So I've been working out with a trainer and eating right lost 25 pounds so far I have surgery next month and I'm questioning do I still want it I know many people that got it and they look sick and unhealthy I was wondering do anyone regret having surgery ???

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Thank you to everyone who shared their thoughts, good and bad, on this thread. It really helps people like me who are in the planning phase of things.

I agree with @@HurricaneU that the weight loss is usually the easier part, but it's the weight maintenance that's difficult. I would see WLS as a tool to help maintain a loss. I do have to admit I would be upset if I lost slowly, though. So I understand why that's so frustrating. I guess that is something I should get prepared for in case it happens to me.

As for people who look "tired" or older after losing a lot of weight... I guess I figure I'm getting this surgery as a way to be fitter and do things I can't do right now. Shovel snow, climb up into the attic, set up/break down during camping, help my friends move, etc. etc. etc. etc. etc. etc. So maybe I will look like a tired, saggy old hag afterward but as long as I get strong enough to live the way I want to live physically I will be OK with that.

No regrets whatsoever. Had an easy, quick recovery. I can eat decent amounts with restriction, have had no vomiting or anything like that. My skin and hair have never looked better. No hair loss, and complexion is flawless eating so clean with all this Water. I'm loving going from a 22 to a 16. I have gone down a bra band size, and my booty is shrinking, which I and hubby miss, but I'm at the gym hard now trying to bring it back.

I only wish I had known to do the surgery 10 years ago and not wasted some of the best years of my young life being self-conscious and overweight with esteem issues.

I've heard that the tired, "look of death" appearance goes away after a few months.

I'm only a few days post op, but I was already able to stop taking my diabetes meds and I take only half a dose of 1 of my previous 2 meds for high blood pressure. So no regrets for me!

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The reason people look sick a day unhealthy is because they ignore nutrition.

Take your Vitamins, meet and exceed your Protein goals and you will glow right on up.

People that use surgery as a way to starve themselves end up looking terrible.

I look easily 10 years younger than my age, and this is what other people tell me not my opinion.

I also eat high fat which helps with looking good and having nice skin.

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I haven't had my surgery yet so you can discount my opinion if you want to. I am getting this surgery not because I can't lose weight, but because I can't keep it off once I lose it. It's awesome that you've lost 25 pounds, but your chances of keeping it off for 5 years is somewhere between 2-4% without surgery. Bariatric surgery gives the best chance available today to keep the weight off long term because it's the only thing that resets your body's weight set point to a lower level giving you a better chance at keeping it off. Set point is the high weight your body will fight tooth and nail to get back to. It's why it's so hard to maintain weight loss otherwise. You can still gain the weight back if you don't change your habits around food and exercise, but at least you have a chance to keep it off. 2-4% is no chance at all.

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My question exactly. I have a friend that had a surgery in '09, lost a bunch of weight, looks really good, but still cannot eat much. Cannot enjoy times out with friends, because if she ate a bit too much she feels sick and has to sit for 20 min to digest it. I'm wondering is this the experience for everyone?

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I enjoy being out with friends. My enjoyment just doesn't involve mass quantities of food now. Yes I eat but I find that I'm more involved in the conversation than I've ever been and I feel like I get so much more out of the time that I've spent.

How about drinks? Beer, vodka, wine?

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You can drink if you want.

Hard liquor doesn't have carbs so that is better than beer. Take it neat or with a low carb mixer.

I don't really drink but I have had a few drinks since surgery.

Wine is too acidic for early post op.

Drinking alcohol is counter productive go trying to lose weight but there is nothing to stop you. It just isn't suggested.

How could I regret getting my life back?

I'm down 92 pounds, from a size 22 to a size 6. I'm active, healthy, and my self esteem has shot up. I was in constant pain while fat. I couldn't keep up with my kids. Now, I'm the mom I wanted to be. We've gone skiing and ice skating and trampolining together.

I also don't miss out on good food and good parties. I just eat less and drink less (which is fine because alcohol hits so much harder now).

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I lost about 44 lbs in 3 months without surgery. Did that stop me from getting sleeved? hell no!!

I am learning to embrace my sleeve. My problem has always been quantity not quality. I ate a lot of healthy food. And a lot of starches too..

My sleeve allows me to eat a whole lot less of that without battling hunger. Now it's just Proteins proteins and more proteins.. now I've lost another 30...

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I looked a bit pallid after surgery, but now I am feeling and looking better. I know exactly the 'death warmed over' look you're afraid of, I know someone who got sleeved and had that look. But I also know that person had a lot of problems with Protein and nutrition. The protein and Water goals are SOOOO important. I'm only 27 days post-op, but I feel good 90% of the time. 10% is me over-doing it or eating too soon after drinking. I have absolutely no regrets from having this surgery--even when everyone was having steak at Christmas and I had Soup. I enjoyed and savored every flavor.

The reason people look sick a day unhealthy is because they ignore nutrition.

Take your Vitamins, meet and exceed your Protein goals and you will glow right on up.

People that use surgery as a way to starve themselves end up looking terrible.

I look easily 10 years younger than my age, and this is what other people tell me not my opinion.

I also eat high fat which helps with looking good and having nice skin.

I agree, even thou I am not scheduled until maybe April for surgery, my nutrionist has me taking vitamins now, she stated its best to have you system at its possible best before surgery, but also to eat more Proteins now so it will be in your system for better recovery.

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I had surgery on 12/19/16. I am currently going through a period of surgery regret. It's not because of not being able to eat large quantities anymore since I didn't really do that before hand. It's not about not being able to drink since I don't drink. For me my regret currently is because of two things mainly.

1. I'm losing too slowly for my taste. I feel like I butchered myself for nothing since I could lose faster just by eating low carb.

2. What weight I have lost seems to have all come from my boobs. I am not pleased with how my body looks already.

Will I forever regret the surgery? Doubtful. But right now that's how I feel.

That's my concern I've lost weight already and now I'm questioning it this is right for me because it seems so much to follow

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I've heard that the tired, "look of death" appearance goes away after a few months.

I'm only a few days post op, but I was already able to stop taking my diabetes meds and I take only half a dose of 1 of my previous 2 meds for high blood pressure. So no regrets for me!

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I honestly don't want that look at all I'm to young to look that way I'm really just thinking of giving up on and push myself the way I have to lose the weight and maintain and do a complete life change

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I haven't had my surgery yet so you can discount my opinion if you want to. I am getting this surgery not because I can't lose weight, but because I can't keep it off once I lose it. It's awesome that you've lost 25 pounds, but your chances of keeping it off for 5 years is somewhere between 2-4% without surgery. Bariatric surgery gives the best chance available today to keep the weight off long term because it's the only thing that resets your body's weight set point to a lower level giving you a better chance at keeping it off. Set point is the high weight your body will fight tooth and nail to get back to. It's why it's so hard to maintain weight loss otherwise. You can still gain the weight back if you don't change your habits around food and exercise, but at least you have a chance to keep it off. 2-4% is no chance at all.

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I feel everything is life change because you can have this surgery and don't keep it off I seeen people gain more weight on this diet it have the mind of matter you have to want to change everything you have to want to have a healthy life change yes this surgery is a boost but I would hate to go through this process and come out looking sick or suffering when I could have simply push my self

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So I've been working out with a trainer and eating right lost 25 pounds so far I have surgery next month and I'm questioning do I still want it I know many people that got it and they look sick and unhealthy I was wondering do anyone regret having surgery ???

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Surgery is not for everyone. If you feel you would be successful doing a life change. That's great.

I have dieted on my own for years. My weight yo yoed. Surgery is a long term weight loss outcome for me. I'm two and a half years out. I'm still maintaining. I'm now another person you have met that has had surgery. Let me know if you think I look sick and unhealthy.

I agree with the other people that have posted about nutrition and vitaimins. working out will help build muscle instead of burning it.

The goal is healthy whatever that looks like for you...

"Regrets are a waste of time. They're the past crippling you in the present"

--Frederico Fellini