My Gastric Roux En Y was in October of 2010. I lost 115 pounds. Then i moved from california to utah to get married. I was 153 pounds when i married. then slowly creeped on 23 pounds. I will be 54 years this december. I have had so much stress. my husband is wonderful. I have even went on depression medicine for a while and then gained some from that.. so i took myself off. i am battleing carbs going through menopause,and am naughty on my exercise. I guess i was spoiled how easy it was at first. my nightmare is to gain it back. please are there any motivational hypnosis tapes or something out there to blast me with motivation???? Please help me with what vitamins to take and how much. ive lost my way.

Teatime4me,

Hello. I wanted to offer some encouragement. I have found in my own experiences that things are never as dark as our minds make us think. Strenthen your mind and you'll find the willpower to push on. A neat trick is to write yourself positive notes and post them around your home. Post things like "I'm ok", "It's not as bad as I think", "It gets better, a minute at a time". Imagine thoughts that make you feel good about yourself. Write them down and tack them above the headboard on your bed, tape them to the bathroom mirror, put them under a magnet on the fridge.

You stated you have a wonderful husband. Remind yourself of that by making that one of the notes you place around the home. I've even taped encouragements on the rearview mirror of my car.

I hope this helps. Hang in there, as the saying goes. It almost always gets better. Trust that it will.

My Gastric Roux En Y was in October of 2010. I lost 115 pounds. Then i moved from california to utah to get married. I was 153 pounds when i married. then slowly creeped on 23 pounds. I will be 54 years this december. I have had so much stress. my husband is wonderful. I have even went on depression medicine for a while and then gained some from that.. so i took myself off. i am battleing carbs going through menopause,and am naughty on my exercise. I guess i was spoiled how easy it was at first. my nightmare is to gain it back. please are there any motivational hypnosis tapes or something out there to blast me with motivation???? Please help me with what vitamins to take and how much. ive lost my way.

Where is California did you move from and what part of Utah are you in? I moved to Utah from California a little over a year ago.

This may or may not be something you would be interested in, but I am in a similar place. Struggling to make good decisions, allowing old habits to rear their ugly heads (candy all the time!). I started Ideal Protein at the end of May and one month in, I've lost over 10 pounds. I am slowly but surely getting back on track. IP helps me because it is high protein, encourages taking all the right Vitamins, and has me drinking Water again vs. diet soda. I thought it would be difficult but it has been a blessing. I feel amazing and I feel in control again. If at all possible for you, I would highly recommend it.

Also, I just wanted to point out that even though you've gained and it feels horrible, you have still done so well! Look at how much smaller you STILL are. Congratulations on finding a wonderful husband. I wish you the best!