Ok so, my husband loves me n how I am now but I wonder how it will be after surgery? I think about this a lot. I mean yes he's attracted to me n we are great now but is he gonna live me more or like me better if I'm smaller?!?

If so, did that mean he didn't love me the real way to begin with or just something new? Just wondering...how did things change after weight loss n your husbands towards you?

I think I will feel more attractive and be more outgoing I just wonder how the men in our lives handle the new us so to speak.

And so its out there, my husband says he loves me the way I am and wants this for me as long as I want this, he is supporting me and that's what matters.

Edited December 3, 201510 yr by betterme38

I think a strong marriage will just get stronger.

I have been married for 24 years and my sweet husband has loved me through big and small. I was 105 pounds when we meet years ago. My highest weight was 271. He was never critical and has always told me how beautiful I am- he may need better glasses!!

The things that have changed was not that he was more attracted to me, but that now we have way more fun!!!

When I was heavy I didn't want to go and do as much. Outdoors activities never happened. I dreaded walking a lot and overall was just plain lazy from hauling all that weight around on my short 5'3" frame... Fast forward to post op.

I now weight 145 and have a zest for life that I have never had before. We have so many new hobbies and are having a blast trying new things. I try to do at least two new things each season. In living outside my comfort zone I have found so many things I love to do; hiking, camping, kayaking, ziplining, paddle boardinging.

So my marriage is just plain fun now!!

Would you still love him before and after? If so, then there's no reason to put the cart before the horse. What will happen will happen. Be happy he's offering his support.

I agree with these ladies, although I'm still pre op. My hubby is very supportive and loves me no matter what. I do think I'll feel so much better about myself and that will lead to a better relationship.

I've been married a long time like @@glitter eyes. I think if you already have a strong marriage, the weight loss just...ahem....enhances it.

If you known what I mean

I am crazy happy he is supporting me n I am still pre-op also hell just actually getting started, I think ahead I worry prilly why I have so many headaches lol.

I was just wondering and more fun with my husband would be great as I am 5-5 1/2 n 312 lbs not doing a lot here either moving wise.

Thank you all for your input it is appreciated and I will forge on ????????

@@Babbs lol yes ik what you mean. My husband and I have been married for 17yrs been together for 21yrs. Thank you all ????????

I agree with the other ladies. It's definitely making my marriage better. Mainly because my confidence has increased. When I feel good about myself it makes me more attractive.

It doesn't mean he loves me anymore or less. He's always loved me and called me beautiful and we have a great marriage. Surgery gave me my confidence back.