Hello, I realized based on the post of the weekend I need to stick to posting things that are more in line with why I am on BP. With that said I that I would create post that could spark interesting dialogue. Or at least that is my hope. With that said, here I go.

I watch large amounts of youtube videos. One channel I follow is clusie l. She has VSG and is three years out. Recently she posted a video discussing the idea that when a person, read woman, is obese that certain aspects of her personality maybe overshadowed by the extra weight. I found this to be interesting. I spent sometime pondering if this is/will be true of me. I feel it is a little to soon for me to really tell, but my guess would be no.

Again the title is what y'all think? A link to the video is below. Was this your experience?

https://youtu.be/8XBZ0KVx_H4

I guess I understand some of what she is saying. The weight can put up walls in certain areas, I think you are who your are and with WLS you can grow by pursuing some things that maybe you were afraid to or physically unable to.

Maybe I'm just too new and some of the comments seemed true but flippant. But I also understood her comment to her friends that she was always this stylish person, she just gets to act on it more now.

Maybe I'm projecting my fear of forgetting where I come from, I don't want to take for granted the struggle and become the girl who start to judge someone else's condition or journey.

Thank you for sharing, still got me thinking and I will try some of her other videos.

I have followed her since before I had surgery. Her videos about surgery early on helped me. Now what she talks more about her life and not surgery, I am not as interested as I was.

Anyway, I think people get bogged down in certain aspects of who they are and blame all their problems on it.

I have s ok many standard deviations that I could blame problems on.

Fat

Nerd

Geek

Black

Curly hair

Odd family makeup

And the list goes on. In the end everyone has the same issues for the most part regardless, some people just can't see past themselves to realize it.

It's like women who think they can't find or keep a decent man because they are fat. Okay, what is Halle Berry's excuse then? Beautiful thin women have the same problems that fat women have.

People look for excuses to their problems instead of accepting their reality.