So I kept my surgery a secret. I wasn't ashamed but I just didn't want to deal with the people that didn't understand. So many people think it's the easy way out.

Well I had a close friend confront me about my weight loss. She said she "figured" it out. I told her the truth but now she isn't talking to me and said I was a liar...along with some other hurtful things. It's been a month and she has all but written me off. I'm having a hard time shaking it off. It really upsets me. Anyone else have friends turn on you?

You aren't a liar or a monster. Surgery is private and you don't owe anyone an explanation! If she was a true friend she would have been supportive. You deserve better and don't let anyone get you down. Congrats on your weight loss and best of luck to you on your journey!

Nicole

Hi, it sounds like she is hurt that you didn't confide in her about your plans. She may be scared you are changing without her. However, it gives her no right to be rude and hateful especially in this very personal decision you have made to better your health and life. Be confident in your decision, make new friends and enjoy a healthier new you - you will be happier for it. You are a great person, a person who is looking after your own welfare, being your own advocate - it doesn't get much better than that!