Had a REALLY bad day yesterday

[fancypants67 162]

So yesterday was HORRIBLE. I had my first major setback since my surgery on 08/23. I found out yesterday my father, who told me he had "a little cancer on his tongue" actually has stage 4 cancer in his lymph nodes and he is NOT doing well. He lives in New York and I live in California...so being there for him is difficult. I AM going back next week to see him, but yesterday after I found out, I had a day FULL of emotional eating. I feel SO GUILTY. I have been doing so well...but yesterday was awful. I had 3 Krispy Kreme donuts and 6 Oreos and my Protein Shake. That's all I ate all day...but it was just straight CARBS and SUGAR. It's depressing when you see progress and think you have this whole thing licked then the "trigger" occurs. Anyway, thank you all for listening and letting me vent...i just feel so horrible and guilt ridden.

[KristenLe 5,979]

@@fancypants67 I'm sorry to hear about your Dad. That has to be a horrible feeling - especially when you're so far away. Don't beat yourself up about the slip up - just get back on track and find other ways to deal with stress, etc. Prayers to you and your Dad!!!

[Valentina 2,642]

Prayers going up for you and your father---if you think an offered prayer might help.

This is my mantra:

"Yesterday was the past."

"Tomorrow is a goal yet to be reached".

"Today is called, "The Present" because it is a GIFT. We get to "open" it new every day and make it our own.

Leave the past behind, look forward to the future and being able to "be there" for you father, but for today--concentrate on the Lord's gift to you----The Present.

Make the most of what you have and the least of what you haven't.

Be kind to yourself. Listen to your sleeve. It will help you get through if you learn to listen to and work with it.

Take the time to take a deep breath, pause and THEN step off into your future.

PS: I live in Upstate NY. If there is any way that I can help you and/or your father do NOT hesitate to ask.

Again, prayers offered.

[Butterflywarrior 241]

I'm really sorry to hear about your father. That's so depressing and difficult?? I'm terms of your emotional eating, no time for regrets.... you recognize it. You did it but you acknowledge it and now you canake healthy decisions from now on

I also suggest gathering up your emotional help support because your going to need it dealing with your father and managing your triggers for emotional eating.

[fancypants67 162]

Thank you all very much!! and thank you @@Valentina !! My dad is in Buffalo...even tho i'm in Cali, it will always be home and I will always be an Easterner! Prayers always help and are always appreciated. :-)

It was so weird not having cravings and eating right...then in one day it all imploded. I thought I had it under control but obviously I still have work to do and REALLY need to come to terms with my Emotional Eating.

[Leather'nLace 187]

I'm so sorry. Don't beat yourself up. Easier said than done, I know. Get back on your bike and keep peddling.

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[Browneyedgirl41 176]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. My mom was diagnosed with ovarian cancer recently and had her first chemo treatment yesterday. I sat through it with her- 3.5 hours. I am glad you'll be able to see your dad soon.

As for the setback, who can blame you? You'll get back on track. I just know it. xo

[Dashofpixiedust8 1,469]

I am so sorry to hear about your fathers health. I can't even imagine how you are feeling. I bet I would have slipped up too! Don't beat yourself up!! It was one day in a lifetime of change. As long as it doesn't then become a week, or month, just put it behind you. Today is a new day where you can make new choices. I'll be thinking of you and your family!

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