Grr. Ok so why it it that because you are fat you are supposed to o i dont know..STUFF your freaking face at the sight of food?

I go out with a guy friend and I am not filled at the time we went out and I just order a side salad..mostly bc Im cheap, but also bc im on a diet..anyways he looks at me like Im crazy and is like arent you gonna order more, why arent you eating youre gonna get hungry in a while yada yada..Im like what bc I am fat I have to order a 3 course meal and than stab a hunk of food off your plate and stuff it down my throat? O I also have a ready supply of candy bars in my purse and 8 flavors of ice cream in my fridge. Give me a freaking break!!!! Excuse me while I order three cakes..grr.. Just cause im fat doesnt mean Im a freaking heifer!! I dont eat an insane amount of food, before or after my band...

THEN another thing. Why are we defined by our weight...When people dont know your name or are talking to people who dont whys it always That big girl...why cant it be the girl with curly hair thats big..or the curly hair with glasses thats big..why does it always start with big? Like youve seen one big girl, Youve seen them all!!

One last thing..why does it cost more to dress nice if youre big?! Im sorry but its not that much extra fabric!

grr

Swimmer, your mother sounds unsupportive. A lot of us who post here have had similar experiences with their own families. Congratulations on getting the band.

Thanks and she is she is tiny so she doesnt know how it feels to be bigger haaaaaa but its all good NOW

On the flip side...

To your first, I would question anyone who only ordered a side salad. I would be concerned that they didn't feel well, or maybe needed to borrow money but didn't want to ask, or didn't like the restaurant we had gone to. It matters not if they're fat, thin, or anything in between. I think sometimes we expect certain reactions, and find them even when they aren't there.

To your second, IMO, because it's an easily identifiable physical characterisitc. Especially if being stated by two non-fat people. I am fat, and I have red curly hair. Both are physical traits, and for me, equally likely to narrow down a group of people to just me. Why would "the one who's overweight?" bother you more than "the shorter one" or "the black one"? People tend to go for the characteristic that's most obvious and least like themselves (unless it's exactly like themselves, because then they can make an easy comparison statement such as, "like mine but a little shorter" or "about this same color").

As to the third, my firm belief is because they can.