success unless you get a backbone and say 'this is my health, this is serious stuff' - this is what I NEED.

Good luck.

Thank you.

It could be transfer addiction because you cannot really eat to excess but you can still drink. It might be a good idea to work on what emotions etc you were soothing with food.