Just taking a moment to vent! I have a neighbor who really is just a wretched human being. Hubby and I have called the cops on this woman a few times for physically threatening me, but they say they can't do anything unless it's physical. I call bull on that but anyhoo. This lovely woman has now taken to oh so noncreative insults. I'm 9 months post RNY. I've lost 120 lbs. I still have a ways to go but man I'm stoked. Well this chick apparently can't tell the difference between Water and a slurpee. Sure as shoot, every time I come home from work she comments about how happy she is I got myself another slurpee. Folks, it's a clear Tervis tumbler with WATER! She also enjoys telling me that she knows what it's like to wake up with twinkies on her pillow (hence the Twinkie twit). Here are my main things, because I'm truly more amused by her comments that upset.

1: It's the "easy" way out. Don't like someone? Comment on their appearance. That'll show them! If it weren't for her letting me know I'm fat (still am no shame here) then how would I ever know?! I swear I went to sleep last night a "normal" BMI! Thank goodness she told me so I can get to the bottom of this!

2: I would much rather still have the 120 lbs I lost than be so negative. If fat is the worst thing someone can come up with than I think I'm doing alright. There are so many worse qualities people can have than excess weight.

3: I don't even know this woman's name. Despite living next door she's a stranger. Why in the world would her opinion mean anything? Yes, I'm taking time to talk about it, but more because I'm tired of "you're fat" being the go to insult. It's old, it's tired, and you're not telling me anything I don't already know.

Sorry this was long (but not sorry because I feel better )!

I agree with @@Havasumoma, being sweet is the opposite of the reaction they want from you. When you get home and she comes outside to try and taunt you just give her the biggest smile you can and a really enthusiastic wave and show her the beautiful person you are. This will really p*** her off!

Before I lost weight , some people called me fat. I proved I could lose weight however as I always said, you can't cure stupid

OMG!! Something is wrong with her! A reaction is what she wants but why not give her one that maybe she doesn't expect?.......Maybe have a full blown breakdown in your front yard?.....cry, fall on the ground, moan, cry out that you thought you were finally getting rid of the weight........ Have your husband play apart, he can come running and sit on the ground with you with your head in his lap begging you to be alright.....really give her a show! ..hahaha....and by all means video it if possible because me for one would love to be able to see her reaction! haha

I would fill the tumbler with crushed ice and crystal light so it looks like a Slurpee. Then I would get an empty Twinkies box and carry it in the house each night.

Tell her you are so glad you took the easy way out because dieting was too hard.

by the way, you can sue people for excessive emotional distress...record everything...find out first your states requirements..some states dont allow you to record people without their knowledge to use in court and some do....Maine only requires one person to have knowledge of a recording... audio record and or video record everything...get copies of police reports also...there should be a law against criminal threatening....??? i would talk to a lawyer...first consult is usually free.

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@Hadenough2. Not every indignity is worthy of a lawsuit. Sometimes ignoring her like she was invisible is the best solution.

@@LPNAshley have you tried just telling her to F*ck off.... that normally works for me

What a kook

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Get creative! Stock up on Halloween masks and have friends come over to do the occasional random silent skit in the front yard, it will make your neighbors scratch their heads. There is a band you can find on Apple tunes called South Kitsap Infidels and the have a metal tune called "Hit my neighbor with a Stick" and I have found the entire album wonderful for pissing off my neighbors while I clean my house with my music cranked, when the cops come (they will be called) I just let them know that I have a hearing disability and that I was not aware it was so loud. I enjoy talking to my grandma about all of her various ailments loudly from my front porch. The point is to behave that you are oblivious to their rudeness, and that you are oblivious to your ability to annoy them. I even went as far as to put up a Canadian flag ( my family is Canadian, I live in the US) this made my neighbor spit fire, she wanted to literally start a fight because I am an immigrate in her eyes so I offered her some delicious maple Cookies along with the other neighbors who had gathered to watch the confrontation. When she asks about my weight loss I told her that I started a new multi marketing pyramid scheme that I would love to tell her about. I always smile and give her sideways answers. She is now looking to put her house up for sale.

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@Hadenough2. Not every indignity is worthy of a lawsuit. Sometimes ignoring her like she was invisible is the best solution.

all depends if it is an occasional occurance or if someone has gone out of their way to try to destroy you to the point of a nervous breakdown for years..i have had it happen to me and though my attorney at the time drew up paperwork for me, i didn't go there as i didn't want to cause pain on my children. I had someone torment me through the legal system for years, i had enough proof that he did so just to inflict stress and pain on me, which is why my attorney drew up the paperwork. my abuser was fortunate that i love my kids more than myself.

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