Hi Everyone,

I am having a miserable time with everything in my life EXCEPT weight loss. Just feel like I want to vent:

I am losing so much hair. Globs falling out daily. I will be bald by Christmas at this rate. Actually, I have been losing hair since I was banded 17 months ago. They tested my blood a few months ago and said I was really healthy and do not have Vitamin deficiencies. I'm taking Vitamins but I think it is the stress thats doing me in.

My business is tanking. I lost 7 deals over the last 3 weeks and I have no income coming in over the next 8 weeks. Very depressing.

My inlaws are not doing well. Went to FL and my father in law (who has Parkinsons) is falling down regularly and my mother in law needs back surgery. She can no longer take care of him, but they refuse to see the logic of coming here to TX. Cant help them now.

My relationship is still vicarious. My husband is a great guy, but he has a major ADD issue and started taking meds about three weeks ago. I am still waiting for them to start working. He forgets everything and it really affects our relationship since i have to remind him of everything all the time. The medicine is making him moody as well, so thats another issue. I really cant get the support I need there and have so little to offer him since I am emotionally and physically drained.

My house is for sale and it hasnt sold in 6 months. Got a new realtor who informed us the value has decreased by 25K in the last 6 months as well due to Delta layoffs and excess inventory in our price range. We are buidling a new house closer to my son's school which is 35 miles each way everyday. Total 75 miles and costing us 2 hours a day in travel.

I keep trying to tell myself I have my health, my children are healthy and we have a roof over our head and food on our table, but all I feel is doom and gloom about our financial future. I feel like I dont have anyone to talk to and I even stopped seeing my therapist a few weeks ago. I stopped going to the gym. i am pretty old school about meds. I dont want to take an antidepressant (never have) but a bottle of wine is looking good right now...

I need some stress relief and the nacho chips are calling me..... I have never used food for emotional reasons, (I was just a volume eater) but I can now see how this could happen to someone if they got really depressed. I am tired of always having to be the strong person in my relationship and I am spreading myself too thin now with the extra holiday stress as well.

OK, I purged...... Thanks for listening.

Babs in TX

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Babs- I am just now reading this thread. (((hugs)))to you!!! I can certainly understand your frustrations and I am glad you were able to atleast let it out so that we can all be here for you. I wanted to let you know that MY hair has been falling out for the past 2 years. My husband felt like it was stress/I thought maybe thyroid/at any rate-I started using a generic Rogain from Walmart 2 1/2 months ago. It's only $19 for a three month supply. My hair is really coming back! Good luck to you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Babs, I hope you are feeling a little better. It sounds pretty overwhelming for you. Holiday stress sure doesn't help. Take care.

Babs,

I'm with Zoe, some folks simply don't have the chemicals in their brains to fight the depression. If you were a diabetic, would you have a problem with insulin? All I know is if it were not for anti-depressants, I may not be alive today. I'm certain that if I were alive, I certainly would not be where I am today. The stigma attached to them is totally unwarranted. There is great strength in admitting and addressing our weakness. I really hope things turn around for you soon!

Leatha

I agree 100%! And to also say that using these med's can be for a short term use. Who said you had to take this stuff for years? Sometimes we just need a little help to get over the big hole in the road - then once we are on the other side, we are fine!

I read this post yesterday and didnt have time to respond. Funny thing is that as many threads as Ive read in the past - there are very few that I think about once I log off, and Ive thought alot about this one!

I dont really have any valuable 2 cents to add, but just to say that there are others out there in the same boat... me included. Some days I think less of our struggles then other days.

Money, Money, Money... cant live with out it! I rate it up there next to oxygen!

I try to remind myself often that money problems ARE fixable. In all honesty, this is true. Although it may take us 100 years to get to that point.

Just try to find some "peace" in the midst of these trials.

And count your blessings instead of your misfortunes (Im actually telling this to myself). It could be worst

Babs, maybe you should talk to a wig shop just because they are probably the most knowledgeable when it comes to hair loss? They might be able to give you better information than a doctor. Sometimes we get diagnosed in the strangest places (remember, I'm the one that saw my cat's vet for my port infection.) And I didn't mean the head-shaving comment. I just re-read what I wrote and it sounds really bad now. You know I didn't mean it that way. I hope it wasn't offensive.

Hi Again,

Lisa: I wasnt offended at all. I have a warped sense of humour. Thanks to all who gave me some great advice.

I am off to the doc this morning for my tests. I will keep in touch with everyone once I have more information!!!!!!

Babs in TX