So i was told after your surgery theirs a big boost of confidants......Is this true?

When you lose, yes. However, some people get depressed or were already suffering from depression before the surgery.

If you follow the program then most people get a boost in confidence when they see the weight falling off.

So i was told after your surgery theirs a big boost of confidants......Is this true?

Yes, it is possible. But humans are very complex creatures

Are you working with a counselor or therapist? Many folks find that it helps to have professional deal with many of the emotional and social changes after surgery.

Oh okay I didn't have vsg surgery yet I'm in the beginning stages

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In the first few weeks you will likely be miserable and depressed, but once you start losing weight and feeling human again, it will boost your confidence for sure. You will ultimately feel healthier, more active, strong, and more attractive, assuming you don't have legitimate underlying issues with depression.

Once you lose that first thirty pounds, it becomes easier to believe that maybe just maybe this surgery thing is going to work. Most human beings are no damn good, and you will find this out post-op by the stupid things they say about your weight loss and the fact that you are achieving it with surgical intervention. But you won't really care, because you are starting to physically feel better, too.

So, what the mean people are saying doesn't jive with what you are knowing and feeling. It becomes easier to speak up for yourself. You begin to realize what intense control people had over you because of your weight and shyness, and you don't like it. Kinda like, "I am mad as hell and I am not going to take this anymore!"

It's ok to get mad, because once you get mad, you start to realize that there are other things you would rather think, do, say, eat, wear and watch on TV besides what others have had control over.

You realize that since you now have control over your weight, you should have control over all of these other aspects of your life, too. Getting healthy not only re-sets your body systems, it re-sets your mind. Others around you may not like it that they are losing a chump that they could run over, but oh well. Happy, healthy, and "in charge" will be your new normal.

I found music to be helpful- no, seriously! I have been walking like crazy since I got home from the hospital. For the first two days just up and down the street. Then I ventured around the block. And then you could not stop me! I blew a crap-ton of money on the best walking shoes I could find (Brooks), queued up some new playlists that made me want to move ( I'm a product of the 80's music scene so there is a lot of culture club lol ) and I have found that the two have me happier then ever.

You WILL get moody- about a week or two out. That's hormones talking sweetie. Tons stored in fat cells that are being released into you blood system. Hello! PMS on steroids. My oldest son got the brunt of it one day and there was NO controlling me lol. Fortunately, I went for a walk, calmed down and apologized ad nauseum. That too passes!

The confidence comes from within! Embrace the changes, the stalls, the feelings- all of it.

And btw- good luck!