I'm 1 week post op. Today was my hubby's birthday and where you'd assume that the struggle was being around celebration with food and cake there was non of that. My sweet husband wanting to keep things easy for me, didn't ask for anything and even took the kids with him to dinner without me so I wouldn't need to watch them eat.

So I've been feeling like a terrible wife because I didn't have any gifts for him (haven't been able to go shopping) and there was no cake, no candles to blow out.

I've cried several times feeling like a failure and my hubby keeps wiping away my tears telling me not to stress about it.

It's been really tough

He sounds like a very supportive and loving husband. You deserve this time to get your strength back, so relax and try not to be so hard on yourself. You'll be back up and around soon.

Don't worry, you will make it up to him a thousand times over once you are better and healthier! Let him spoil you right now and appreciate every minute of it! Better, healthier times will come my friend!

How are you feeling Nessa?

I love @@DEArgentina's advice! Let him spoil you and then you spoil him right back when you're ready! It will be even better and sweeter! <3

Message. I know exactly how you feel. My DH had his birthday the day before my surgery. We had to travel to the hospital for a few hours and what with nerves and second thoughts ( not much) and just trying to remember everything.... my poor Johnny got left behind.

He was so strong for me. Bless his heart.

A couple weeks later I made his favorite. Fresh blackberry pie.

I am 5 days post op and still working on getting in protein. I do good to hit 60 right now. I was so bloated from the surgery and the air they pump in that I just got back to pre surgery weight yesterday. Due to the bloated feeling I am able to get down about 2 1/2 oz every 2 hours.