I know it sounds crazy, but my family is making feel guilty about getting banded...I feel like this is a cosmetic surgery for me now.... And I in the back of my mind I also know that it may be my only chance to live....Did anyone else struggle with this? any advice would help

I would not feel guilty about this, but I do not really have many close friends that I would tell about this. I plan only to tell one person and he is sworn to silence.

If I didn't need someone to drive me home after surgery, quite frankly, I'd not tell anyone! It is no one's business but mine.

I say go for it! My husband is supportive and apparently the other couple people I've told are also. I've only told my husband, father, sister and a good old friend. I don't really want to tell anyone else. I just want them to think I started losing weight. I don't want to admit that I can't do this by myself, even though I have a coupld of medical conditions that make it extremely difficult to lose weight. I am doing this for my health and so I'll be happier about myself.