Hi I've done all my preops

Started in February and had a surgery date in October

but backed out from nerves.

Now I have a date of Dec 12 and I'm ready to back out again !! I am so undecided , I cannot make up my mind! Driving myself crazy!

Here's a little about my situation ...

I'm in a very bad marriage of 18 yrs that is on the verge of ending but we are living together for our. 3 kids , on top of that husband is non supportive of surgery. I've already lost 1/2 my hair during the past 10 yrs and Drs. still trying to figure out why. I am extremely attached to the hair I have left which I may lose if I have this surgery. I'm scared if I have complications my husband will bail on me, since he's already said he wants to separate although he says to go do it if I want and that he's not in a rush to divorce yet. I am completely dependent on him as a home maker with 3 kids, I'm worried I may regret the surgery but I've tried for 20 yrs to lose this weight with no success.

So I know I need this drastic change but it seems my situation says damned if I don't damned if I do!

Please I really need some sound advise without criticism , I'm already pretty down. Thank you in advance for your input .

Now more than ever - you should focus on and take care of yourself. Do what you need to do for your future.

Please don't back out. This surgery will change your life for the better. Your health is what you need to focus on. Because, if you aren't healthy, you can't be there for your kiddos. Do this for you. I know it's hard and stressful to think about the "what-ifs" with your husband. But it sounds as if he is not supportive because he's afraid you WILL change. And leave him behind. And you know what, that's on him. You will not regret this surgery. Yes, it's hard. Yes, it takes all of your will and strength to keep going in the beginning. BUT! There is a light and it's your future! That person you see in the mirror, won't be the same person you see in the mirror in six months! She will be healthier, stronger and she will have her hair. Just follow your protein guidelines and take Biotin. And eat Great Lakes gelatin. It works, I'm proof! Please don't back out! You're future is waiting on you. *hugs!*

Agree with vsgann completely. Do the surgery get yourself a good hat and lawyer.

Did you ever consider that the hair loss is due to stress of your situation ?