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I haven't told many people about my surgery, maybe less than 5. I always get comments about my weight but does anyone ever get annoyed by some of the things people say?

Someone literally asked if I was ok, like sick.. ill...

Other people straight out ask me how much weight I've lost or say wow you look like a complete different person did your doctor put you on a diet?

Wtf!

I know my NSV's and the way I feel outweigh it all but those little comments really irk me!

I'm an introvert there is no way I'm going to tell someone an exact number as to what I've lost.

Sorry guys for the long rant! :) I do feel so good though!!

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It is unusual to lose a lot of weight very quickly. It's not something we see every day. Just chalk it up to concern/care/ curiosity. You don't have to respond with anything but politeness.

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It's time to start enjoying this! Just smile that big pretty, CONFIDENT smile, say "thanks for noticing" and be on your merry way! It doesn't have to go further than that. If they continue to persist, tell them you have to be somewhere, do something..... you just CAN'T be bothered!!!! LOVE IT!

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I think some people just do not have a lot of tact. I did not keep my surgery a secret so I don't get the "are you sick comments".

However, some people ask how much I have lost or how much I weigh. Those nosy comments don't bother me. What really gets on my nerves is when someone says,"wow, your husband must be really happy now." For some reason that drives me crazy. I always say that I pride myself in being blessed with a marriage that is wonderful and happy no matter what. I try to keep in mind that the people who say that have probably never had a relationship based on unconditional love.

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I feel same way, my weight & loss is private to me, I would never tell anyone how much I've lost. It's a personal accomplishment to me, I get kind of embarrassed when ppl comment. Ppl will all out ask 'how much have you lost', and I just try to remember so many ppl are open books and will tell everybody everything, so it seems like a normal question to them. I just say thanks!

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3 ppl no how much in numbers Iv lost ..anymore I just smile and say another person..my weight is not up for discussion and smile..

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