I have been reading posts on here well before my surgery which was on Oct 27th 2014, and reading and posting on here since my surgery. I come across posts that have people struggling and when I read that they have no support system, or barely any support at home it really upsets me.

This is such a HUGE life change I could not imagine going thru this without my support system. I try to get on here and post where I can hoping to make a difference, because I know first hand how just one comment or compliment or Way To Go, can go a long way.

I know how lucky I am. My husband and daughter support me 110% in this journey and have since day one. My parents have also been supportive and very positive. I have friends that encourage me and help me where and when they can. Even my coworkers have been great. I haven't run into one person who has said a negative thing to me yet. (well at least to my face, you never know behind my back, but I would hope not.)

it is just so hard for me to read when people are struggling and the people in their lives that should be lifting them up and helping seem to be tearing them down. That is what I LOVE about this site. I love the help, the encouragement, the advice, and the YOU CAN DO IT attitude. We all struggle no matter how well you are doing. I just want to reach thru this computer and HUG them.

Please for those of us that have done well or are doing well please please continue to post to help out those that need it. Our positive posts can really help you never know who you might be making a difference to at any time.

For anyone struggling be strong, I am not a very strong person, I have always had people to depend on and that made me nervous going into this, but I have found I can do this and you can too!!

And for all you looking into this, starting your journey, remember this site can be helpful and there seems to always be someone here when you need them. No question is stupid, your feelings matter!!

Okay sorry this is so long, but I just had to get that out.

Thanks to all who have supported me with your kind words and encouragement!! And even when it sounds like someone might giving you tougher love than you would like, remember they did take the time to comment and try to help!!!

Good luck everyone!!!!

Very sweet post.

This forum is exactly the place to come when you are tired of being strong.

Nice post. Thank you.

Thank you! Sometimes we just need someone to hear us. Not to "fix" everything, but just to listen and to care, even just a little.

I just want to say that I really appreciated this post. My husband accepted a new job in June of this year that moved us from North Carolina to California in August.

We were already engaged, but we moved our wedding up several months since I would be quitting my full time job for the move and insurance is a necessity.

In the matter of six days I quit my job, sold my car, got married, and moved across the country leaving all of my family and friends behind. I had never been further west than Ohio before in my life.

I had already been planning my WLS journey before this, but it's been very hard on top of the homesickness. My husband is very supportive as are my family and friends from home, but I'm still less than two weeks out, this was my first Christmas away from my family and some days I'd really rather be drinking that Protein shake with my mom in my parents' bed while the two of us watch HGTV.

So, yeah, another long (and somewhat off topic) post, but this made me feel a lot better. Thank you.

Edited December 27, 201411 yr by wicked_ash

Great post - Thank you

I just want to say that I really appreciated this post. My husband accepted a new job in June of this year that moved us from North Carolina to California in August.

So, yeah, another long (and somewhat off topic) post, but this made me feel a lot better. Thank you.

Hi wicked_ash I can totally relate to your post. It will be 12 this coming April but I too had moved clear across the country from NY to AZ because of my husbands job. It was a super tough move for me to leave all my friends and family. I had a rough go at it in the beginning (I also had a 4yr old daughter). I am pretty sure the move attributed to me putting back on previous weight I had lost.

I'm so glad to hear your hubby is supporting you. Give yourself some more time believe me, in a few more weeks you will be feeling great. You have to know how strong you are to have done all you have done in the last 6 months!!

Here's to a GREAT 2015 for us both!!!!!

Thank you for your post! I agree and am so thankful for this site! Although, my husband and children are emotionally supportive of me, they have no idea what I'm going through or how to help when I have questions so I really rely on the posts, advice, and encouragement I get from all of you. It truly has been a life saver Have a wonderful, blessed 2015!

My mum is really supportive and has been with me since I decided on having the surgery. This is a learning curve for her also and I think I need to remember that more!

I have told 4 friends. 3 are super supportive and 1, not so much - jealousy issues there. We have always been overweight together but now Im changing that.

My sister... supportive in beginning but then the other day asked me to go buy pizza and when I said no she got mad at me. Go figure right.

I just had surgery because I am obese and she wants to send me into a pizza shop 11 days post op!

Ahhh well. Haha.

Good for you for standing your ground. Bariatric surgery will not only help you lose weight, it will also expose the dynamics of your relationships. You will find out real quick who are your friends and who are acquaintences.