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New here, waiting on a surgery date.

I can't believe I'm actually doing this! I'm nervous, scared... scared of failing. I've never succeeded at weight loss anything. I hope this works. I'm desperate.

Hoping to find friends and support here. :)

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  • I felt the same way after being obese for 28 years (since my first pregnancy). I was miserable and desperate. A lifetime of being obese and eating badly was beginning to affect my health (metabolic sy

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    Thanks terry1118 for sharing brings me hope

  • Thank you. :-). I'm 15 months out and still in the 'honeymoon stage' - that first 18 months when the most weight is lost. I'm nervous about after but my team says if you continue to make wise choices

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Welcome! If you've come this far you have checked many boxes to get to a point to wait for a surgery date! I have my appointment with the surgical director Wed to find out if I will allowed. I took a little break from the program but decided to continue. I am still well under the 8% weight loss I needed to qualify so I'm hoping for the best. Then, insurance is the next hurdle. I am in so much pain in both my feet I really hope I get a date! I really think positive thinking is key. If you get the bypass and believe you will be successful, that is half the battle :o

Glad you're here! Losing weight was never a problem for me, but KEEPING it off sure was hard lol

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Thank you Chrystine! Fingers crossed you're able to get approved by insurance!

Thank you walking_one. Same for me. I can lose it. It just comes back and then some.

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Agree spelmanite10. I feel like I've learned more from this site than my own dr. Can't wait to make new friends!

I can't believe I'm actually doing this! I'm nervous, scared... scared of failing. I've never succeeded at weight loss anything. I hope this works. I'm desperate.

Hoping to find friends and support here. :)

I wonder sometimes if I will be successful but then think .....look

at all these people that have been. I just have never been thin so I think I just can't imagine what I will look

like.

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I wonder sometimes if I will be successful but then think .....look

at all these people that have been. I just have never been thin so I think I just can't imagine what I will look

like.

That's exactly how I feel. It's all unimaginable!

I felt the same way after being obese for 28 years (since my first pregnancy). I was miserable and desperate. A lifetime of being obese and eating badly was beginning to affect my health (metabolic syndrome, high cholesterol, back and joint pain, borderline diabetic). I went from a 2X/22-24W to a small/6P. I'm only five feet tall so 240 pounds made me look like a weeble (anyone remember those toys?). My weight has stabilized between 115 and 120. My only goal was to be healthy and be able to live my life instead of watch it go by. At best I hoped for a sz14 or 16. I never in my wildest dream thought I'd ever get smaller than that! It DOES work - how well it works depends on how well you do your part. Making real lifestyle changes and developing good eating habits are the key to keeping it off. Follow your doctor's instructions as closely as possible and you will be successful too!

Thanks terry1118 for sharing brings me hope[/quote

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Thanks terry1118 for sharing brings me hope

I agree. It's reassuring!

I felt the same way after being obese for 28 years (since my first pregnancy). I was miserable and desperate. A lifetime of being obese and eating badly was beginning to affect my health (metabolic syndrome, high cholesterol, back and joint pain, borderline diabetic). I went from a 2X/22-24W to a small/6P. I'm only five feet tall so 240 pounds made me look like a weeble (anyone remember those toys?). My weight has stabilized between 115 and 120. My only goal was to be healthy and be able to live my life instead of watch it go by. At best I hoped for a sz14 or 16. I never in my wildest dream thought I'd ever get smaller than that! It DOES work - how well it works depends on how well you do your part. Making real lifestyle changes and developing good eating habits are the key to keeping it off. Follow your doctor's instructions as closely as possible and you will be successful too!

Thank you for sharing terry1118... You have worked so hard!!!

Thank you. :-). I'm 15 months out and still in the 'honeymoon stage' - that first 18 months when the most weight is lost. I'm nervous about after but my team says if you continue to make wise choices and your lifestyle changes are permanent, you can keep from regaining. Everything they told me has worked up till now so I have no reason to doubt what they say. In all the reading I've done there are many who keep the weight off and they do it by doing what my team has said. Weight loss surgery is only a tool to help us lose. That tool, combined with making smart choices for the rest of our lives is what will ensure our continued success. So, I think the hardest work is yet to come. I am ready for it. I love where I am right now. I NEVER want to go back to the miserable, unhappy life I had before....

Thank you. :-). I'm 15 months out and still in the 'honeymoon stage' - that first 18 months when the most weight is lost. I'm nervous about after but my team says if you continue to make wise choices and your lifestyle changes are permanent, you can keep from regaining. Everything they told me has worked up till now so I have no reason to doubt what they say. In all the reading I've done there are many who keep the weight off and they do it by doing what my team has said. Weight loss surgery is only a tool to help us lose. That tool, combined with making smart choices for the rest of our lives is what will ensure our continued success. So, I think the hardest work is yet to come. I am ready for it. I love where I am right now. I NEVER want to go back to the miserable, unhappy life I had before....

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Hi Brooke,

Thanks for the encouragement! The Director of Surgery approved me yesterday! She said I need to gain a few pounds though because the weight I am at the surgeon's office is the weight sent to my insurance company and despite my pain from plantar faciitis and other issues, because I don't have sleep apnea, high blood pressure or diabetes, I won't get approved with a BMI under 40. First time I have ever been told to gain weight - lol. Hope to meet with the doc who will perform procedure within 2-4 weeks. Didn't think it would take that long but I have waited this long so far!

Hang in there!!

Chrystine

Thank you Chrystine! Fingers crossed you're able to get approved by insurance!
Thank you walking_one. Same for me. I can lose it. It just comes back and then some.

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