We all know that there's a certain stigma attached to having weight loss surgery. That's why a lot of us are very selective of who we tell. So when we do tell someone, we are opening ourselves up...being vulnerable. I would really appreciate a bit of positive feedback.

So why is it that one of the most common reactions is "Oh, I know someone who had that operation...she gained it all back, y'know'.

Like...*flapping my arms in the air here*

Gee thanks...that really boosted my morale.

My whole life, I've been a failure in my battle with obesity. It's not like I haven't tried!! I've worked 100 times harder than most skinny people...I've cried in dressing rooms...I've stayed home due to embarrassment about my body and missed out on a lot of things.

Sure...sure...I'll fail at this too is the message that I'm getting.

Help me out here peeps...I'm going in for a sleeve on August 18th, and I find that lately instead of being excited, I'm scared.

I'm scared I will fail at this too.

@@lastingdreams @@Urbanlamb we all had our surgeries on the 18th!!! And to @@lastingdreams I to compare my numbers when I look at others profiles lol.

So my favorite response from someone when they found out I was having WLS. Is "why don't you just go on the biggest loser or something?" My response "oh I never thought of that" as I walked away..... LOL people are ignorant especially when they have no idea what you are going through.

I think everyone has the fear that they will fail. I do not think like that. I just remind myself that WLS is a tool. It is not a miracle. I am happy. My whole life I would work

Hard and loose a lot of weight. One year I worked hard and I lost 85lbs. I see the sleeve as a tool that will help me control my eating to help me keep the weight off. My nutritionist says it is the tool to help with maintenance.

So do not get discourage. Just think positive!!! This surgery for me is going yo help me get off my blood pressure medicine and save my kidneys.

@@lastingdreams @@Urbanlamb we all had our surgeries on the 18th!!! And to @@lastingdreams I to compare my numbers when I look at others profiles lol.

So my favorite response from someone when they found out I was having WLS. Is "why don't you just go on the biggest loser or something?" My response "oh I never thought of that" as I walked away..... LOL people are ignorant especially when they have no idea what you are going through.

I think my response would have not even been the slightest bit polite....I would have told them ' why don't you just go and ------------ yourself. That is the rudest thing I have ever heard.....

Here is a better reply. I have already been the biggest loser the day I met you. You arse! boy am I steamed over this comment by this fool!

Edited August 27, 201412 yr by RJ'S/beginning

I think my response would have not even been the slightest bit polite....I would have told them ' why don't you just go and ------------ yourself. That is the rudest thing I have ever heard.....

Here is a better reply. I have already been the biggest loser the day I met you. You arse! boy am I steamed over this comment by this fool!

Oh you made me laugh!! *hugs* You're such a darlin'