So am 5 days out and I feel great thank god.

But I am so pissed off at my husband I think I may just kill him jk. Since my surgery all he has done is eat burgers and anything fast food he can find that is junk food and not only does he do that but he does it right in front of me. In a away it seems as though he is rubbing it in my face, and is funny because he normally doesn't eat fast food 5days in a row but now is like all gates open.

I know I made the decision to have the sleeve for myself and no one else and is not that I want to eat the burgers but is my head is telling me "damn if I can only have that right now". And I thought since I asked him before the surgery to not eat things in front of me for a while that he understood what I was asking of him. Am just angry at a man who clams he is being supportive and is doing this.

I just need some advice or anyone who went through this and how they dealt with the temptation to eat when seeing someone eat in front of you.

This thread is great for the newbies that are recently post dealing with this kind of issue. I think all of us talked to our SO and hoped the "got it". Some do, some don't. Keep talking, use the thread hear as a reason to bring it up - even if the are being angels and not tempting you with food.

I am one of the lucky ones, hubby has ate a lot better with me from the start. I never had the "don't eat in front of me conversation" with him or adult son. They ate as usual, I just ate (drank) what I was supposed to and moved on. My soft food started day 3, so I was eating yogurt, scrambled eggs, etc when they were eating KFC, burgers, hotdogs, etc.

We were living in a RV for the first 2 weeks post so we were eating 'easy' meals. I did my pre-op/post-op in a 25' RV with food cooked on the grill or quick cook type meals. Maybe that's why it was easier on me. I also staying moving and wouldn't stay around the food

Sounds like a jealous punk. No offense.

I'm sorry you feel like you aren't being supported I worry a lot about my hubby not being as helpful as I need as I get started on my journey. I had a big conversation with him on why I wanted to do it, that I'd need his support, etc etc and his response was literally "OK". That's it. I mean, I guess it's better than no response (which is what I got when I brought it up 2 years ago). But I put a lot of thought and research into this before I decided on actually going through with it, so I think I was hoping for more. Eh.

I hope things improve for you!

Oh how I hate the "OK" after telling him how you feel about something! And when you ask what does "OK" mean, all you yet is it "it means I get it" lol men we really are not from the same planet.

I hope you do get the support you need and that it all works out for you too.

P.S. Tell me you are Canadian we need to be friends? ????

I'm sorry you feel like you aren't being supported I worry a lot about my hubby not being as helpful as I need as I get started on my journey. I had a big conversation with him on why I wanted to do it, that I'd need his support, etc etc and his response was literally "OK". That's it. I mean, I guess it's better than no response (which is what I got when I brought it up 2 years ago). But I put a lot of thought and research into this before I decided on actually going through with it, so I think I was hoping for more. Eh.

I hope things improve for you!

Oh how I hate the "OK" after telling him how you feel about something! And when you ask what does "OK" mean, all you yet is it "it means I get it" lol men we really are not from the same planet.

I hope you do get the support you need and that it all works out for you too.

P.S. Tell me you are Canadian we need to be friends?

Not Canadian, but geographically close (I'm in New Hampshire, about 4 hours south of the border).

Men really do see things differently. I just hope I get more feedback later in the process and he's willing to help me when I need it.

I'd simply go over to him, sit by his side, reach over and take his burger - then I'd lick the entire outside of it.

As I set it down and walked away, I'd tell him that you aren't able to eat like that anymore and his eating it front of you is as considerate as what you just did. That'll be the last time you have that discussion

I have found through my many, many years on this planet that most men suffer from "HGS"--Hanging Genitalia Syndrome.

Gravity is the cause. Over years, gravity's force pulls on the male hanging genitalia, which in turns pulls on all other cells of the body--mostly certainly the BRAIN.

Years and years of this constant downward pull of a man's brain cells damages them and the brain cells rot and die.

This makes any intellectual thinking almost impossible. Also lost is attention span and most if not all romantic sensibilities.

So, my female friends. Remember and try to be compassionate with the men in your lives. The "clods" that they can be at times is not all of their own doing...

IT'S GRAVITY!