I honestly wish I would've kept this decision a secret from everyone but my immediate family...so much negativity....I can't deal. All I wanted was support and instead I got people questioning my decision and telling me what they feel I need and don't need. And it's truly frustrating and irritating because I'm going to do what I want regardless but all the negativity is coming out impact this journey negatively and I don't need or want it. I can't even talk to one of bff because they don't approve. ✌✌✌

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You don't need their approvals. This is going to make you grow an even thicker skin. Personally I'd wait for them to say something then shoot back with I don't remember asking you for criticism, I asked for support

Lol knowing my petty self that is what I'll do

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I'm stealing it

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@@BubblesOhSoSleeved, if it makes a difference, you're far from the only one to be let down by people you thought you could count on. The subject comes up almost daily.

Simply let those people know they let you down and that you were asking for support, not opinions, that you're fully aware of what's right for you. For good measure, end the brief discussion by telling them the topic closed.

Not that it's likely to change your view of things, but most people who are negative fear losing something. Often they are significantly overweight and don't want to be the only one

Focus on yourself. The whole thing is about you, your life, your health and your future, not to mention your gorgeousness. Screw 'em.

@@BubblesOhSoSleeved, if it makes a difference, you're far from the only one to be let down by people you thought you could count on. The subject comes up almost daily.

Simply let those people know they let you down and that you were asking for support, not opinions, that you're fully aware of what's right for you. For good measure, end the brief discussion by telling them the topic closed.

Not that it's likely to change your view of things, but most people who are negative fear losing something. Often they are significantly overweight and don't want to be the only one

Focus on yourself. The whole thing is about you, your life, your health and your future, not to mention your gorgeousness. Screw 'em.

Thank you!!

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Girl at the end of the day all that matters is your health and YOUR happiness! Granted the support of your loved ones is something you want but at the end of the day your going to be happy with yourself and the decision YOU made! Good luck and you have a community of supporters for you right here! ????

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Yeah I have my family on board and best friend who knew me when I was a size 3/5 is as well. My male best friend is on board after me going off lol and boyfriend just wants me to be happy but my overweight best friend and another over weight "friend" aren't and think I should just diet and exercise telling me im not thst big and don't need ???? I'm just over it. They just won't know when I have my surgery

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I am struggling with what is the right thing to tell. I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone's business. I don't want to lie. However I don't think I can cope with the haters.

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I am struggling with what is the right thing to tell. I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone's business. I don't want to lie. However I don't think I can cope with the haters.

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Honestly it's no one's business, just say you've gone on a weight loss program that's medically supervised

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Thank you

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My biggest push is that I will live a longer, happier and healthier life And for anyone who doesn't understand or care, you just have to think about your self and your close family that is supportive!

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@@BubblesOhSoSleeved

You learn who is supportive and who has your back in life. Your friends may come back around and change to support you as you progress.

On the flip side...You may encounter people that want to see you fail. You may have to cut off some relationships as you lose weight.

Unfortunately, reading the boards and my own experience, people change around you. Weird that is because of your appearance and choice to be healthy.

@@BubblesOhSoSleeved

You learn who is supportive and who has your back in life. Your friends may come back around and change to support you as you progress.

On the flip side...You may encounter people that want to see you fail. You may have to cut off some relationships as you lose weight.

Unfortunately, reading the boards and my own experience, people change around you. Weird that is because of your appearance and choice to be healthy.

Thank you, I've already lost one friendship but my bff I know she won't change she just doesn't like the idea of my letting someone cutting on me. It's more concern than jealousy.

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@@BubblesOhSoSleeved

I understand her concern. It's the fear of what may happen under the knife. You don't need her approval. It would have been nice since she is your bff. Hang on for the ride. You never know about relationships.

My bff disagrees that it's just the easy way out. But she came around and realizes it's my choice. No one understands what your going through except you! The expense of health insurance visits and prescriptions is something no one else knows until they experience it!